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30 Sep 2010, 10:12 pm

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Erisad has a point.

I don't think people should think "aspergers" goes with "decent person" or "not a jerk".

Be careful too. I got my email spammed by an aspie male saying he hopes i get beaten up and raped because I didn't want to date him.


...I don't think Toad would do that.


Neither do I, but Toad isn't the only guy here. I don't exchange chat addresses with anyone on here any more because of the stuff your described or them getting all pissy when I don't reply or don't reply fast enough. I really don't like small talk, and that includes in IMs.



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30 Sep 2010, 10:14 pm

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I really was trying to be helpful Erisad. NOT everyone online is a jerk or a bad person. People offline can be real creeps to but there are some good people there but they can be very difficult to find sometimes. I don't blame you for giving up for rite now. Maybe you can focus on other things in your life & things might get better
nick007, you have been unfailingly supportive, it's true.


Are you being sarcastic? I know I've been coming off as a real jerk here but I'm really not trying to be. I think the direct brutal honest approach works better sometimes instead of being sympathetic. Sometimes people get in truts & that's the only way to get a person out of it


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30 Sep 2010, 10:14 pm

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I really was trying to be helpful Erisad. NOT everyone online is a jerk or a bad person. People offline can be real creeps to but there are some good people there but they can be very difficult to find sometimes. I don't blame you for giving up for rite now. Maybe you can focus on other things in your life & things might get better
nick007, you have been unfailingly supportive, it's true.


I know you were nick007, I guess it's some of the wordings you used that set off a hostile reaction on my part. I have been focusing on my studies and club activities and I was hoping to have something that was a bit more rewarding for me. Everything's so stressful that I wish I would have someone to hold me and tell me it's going to be okay. All I have are my stuffed animals to hug at this point and I don't want tear stains to get on them. :cry:



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30 Sep 2010, 10:15 pm

nick007 wrote:
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I really was trying to be helpful Erisad. NOT everyone online is a jerk or a bad person. People offline can be real creeps to but there are some good people there but they can be very difficult to find sometimes. I don't blame you for giving up for rite now. Maybe you can focus on other things in your life & things might get better
nick007, you have been unfailingly supportive, it's true.


Are you being sarcastic?


I don't think so. From your posts i've read you seem to have well adjusted and fair replies to the topics at hand, and i've never seen you be flat out nasty, which most of us are probably guilty of at some stage or another.



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30 Sep 2010, 10:16 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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Erisad has a point.

I don't think people should think "aspergers" goes with "decent person" or "not a jerk".

Be careful too. I got my email spammed by an aspie male saying he hopes i get beaten up and raped because I didn't want to date him.


...I don't think Toad would do that.


Neither do I, but Toad isn't the only guy here. I don't exchange chat addresses with anyone on here any more because of the stuff your described or them getting all pissy when I don't reply or don't reply fast enough. I really don't like small talk, and that includes in IMs.


I like talking with people, I really do. I just don't like that guys assume that I owe them something when they really haven't done anything for me. :/



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30 Sep 2010, 10:17 pm

nick007 wrote:
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I really was trying to be helpful Erisad. NOT everyone online is a jerk or a bad person. People offline can be real creeps to but there are some good people there but they can be very difficult to find sometimes. I don't blame you for giving up for rite now. Maybe you can focus on other things in your life & things might get better
nick007, you have been unfailingly supportive, it's true.


Are you being sarcastic? I know I've been coming off as a real jerk here but I'm really not trying to be. I think the direct brutal honest approach works better sometimes instead of being sympathetic. Sometimes people get in truts & that's the only way to get a person out of it
no, serious. you have been very nice to erisad.


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30 Sep 2010, 10:21 pm

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no, serious. you have been very nice to erisad.


You have been dude. I'm just overwhelmed with everything and am having a difficult time telling who's being hostile and who isn't. It's more of a misinterpretation on my part. D:



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30 Sep 2010, 10:28 pm

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I like talking with people, I really do. I just don't like that guys assume that I owe them something when they really haven't done anything for me. :/


Have I ever assumed that?



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30 Sep 2010, 10:30 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
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I like talking with people, I really do. I just don't like that guys assume that I owe them something when they really haven't done anything for me. :/


Have I ever assumed that?


I think she means those guys who want to come over straight away and want pics etc



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30 Sep 2010, 10:33 pm

Erisad wrote:
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no, serious. you have been very nice to erisad.


You have been dude. I'm just overwhelmed with everything and am having a difficult time telling who's being hostile and who isn't. It's more of a misinterpretation on my part. D:


It's OK. I did get a little upset about this to. I've been true phases before where I constantly complained about being alone & I've thought that no women would ever like me or give me a chance. I haven't done it nearly as much on WP as I have on other sites. I ended up annoying everyone around me & had members petitioning to have me banned on one site & they started flaming all my post. Anyways I really hope you start feeling better about things


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I like talking with people, I really do. I just don't like that guys assume that I owe them something when they really haven't done anything for me. :/


Have I ever assumed that?


I don't think you have Toad but she's been hurt before is not ready to risk getting hurt again. It is nothing about you so don't take it personally


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30 Sep 2010, 10:33 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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I like talking with people, I really do. I just don't like that guys assume that I owe them something when they really haven't done anything for me. :/


Have I ever assumed that?


I think she means those guys who want to come over straight away and want pics etc


Exactly. That wasn't directed at you Toad. :)



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30 Sep 2010, 10:39 pm

nick007 wrote:
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no, serious. you have been very nice to erisad.


You have been dude. I'm just overwhelmed with everything and am having a difficult time telling who's being hostile and who isn't. It's more of a misinterpretation on my part. D:


It's OK. I did get a little upset about this to. I've been true phases before where I constantly complained about being alone & I've thought that no women would ever like me or give me a chance. I haven't done it nearly as much on WP as I have on other sites. I ended up annoying everyone around me & had members petitioning to have me banned on one site & they started flaming all my post. Anyways I really hope you start feeling better about things.


I hope so too. D:



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01 Oct 2010, 9:15 am

Erisad wrote:
Yes because being miserable makes us a perfect match. Can't you see it won't work out? I can because it never does. I'm glad to know my life is such a joking matter. I'm not going to jump in the pants of someone I don't know. I'm tired of people telling me who I need to be with. It's my decision, dammit. f**k it, you guys don't get it at all. :wall:


your reply = definite pre-rejection to TOS without any chance of re-consideration.

TOS is not even the kind of guy who's gonna ask you to jump in his pants ( at least , not before knowing you very very very well).

Not very nice from you to state a such pre-rejection , especially after he stated that he might date you if he knew you in life.


But don't worry, no guy here is dying to date you, including TOS.



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01 Oct 2010, 1:43 pm

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Yes because being miserable makes us a perfect match. Can't you see it won't work out? I can because it never does. I'm glad to know my life is such a joking matter. I'm not going to jump in the pants of someone I don't know. I'm tired of people telling me who I need to be with. It's my decision, dammit. f**k it, you guys don't get it at all. :wall:


your reply = definite pre-rejection to TOS without any chance of re-consideration.

TOS is not even the kind of guy who's gonna ask you to jump in his pants ( at least , not before knowing you very very very well).

Not very nice from you to state a such pre-rejection , especially after he stated that he might date you if he knew you in life.


But don't worry, no guy here is dying to date you, including TOS.


Thanks, I feel so much better about myself. :roll:



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01 Oct 2010, 1:52 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Yes because being miserable makes us a perfect match. Can't you see it won't work out? I can because it never does. I'm glad to know my life is such a joking matter. I'm not going to jump in the pants of someone I don't know. I'm tired of people telling me who I need to be with. It's my decision, dammit. f**k it, you guys don't get it at all. :wall:


your reply = definite pre-rejection to TOS without any chance of re-consideration.

TOS is not even the kind of guy who's gonna ask you to jump in his pants ( at least , not before knowing you very very very well).

Not very nice from you to state a such pre-rejection , especially after he stated that he might date you if he knew you in life.


But don't worry, no guy here is dying to date you, including TOS.

hey, that last part was mean!


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01 Oct 2010, 1:59 pm

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hey, that last part was mean!


True but he's not wrong. No one online or IRL is dying to date me. Why would they? I may as well save them the trouble and wave a big ol' sign above my head that reads, "I'm a giant b***h incapable of having feelings for you!" :/