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18 Nov 2010, 12:36 pm

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Hi Jono. I think it is better. But of the 3, I think number 3 is best choice.

Have you tried that 'best face' thing they do? It's kinda interesting, if a little tedious to compare 100 pairs of photographs.


I could try the best face thing. Moog, how do you change which photo is to be used as the profile photo. I found that I could just set it to a different photo when I uploaded the last two but now I can't find those settings.


Go to my photos, then profile photos, then there's a little bar on the right that holds your photos in order, you can click and slide them up and down to change it.


Thanks Moog.



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18 Nov 2010, 12:57 pm

Thanks for the input yellotamarin.

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Hey Jono,

I've just had a nice long read of this thread, and I thought I'd contribute as a female who is familiar with okcupid.

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Ok, I'll do that. I've replied back asking he if she has any questions for me. I'll see how it goes.

I'm not sure if I'm unique in feeling this way, but I don't respond well to a guy asking if I have any questions for him. It makes it sound like he is a bit self-obsessed or lazy, and would rather just talk about himself than have a conversation with me.


That's probably why she never replied to again after that.

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At what point do you exchange e-mail addresses?

Is it necessary to exchange email addresses? I would have thought just chatting through the message function of okcupid would be fine. In any case I wouldn't really put too much thought into when is the "right time".


Well, the issue is that one of my main goals here is to meet someone on OKCupid in real life. I was wanting to switch to e-mail both to make it easier to correspond and to later make plans to meet in person. I actually did give that girl my e-mail address after she said she would like to have it when I offered it to her, although now she appears to be blocking me.

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Again, I don't know if my opinions are typical of females on the site, but I like initial messages that are short, and that ask me about something on my profile (or make a comment on it), and don't start off with talking about themselves. I do the same when messaging someone, I just say something funny/stupid/totally-unrelated-to-dating to get their attention and then talk about myself later if they ask.


One of the mistakes I made early on when I started was to send a first message saying mainly what I'm interested in and what I'm planning to do for a career. Now I just try to ask a question about them based on something I read in their profile. Although, I've noticed that some people have such little information in their profile that there's virtually nothing for me to ask about.

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In fact, the thing I love about okcupid is that it doesn't have to be a dating site, it's basically a fun site for the more nerdy people of the world. So I treat it that way, and shy away from people who are too quick to want to discuss serious things, or to talk too much about compatibility etc. Just have fun with it!


My aim is to actually meet someone on OKCupid to date.

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Hope I have been of some help.


You have a little bit. :)

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P.S. 91% match, not bad! :wink:


Is it just me does there appear to be women on WP who seem to be hinting at me? :wink: If only I was more lucky like this with people in my own area. :? Although some people on OKCupid have messaged me first, I seem to have messed up.



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18 Nov 2010, 2:29 pm

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Hi Jono. I think it is better. But of the 3, I think number 3 is best choice.

Have you tried that 'best face' thing they do? It's kinda interesting, if a little tedious to compare 100 pairs of photographs.


Moog, you were right. That was the picture suggested to be the best from the report I got back from that 'best face' thing.



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18 Nov 2010, 2:35 pm

Jono wrote:
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Hi Jono. I think it is better. But of the 3, I think number 3 is best choice.

Have you tried that 'best face' thing they do? It's kinda interesting, if a little tedious to compare 100 pairs of photographs.


Moog, you were right. That was the picture suggested to be the best from the report I got back from that 'best face' thing.


I've a good eye, thanks for confirming it for me :-)


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18 Nov 2010, 3:07 pm

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Hi Jono. I think it is better. But of the 3, I think number 3 is best choice.

Have you tried that 'best face' thing they do? It's kinda interesting, if a little tedious to compare 100 pairs of photographs.


Moog, you were right. That was the picture suggested to be the best from the report I got back from that 'best face' thing.


I've a good eye, thanks for confirming it for me :-)


Sure, no problem.



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18 Nov 2010, 5:41 pm

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One of the mistakes I made early on when I started was to send a first message saying mainly what I'm interested in and what I'm planning to do for a career. Now I just try to ask a question about them based on something I read in their profile. Although, I've noticed that some people have such little information in their profile that there's virtually nothing for me to ask about.

Those women probably want to be contacted based on their photo and perhaps aren't really worth the effort. Just a thought. Or they just aren't really serious about the whole thing.

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My aim is to actually meet someone on OKCupid to date.

Sure, I understand that. But by having fun in the process hopefully that will happen. It's like if you meet someone at a bar, you don't go up to them and start talking about how well you are suited to each other, you start talking about something unrelated to dating/compatibility/sex, just to see how you get along in general conversation. I treat it the same way online.

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Is it just me does there appear to be women on WP who seem to be hinting at me? :wink: If only I was more lucky like this with people in my own area. :? Although some people on OKCupid have messaged me first, I seem to have messed up.

Yeah I may be in the same hemisphere as you, but still thousands of miles away!



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18 Nov 2010, 5:45 pm

That "best face" thing was interesing. Just found out my main pic is the worst pic. And the best one is the one where I'm the furthest distance from the camera and wearing sunglasses. Hrrmm... :roll:



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18 Nov 2010, 7:10 pm

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That "best face" thing was interesing. Just found out my main pic is the worst pic. And the best one is the one where I'm the furthest distance from the camera and wearing sunglasses. Hrrmm... :roll:


Haha, oh dear.

A lot of it is about the colour, shape, quality, and focus of the picture, it doesn't necessarily mean that people prefer you at a distance.


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19 Nov 2010, 2:29 pm

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My aim is to actually meet someone on OKCupid to date.

Sure, I understand that. But by having fun in the process hopefully that will happen. It's like if you meet someone at a bar, you don't go up to them and start talking about how well you are suited to each other, you start talking about something unrelated to dating/compatibility/sex, just to see how you get along in general conversation. I treat it the same way online.


OK, fair enough. It seems that similar social skills are required even if you meet people on-line. I've even had a relationship or even dated before in real life though so I haven't really learned those particular social skill. On-line dating still seems to be slightly easier though because at least you don't have to try and read the body language or signals to know if the other person is interested in you.



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21 Nov 2010, 12:02 pm

It appear to becoming less and less like that I'll meet someone through OKCupid. There just doesn't appear to be as many people as I would like from my area.



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21 Nov 2010, 12:07 pm

ok....time to switch to a new strategy : expansion.



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21 Nov 2010, 12:42 pm

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ok....time to switch to a new strategy : expansion.


Or try and find a different dating site. You love trying to push that don't you. That "new strategy" is unlikely for me right now although it might of been a better option 4 or 5 years ago when I still was part of a group of university friends but I didn't have the social skills.



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21 Nov 2010, 1:41 pm

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ok....time to switch to a new strategy : expansion.


Or try and find a different dating site. You love trying to push that don't you. That "new strategy" is unlikely for me right now although it might of been a better option 4 or 5 years ago when I still was part of a group of university friends but I didn't have the social skills.


Look , you neither have extraordinary looks , nor above average social skills and nor above average professional life.

You cannot afford being picky.

okcupid is the best dating site out there ....don't waste your time with any other.



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21 Nov 2010, 2:55 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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ok....time to switch to a new strategy : expansion.


Or try and find a different dating site. You love trying to push that don't you. That "new strategy" is unlikely for me right now although it might of been a better option 4 or 5 years ago when I still was part of a group of university friends but I didn't have the social skills.


Look , you neither have extraordinary looks , nor above average social skills and nor above average professional life.

You cannot afford being picky.


okcupid is the best dating site out there ....don't waste your time with any other.

is Jono being picky about the women he wants to meet?


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21 Nov 2010, 3:27 pm

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ok....time to switch to a new strategy : expansion.


Or try and find a different dating site. You love trying to push that don't you. That "new strategy" is unlikely for me right now although it might of been a better option 4 or 5 years ago when I still was part of a group of university friends but I didn't have the social skills.


Look , you neither have extraordinary looks , nor above average social skills and nor above average professional life.

You cannot afford being picky.


okcupid is the best dating site out there ....don't waste your time with any other.

is Jono being picky about the women he wants to meet?


Well, he doesn't seem wanting to expand his search criteria a little bit ....what does that mean?



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21 Nov 2010, 3:35 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Jono wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ok....time to switch to a new strategy : expansion.


Or try and find a different dating site. You love trying to push that don't you. That "new strategy" is unlikely for me right now although it might of been a better option 4 or 5 years ago when I still was part of a group of university friends but I didn't have the social skills.


Look , you neither have extraordinary looks , nor above average social skills and nor above average professional life.

You cannot afford being picky.


okcupid is the best dating site out there ....don't waste your time with any other.

is Jono being picky about the women he wants to meet?


Well, he doesn't seem wanting to expand his search criteria a little bit ....what does that mean?


Is that what you meant? Expanding my search criteria is something I can do. It's just whenever I message someone, I seem to be able to get replies to my first message but the conversation doesn't seem to go further than that. I messaged 2 people tonight and I got a reply back from one person but I have to wait and see if I get any more. I thought you meant expanding my social circle in real life.