Reasons why you're a bad catch

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The first 4 sound like me as well.

I think we all have our problems, but that doesn't mean that there isn't anyone out there that will look past all those things. :/ I think the key thing with starting a relationship, is to be sure in yourself. And if the person doesn't accept you then they just missed their chance. The truth is, is that you all are who you are, and your special for who you are. NT or Aspie, we all got our problems. But I wouldn't discourage yourselves

Despite having some different, and flawed traits, you all have some pretty wonderful traits to bring to the world.
Sorry, if I ruined the discussion. I'm an optimist. Reading your post made me sad

So are you saying she should lower her standards ? she's married BTW, and yes I don't get Australia you go to seconds and 'factory outlets" and their nearly or similar prices to the chain stores whats up with that ?

I need to check out the "not quite right " store I believe it's only in the Southern states I wish they would have it here in Qld where you can buy not quite right fruit and veg like a kilo of strawberries for like $ 4 I would probably make some nice cheap jam with that .

Most of us are not quite right who wants to be shop at mainstream supermarkets anyway ? I'm glad I'm not quite right why would you shop at mainstream supermarkets anyway ? except for toilet paper where it's like less than 50 cents a roll (big campaign "sales" going on on every day items at the moment like (3 ply) toilet paper that's as soft as a babies bottom , because everyone dreams of wiping to their ar%# with a babies bottom right ?

I don't get those expense toilet papers whats that all about ?

aussiebloke, I'm separated and getting a divorce. Not to mention you misunderstood what b9 was trying to say. My standards have nothing to do with it.

Heh I'm just messed up for many reasons.

I get emotionally blinded sometimes and leap before I look.

Loud and shameless. No grace. Yet I have boobs somehow.

Good words. But personally I don't feel too bad about owning my faults here. I seem perfectly able to fathom the depths of my undesirable side without falling into the trap of thinking that's all I am. Like I said above, the saving grace is the awareness........I could have hidden the truth from myself and propped up my ego for a while longer, but that would have been delusional and it would have made it impossible to fix. And any partner I did get would be walking into a death trap unless I know myself and reveal these things to her before she's too involved to be able to lightly turn back. My task now is to keep those negative things in mind and to work on them, and to look for more.

We also have the "reasons why you're a GOOD catch" thread to balance things up if we're feeling depressed about this one.

I'm a Christian who doesn't live according to the stereotypical Bible-thumping, gun-toting, Dark-aged way of thinking we have here in Texas.

Last edited by Tim_Tex on 24 Jun 2011, 2:37 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Poorly developed.

Don't make me list all the things that make me a bad catch.

Ok, I won't.

I have borderline personality disorder. In practice this means I'll break up with you in less than a month. I'm on my eighth boyfriend right now and soon I'll break up with him too.

It's funny because when I first date someone I think it'll last forever, like I'm already evaluating him as a marriage partner, but then we go out and I break up with him in two weeks.

Also, even if I stay in a relationship (which I am doing more often because I am trying to be less impulsive), I tend to see partners in black and white. Often guys will go from being very valuable to completely worthless, so I'll try to see them as little as possible. Sometimes they go from completely worthless to very valuable, but that is less common.

I tend to date guys with Asperger's, so I'm often the guy's first girlfriend. I'm probably pretty sh***y as first girlfriends go.

I'm a tough case because I'm an irresponsible dirtbag with a drinking problem and a maturity level easily 5 years younger than my actual age... but at the same time I have a big time need for intellectual stimulation and I have a fairly ambitious path that is more or less on track for my age and I refuse to involve myself with anyone who may hold that back.

It's a pretty nasty dichotomy that most people simply cannot accommodate, much less make sense of period.

But at the same time, the girls that my BS does occasionally attract are the select few who can actually identify with that and are as intrigued as I am to find someone on the same page.

I'm not out there to play the numbers game, my general "success" is limited (by some standards) but being the as*hole that I am seems to be a pretty high-percentage filter.

That sounds worryingly like my wavering attitude towards partners. When they're new, even when I manage to see their faults, I just really strongly want to ignore all that. Then later on it's hard for me to focus on any good in them, and all I can see is the harm they've done. I've not known it the other way round though. If I thought they were that bad at the start, I woudn't even date them.

I'm sorta overweight (not for lack of exercise!)
I'm awkward socially
I moved back in with mommy and daddy
I'm not cool
I uh....::Thinks about it:: wait, that's a good thing.
I'm a loner.