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15 Apr 2012, 2:27 am

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Yep. I just think it's warning bells - I'd rather date a guy who is comfortable with both male AND female friends as opposed to only befriending women, which is kind of strange.


I don't think anybody actually keeps statistics of the genders of their friends.


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15 Apr 2012, 5:59 am

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^^ then i must be a turn off for hale_bopp, because i didn't have real friends for a long time and my current ones are female.
but I recall that hale doesn't have friends IRL either.
Weird, he who lives in a glass house shouldn't throw stones!
This thread is annoying and full of BS judgement, double-standard and hypocrisy.
I mean, wtf, this is an Asperger forum, a lot of people here are socially inept and don't or can't make friends yet some of you are still valuing people by their social life situation?

f**k off!


Calm down cuz. I do have friends. I'm very dramatic ;) (I consider YOU a friend, or I wouldn't talk to you on msn btw :P)
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15 Apr 2012, 1:26 pm

Well it certainly can't be a turn on.


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15 Apr 2012, 1:38 pm

Homer_Bob wrote:
Well it certainly can't be a turn on.

I'm not sure about that, friendless people somehow appear as more down to earth to me, they are more unique, they know what it's like to be dissed, you share a couple similarities with them as an aspie. Not everyone that is socially isolated is a "creepy" person. But yeah according to most people, they're filth, they are the lowest of the social ladder, it's adapt or die.



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15 Apr 2012, 2:03 pm

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Homer_Bob wrote:
Well it certainly can't be a turn on.

I'm not sure about that, friendless people somehow appear as more down to earth to me, they are more unique, they know what it's like to be dissed, you share a couple similarities with them as an aspie. Not everyone that is socially isolated is a "creepy" person. But yeah according to most people, they're filth, they are the lowest of the social ladder, it's adapt or die.


because most think that someone with no friends means they are such a bad person that nobody wants to be with them. Which can be true in some cases but likely isnt the whole story



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15 Apr 2012, 2:07 pm

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because most think that someone with no friends means they are such a bad person that nobody wants to be with them. Which can be true in some cases but likely isnt the whole story


Depending on how you define friend I'm someone without friends. I don't see why someone wouldn't want to date me because of that. I guess it's a good thing that I don't date then.



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15 Apr 2012, 4:33 pm

Uprising wrote:
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Well it certainly can't be a turn on.

I'm not sure about that, friendless people somehow appear as more down to earth to me, they are more unique, they know what it's like to be dissed, you share a couple similarities with them as an aspie. Not everyone that is socially isolated is a "creepy" person. But yeah according to most people, they're filth, they are the lowest of the social ladder, it's adapt or die.



Uprising; Homer_Bob : I was wondering if women found "lone wolf" types attractive or if that only happened in comics and movies.

Hey if not having friends is a turn off.... then I wonder if being a lone wolf is a turn on?



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16 Apr 2012, 4:51 am

Luska wrote:
Uprising wrote:
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Well it certainly can't be a turn on.

I'm not sure about that, friendless people somehow appear as more down to earth to me, they are more unique, they know what it's like to be dissed, you share a couple similarities with them as an aspie. Not everyone that is socially isolated is a "creepy" person. But yeah according to most people, they're filth, they are the lowest of the social ladder, it's adapt or die.

Uprising; Homer_Bob : I was wondering if women found "lone wolf" types attractive or if that only happened in comics and movies.
Hey if not having friends is a turn off.... then I wonder if being a lone wolf is a turn on?

Yes of course, a select few, just like there are women who will pursue a "nice guy" *
One big problem with lone wolves is how do you know they are one, in this zero contact society.



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17 Apr 2012, 4:09 am

johansen wrote:
Luska wrote:
Uprising wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
Well it certainly can't be a turn on.

I'm not sure about that, friendless people somehow appear as more down to earth to me, they are more unique, they know what it's like to be dissed, you share a couple similarities with them as an aspie. Not everyone that is socially isolated is a "creepy" person. But yeah according to most people, they're filth, they are the lowest of the social ladder, it's adapt or die.

Uprising; Homer_Bob : I was wondering if women found "lone wolf" types attractive or if that only happened in comics and movies.
Hey if not having friends is a turn off.... then I wonder if being a lone wolf is a turn on?

Yes of course, a select few, just like there are women who will pursue a "nice guy" *
One big problem with lone wolves is how do you know they are one, in this zero contact society.


That's a good question. Whats the difference between a lone wolf from other loner types? Do women like lone wolf personality people?



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17 Apr 2012, 2:05 pm

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Do women like lone wolf personality people?


as i said, a few of course.

start here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lone_wolf_ ... 9#See_also

i think if your definition of "lone wolf" came from an action movie you're going to be disappointed to find they don't exist in real life.



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20 Apr 2012, 10:16 am

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Do women like lone wolf personality people?


as i said, a few of course.

start here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lone_wolf_ ... 9#See_also

i think if your definition of "lone wolf" came from an action movie you're going to be disappointed to find they don't exist in real life.


I meant people who are alone but very confident despite having few friends. People who are strong and very independent and are not insecure at all over their lack of friends. Just like a lone wolf in the wild or those predators that hunt alone. The strong , self sufficient type with the "restrained" angry look.



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26 Apr 2012, 9:14 am

Having a good social circle is definitely plus. For one thing, it takes a lot of responsibility of me =) For another, it means he's knows how to keep healthy relationships and it will help our relationship. -->Having more perspectives is good.

Then, I won't mind if the person doesn't have a lot of friends, but he should at least have 1 close friend who is a real friend, especially if he's an NT. If he's in his early twenties but hasn't even 1 real friend, I think there's definitely something wrong. (But for aspie guys, I'm not sure of this standard. I think getting closer to another person is more easy for girls in general NT or AS.)

On the other hand, if he has a lot of acquaintances but is not close to any particular one, I would hesitate to enter the relationship.