What desirable qualities do you have?

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24 Jan 2016, 4:40 am

I think one of the qualities I have is that I love being in a relationship! Things like making time for the other person and helping them etc tend to come naturally to me. Although tbh I'm more likely to do that to my detriment so I have to be careful that I take care of myself.

I am intelligent and kind and I think that my eccentricities attract people to me (so I've heard).

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24 Jan 2016, 7:21 am

Hopper wrote:

Unless she, too, is super shy and insecure. That happens, believe me.

100000fireflies wrote:

Some girls like shy guys. It can definitely be an asset. Unfortunately, as Hopper mentioned, it's often the shy girls.

Insecurity, [i]to a degree[\i], can also be appealing. Someone who is going on and on about how worthless they are..after a while, you say fine, whatever, you're worthless, i give up. It gets tiresome; and they may well spend so much time and focus talking about how undesirable they are that they convince those around them, creating a self-fulfilled prophecy.
But, someone, especially a guy, who may seem relatively comfortable with himself, but then confides that he thinks his nose is too big or he hates his cowlick..that can be endearing.

I guess that's possible. I'm sorry, I suppose it was just the ramblings of an isolated person. :oops:

Either way I need to stop feeling sorry for myself. I guess I just can't see myself ever gaining the courage to make the first move.

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24 Jan 2016, 7:47 pm

No need to apologise (to me at least!).

I've had similar patterns of behaviour and thought. I've been lucky to get into relationships, and it was such patterns that helped sink those relationships. I want to say more, but I'm too tired. I've been running it through my head now and then this afternoon, but can't get it coherent yet.

Courage can be hard to come by. If it helps, keep in mind that it's contextual/relational.

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25 Jan 2016, 2:12 pm

I'm smart, quiet, somewhat naive, innocent, happy, kind, funny, and cute. Oddly enough, I used to have such low self-esteem that I never thought of myself as cute or worthwhile, but now my self-esteem is better; and do you know what? All of my friends here have helped me with that! [My special someone tells me that I'm cute a lot! :heart: ]

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25 Jan 2016, 5:01 pm

I try to be kind and caring. I'm smart and have a good sense of humour.

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26 Jan 2016, 12:12 pm

I'm not going to bother listing them, but I do have some high desirable personal qualities. The problem is that they're not really apparent until after someone gets to know me.

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26 Jan 2016, 2:26 pm

I don't...

I'm short, shy, and special.

A triple threat.

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26 Jan 2016, 2:32 pm

^That sounds like a fine combination to me. I, too, and short, shy, and special.

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