Getting a girlfriend feels like an impossible task

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Honestly, I just wish the government would subsidize free birth control for low-income couples. That would prevent a lot of these poor single-parent households from happening.

Not many people receive even $25,000 a year in the US from Social Security alone.

Egad! $27,000 a year, plus Rent Assistance! You guys have it good!

But it's still much better to get gainful employment, even if the salary is about the same as when you're on the dole.

I learned lots about the Australian Centrelink system through this thread, and previous enquiries.

Kids are lucky there! I wish I would have received something like Youth Allowance when I was 17. Before I got a job, I used to just get $10 a week allowance.

poverty is a design element in our system, it as a scapegoat serves as negative reinforcement for the lower middle-class, to scare them away from backsliding into poverty themselves, to make them keep their noses to the grindstone.

It's a wonder people don't protest the oligarchs with mass suicide. No more people to work for them. That's what they get if they make life completely joyless.

I would get the upper class expects to have its robotic workforce on line soon enough for their plans to starve and poison the majority of the lower classes to be on pace. but it would make me laugh my @$$ off if those robots turned on their masters somehow

I'm waiting for someone to yell at us for derailing this thread with off-topic stuff.

back on thread topic- to me, getting a proper mate [compatible] is akin to rising to a higher socioeconomic class, outside of a horatio alger yarn it is for people like myself nigh well impossible.

Honestly, Auntblabby, you look okay to me. And your conversation is witty.

I don't see why you are precluding happiness for yourself.

Honestly. No bullcrap.

thank you my good man that is just the way life has worked out for me. I can't explain why because I don't really know why other than the fact that I just can't figure out how to live the way most other people live. the thing about suicides is that it has been said that they don't know how to live, and while I wouldn't necessarily do what those unfortunates do, still I don't really know how to live at least with any intentionality, I just stumble from day to day hoping the earth doesn't swallow me up or the sky doesn't fall on me. life just doesn't make much sense to me most of the time. the periods of lucidity are few and far-between.

I wish I could help you change that, somehow.

that is sweet thank you us aspies need to stick together

"Yes you did. I don't like societies taboos but I won't shoot the messenger. It's partly that I find it illogical that she talks about it and I can't and partly because I want to be with a really skinny girl."

"Yep, I know plenty of people who make a token effort and expect to lose weight. The frustrating thing about this is that I have successfully lost a lot of weight. I used to be obese and now I'm not."

"I know that it's taboo for me to tell people how to lose weight but since I went from obese to normal, something most people have not done, that means I could give a lot of effective advice yet I can't because of the taboo. It's so frustrating when I see people trying things that I know won't work."

Trust me, I'm on your side here and agree with what you're saying, it's just maybe I'm more likely to pick my battles rather than come across as malicious and rude to someone who's trying to lose weight.

I'm not saying you can't give constructive advice to unfit people without sounding like an a55hole, you can, you definitely can, but even if you give some neutral, constructive, perfectly reasonable advice, I find most people still don't want to hear it, or may even get into an argument with you over the 'right' ways to do things even if you KNOW you are right.

When I say you are right, I mean you actually understand human physiology.

It's widely scientifically supported that, to gain muscle, one eats in a calorie surplus, more food than they need, and strength trains. This causes muscle hypertrophy and the creation of new muscle. The muscles essentially have to be pushed to their limits, broken down, and given the necessary nutrients to recover and build back stronger. For 'survival'. Some unwanted fat gains will happen because you're eating more food than your body needs, so some will be stored in your fat reserves. For 'survival'.

To lose weight in fat but keep your muscle, eat less food than you need, but still get your nutrients like Protein and stuff, and train the muscles a few days a week so your body knows it's still needed.

Most Americans and Australians simply don't understand these facts.

Like I said, we're right, we're both fit and got there the right way (well, not sure about you, you may have lost weight in both fat and muscle but that's your personal choice, at least you got thin again) but most people are too lazy to bother, and too ignorant to learn.

That's humans in general, not just one's trying to lose weight.

About Australian economics and government: Yeah, you sound level-headed and anti-news. Our news here has got to be the most pathetic, mind-washing propaganda I've ever seen. Then again, we don't have Fox News or CNN like the U.S. do.

Most news media corporations are the majority owned by just one man - Rupert Murdoch.

The news in my views should be for the people, by the people, but it's not in most places.

That's entirely possible - I'm not saying amateurs should take over, I'm saying journalists and the like should operate the news system in a more Socialist-like manner, and without bias or just supporting whatever Australian's current ignorant beliefs are.

Have you ever noticed if the majority of Australians think something is true (e.g. LOTS OF BOAT PEOPLE, AHH deal with china, they must want to take over, Terrorists are terrorizing Sydney and Melbourne, gay marriage is creeping up on us, etc.) the news will just spout it repetitively?

About Centrelink, I've also done a few tweaing to the system but still being honest. Apparently the youth allowance for a friend, who is now 19, has been about $150-250ish every fortnight. Considering half of his cash goes to his Mum in board, that's a very low pay.

Even I, after doing some tweaking, only am in the $400-500 range. Decent amount, but definitely not over $1,000 a fortnight, lol.

Maybe my family's income is a bit higher than that, actually, probably $20,000-$25,000, but as you said, if you're struggling with more than that, than we're certainly are too.

What's got to be remembered is even if our income is higher because of my payment, Mum doesn't have access to my personal money unless it's for board.

"Holy crap! I live alone and I struggle to get by on more than three times that amount. Partly because burglars stole $20,000 of stuff for me and partly because of my failed plan to bribe a Philippine girl to come and be my GF. I wasted about $1,200 on that. Yes I know that was a very stupid idea."

Yeah I know all that happened. All around a similar time, too.

And, what do you mean you're worried about working here? I'm unaware of any issues on that other than immigrants (legal or otherwise) taking up employment positions as they can easily be payed under legal wage or over-worked by abusive bosses and such without realizing.

I recorded this video out of my FRUSTRATION that it's always the MAN'S job to:

- Start a conversation with a girl he likes.

- Risk rejection to ask her out on a date.

- And plan/lead every date until she is impressed enough to be your girlfriend.

As a guy, you are expected to be the confident and assertive one. You are expected to make the first move and go talk to that woman you find attractive. You are expected to risk getting awkwardly rejected or even humiliated.

And if you don't do this... then you will stay lonely. You will not meet any new women. You will not go on any dates. You will probably not get a girlfriend.

That's why shy, introverted or quiet guys may spend YEARS or even DECADES without any dates, relationships or even sex... remaining a VIRGIN much longer than "normal."

that's what Sean Cooper said in that video I have posted on some threads here before, glad to hear he admitted that he was frustrated over that gender role