Online dating is pointless as a guy

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Why sighing?

I’m not mean to you, I don’t agree with some of your posts. Hate the post, not the poster. I don’t have a problem with you as a person.

And we all know "standing out" in women's language means be "good looking". Admit it would you.

I've written brilliant profiles with photo's of me and my reply rate must of been 1/200, and I'm talking messages sent to average-looking or passable women (i.e. not obese or classically butch) with shared interests.

I have created sock puppet horrendous profiles and used a picture of a model-looking guy and I don't even have to message women, they message me like a non stop tap! I literally get over 70 women contact these fake model profiles per week. And no, they aren't all white trash slut types, but educated, goody-goody ladies from leafy middle class and even upper class areas.

I wouldn't call her nutty but she is a good representative of many women on dating sites and how unbelievably shallow they are and I am sure most men are too: I just don't have any experience with them. The other two main categories are the 'world travelers' who apparently have a bottomless pit of money for travel yet still want to start a family and the nurse or teacher who is already married to her career. I think it is no coincidence that the majority of women I dated whom I still know their general whereabouts are all still single years later.

I maintain while I met my wife on eHarmony I made far more progress with Meetup and that's not even a dating site! In fact, that's where Mrs. GHF first saw me and tried to arrange to be at one of my meetups that I cancelled on the last minute. Oops!

Yeah man well said. The majority of today's women who use online dating and hook-up apps are like a little 8-year-old girls that have been handed $50'000 in notes and sent to a toy shop. After she's had a few months of fun, she's gonna still be a spoiled brat that's not happy and believes she's only deserving of more and more.

And she called you not an adult because you didn't fit her unrealistic list of expectations? Should of told her she was spoilt little brat and she was being the ungrateful child. Then walked off. Men need to stand up to s**t as they allow this bad behaviour.

This is why after 200,000 years of homosapien, there were no feminist societies or tribes that flourished. You'd think that at least one or two would have made it. nope. They all went extinct. This is because feminist policies are aimed at gender equities, not function or improvement of society as a whole, or progenation of the tribe. Feminist ideologies promised women -- and men -- great things, but it's bringing society to a halt.

I mull at times how this generation of women will end up later in life. They are going to be too picky even entering their middle thirties that they effectively put themselves out of the gene pool. I've noticed there's a mad dash suddenly when a picky woman reaches 35-40 and still hasn't had a baby. But many still believe they deserve some 6ft2 Ben Affleck lookalike with white collar job, shares, 4 bedroom house, BMW whilst they themselves are just some skinny plain jane that works at a reception office. And then when it's too late they seek IBF treatment etc.

Expect a rise in the sale of Cats.

Sometimes World, GiantHockeyFan , sly and others.....the real reason why they become like this is because of this:

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This is the real reason why it's pointless for most guys.

Very well. It's well known that for every 15 male profiles created on POF only 1 female signs up. This may even be a lie. I suspect the owners and staff of POF and other dating sites know the true ratio but are withholding it from us.

But If I don't have a social network offline (which I don't) how am I supposed to meet women? I have joined hobby clubs as a lone wolf to no avail.

I am 40 and its very hard to socialize with other men in the hope of meeting new chicks at this age as other dudes are paired up already and their socializing or 'pulling' years are yesteryear.

Most guys I know have met their partners on dating sites. My brother did and he never struggled.
He is married to the woman he met on okcupid and has three kids, oldest is 9.

My sister-in-law met her husband at a bus stop. She literally said "I see you here a lot" and that's all it took to get the ball rolling. Maybe you meet someone at a meetup group or just at the grocery store. It's not easy but it's not hair pulling frustrating like what online dating as turned into. Maybe try a more female dominated activity like running. I already met my wife when I joined a running club but I can tell you the ratio was 10:1 female and many were single. While I don't recommend deliberately going there hospitals are full of single women: when I visited my mother last, one of the nurses actually asked Mom for my number and if I was single!!

I think the biggest issue with online dating is that you cannot possibly capture someone on a computer or phone screen. I make it no secret that not only was my wife an eHarmony a "flex" match (not in my search criteria) but I initially had zero interest in her profile until she contacted me twice. Life can be a very strange thing!


A female coworker did the same and also has three kids. I still can't figure out why: that site is a cesspool of emotionally unavailable people who only know how to flake. In all the years I used that site I had ONE person on that site who didn't flake after date #1 and I honestly wish she would have.

I stopped using dating sites years ago because of the scammers.

My focus has shifted to groups dealing with my interests. I couldn’t find groups specific to my area, and the people in the other groups are so far away.

So I am in a rut.

I can’t see that being an issue in the city you live in. How many people are in it? Maybe get some new interests as well? I picked up a new interest recently and have already connected with a lot of people on a facebook group. It’s quite easy.

Giant Hockey fan most people end up flaking on those of both genders. Happened to me heaps, and I’ve done it to people heaps.

Maybe you’re area. Mine there’s 2,500-4,000 more men then women.

Also your results are skewed because your secussful. Do you think that middle class nurse wouldn’t been interested in a min wage man visiting his mom? Doubt it. She works hard and feels entitled to a well off man for it.

Feels like you are. It’s not nice to Call me a liar.

I can’t help how women in my area are. I won’t ever be able to meet their requirements. It’s hard to find great paying work when you can only handle 20 hours a week.
I dont have time for meet ups not there are any I could go to. Between work and gym most my time is taken. Leaving me a hour or so a day to try to relax to make it though the next day.

This is correct. Women are stupidly picky on dating sites because they can be, and still get results. It’s different in real life.

Also, they don’t have to be interested in any of you, so maybe stop having a tantrum attacking all women and try and get a life and do stuff in real life.

You have time. I work 50 hours a week and I have time. You always have time for something if you want it badly enough.

Unfortunately no female has ever approached me in public unless they were asking for directions, and certainly not inquired about me in my working life. When I've (cold-) approached females at bus stops, coffee shops etc, I'm looked at sideways and clearly make the female feel uncomfortable. I'm not saying anything creepy, my friendlessness & attention is just not met with reciprocation.

I 100% know it's my looks.

And when I 've joined hobby groups that had large female members (digital photography club, history group f.e.) all the women I find attractive are already taken.