Still haven't found a girlfriend

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18 is ok.

if a woman is not interested in me on an online dating site, i would rather they just flat-out ignore me instead

What do you mean?

I really, really hate when people use acronyms like that, what the hell? That's uber-lazy and they assume you know their stuff, pfff. And I don't mean things known by everyone like AIDS or USA.

What do you mean? i have tried online dating but i never had any replies, only veiws

I had another good day at college today. I do talk to some of the girls on my course even though i would not class them as great friends but it was good because i spoke more and felt more confident.

Excellent work.

I hesitate to suggest this, but let's go ahead and take this one teensy step further.

Talking is good. I want you to get a small wire-bound notebook. You will start a journal of who you talk to and dates you met.

Every day you will make notes of who you talked to. You need: Name, hair color, eye color, unique interests. Does she have a job? If so, what does she do? If not, is she in college? If so, what is her major course of study? What are her interests, things she likes, fav activities, etc.? These three things: hair color, eye color, key interests--you need that info as a bare minimum. Without that info, you are dead in the water.

You are NOT to ask anyone out on a date. Let's be clear on that. DON'T DO IT!! ! Commit these items quickly to memory, go home, IMMEDIATELY write it all down.

The next time you meet any of these women, pick up the convo where you left off. Find details about her interests you can use to derail the convo. Make her chase rabbits, do NOT let her stop talking under any circumstances. Remember as much of what she says as you can, write it down when you get home. Keep repeating this process with every single woman you engage. Make it a habit. Review your diary every day, memorize as much as you can.

Keep this diary secure. Do NOT let anyone know about it, lest they see what you're up to and make bad assumptions (it's a practice unfairly associated with perverts and serial killers, but all you are doing is tracking your activities and trying to remember who's who. The day will come when you consign this book to the flames).

Update us on your progress as you see fit.

Now, I'm taking a break from WP. I will continue to lurk here, but I will neither post nor comment nor PM regarding ANYTHING on this or any other forum before next Friday.

Good luck! Remember, you're simply gathering information. Do NOT ask a girl out. I will review anything you have to say in the meantime and post my opinions NEXT Friday and no sooner. Cheers...

^that sounds kinda creepy... however, if having the intention of keeping a diary about conversations makes you have conversations for the sake of practicing being comfortable talking to people, then it's harmless. Just don't make the mistake of rattling off your questions like you're reading an interview script.. that would surely spook somebody into thinking you're a creep for sure. Be much more natural in your conversations, take the time to listen to replies before asking something about it or asking your next question(s).

Oh my god something amazing happened today. I finished college and was in the hairdressers getting my hair cut when this women sat down next to me, now she was about 60-70 but i let this older guy go first before me and she said its nice to see a nice young man with good manners. I was telling her about my course that i do, places i want to go and she said to me i need to grab any opportunity that comes to me, she said she knows i will get a distinction in my course because i am a very polite young man and enthusiastic about things.

Now i now i haven't found a girlfriend but this is great news isn't it.

i'm tired of women responding to my initial message and engaging me in conversation on online dating sites but not having any intention to go on a date with me, because normally if a person is not interested in you in regards to online dating, they won't even respond to you in the first place.

Hi, I didn't meet any girls today but i did go swimming with my mate.

Still no girlfriend but i am trying to get into better shape to attract the girls

Well i have looked up things on the internet it looks very possible i might have something called phimosis

If i do have that it is looking likely that my life is over. I will never be able to find a girlfriend, i will never EVER be able to have a son or daughter and my Stepbrother and Stepsister will always tower above me, I will be a disappointment to my family and if i didn't end my life i would die a very very very lonely man.

That can be fixed though

There are partners who will be understanding out there. And you can always adopt!

Seriously, a guy on my FB list who everyone thought would never meet anyone due to similar disabilities got a gf and they live together. He's not that old, either.

The partners who would be accepting like that will probably not look that attractive. And even if i did find someone nice it would take years and years and i would have to see my Stepbrother and Stepsister get married, maybe have children and i would grow even more upset, angry about how my life turned out.

If and its a big IF everything turned out to be ok the adoptive agency will probably hate giving a child to a person with autism.

Do you not see the counterproductive irony to this?

If your reaction to others' success & happiness is to become more upset and angry, do you think that would make you a more attractive partner to someone & result in you achieving your goal of getting a girlfriend?

Here's a hint to the answer: It is... No!

Now, if you were to applaud your brother's success and be genuinely happy for him having found someone to love, others would notice your happiness and likely think "now there's someone I could see myself spending some time around!" vs. their thought process towards you being jealous and angry otherwise more likely to be something like "wow, what a bitter human being.. I can't possibly get away from him fast enough!"