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03 Mar 2017, 1:09 am

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Can we get back to the original topic please?

I believe it was "Are most men struggling to get a healthy weight woman?", not "Is it wrong for men to prefer healthy weight women?"


:roll: No one said men have to be attracted to fat people just not to take the piss out of them or treat them as lesser. Do you like people making a single judgementry on you because you don't have a job? Without know anything else about you?


But I do have a job.


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03 Mar 2017, 1:53 am

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It's almost as if social skills played a major factor more so than income or appearance.....

It's not surprising at all. A relationship is about connecting and it's much harder with bad social skills.



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03 Mar 2017, 2:22 am

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It's almost as if social skills played a major factor more so than income or appearance.....
I have terrible social skills. I'm doomed to die alone :(


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03 Mar 2017, 2:47 am

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It's almost as if social skills played a major factor more so than income or appearance.....
I have terrible social skills. I'm doomed to die alone :(

What makes you think so? You previously had girlfriends.



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03 Mar 2017, 8:13 am

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It's almost as if social skills played a major factor more so than income or appearance.....
I have terrible social skills. I'm doomed to die alone :(
What makes you think so? You previously had girlfriends.
That was from dating sites. No social skills required. Dating a girl I meet in real life is beyond my capability.

Also I've only ever had obese girlfriends :(


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03 Mar 2017, 8:59 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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Can we get back to the original topic please?

I believe it was "Are most men struggling to get a healthy weight woman?", not "Is it wrong for men to prefer healthy weight women?"


:roll: No one said men have to be attracted to fat people just not to take the piss out of them or treat them as lesser. Do you like people making a single judgementry on you because you don't have a job? Without know anything else about you?


But I do have a job.


It was a hypothetical



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03 Mar 2017, 10:05 am

Women look for clues that you can make a "connection."

A steady job isn't just about money. It is also an indicator that you may be able to handle a relationship. Someone who can't hold a job make not be able to make the compromises necessary to make a relationship work. A perfect match is an impossibility with all the things that couples can disagree about.

They are also interested in whether you have friends, which is another indicator of your ability to make "connections."

A big stock portfolio is nice, but I think most women have no idea how figure that out. And, what can you trust on a dating site if people like about things as obvious as height. :roll:



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03 Mar 2017, 11:35 am

I think I have my standards all wrong then... or maybe my boy brain in a female body is projecting what a male verison of myself would see in females and put it into a male counterpart.



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03 Mar 2017, 1:03 pm

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So you weigh 172, but a woman who weighs 175 is way too fat for you? Maybe you should make sure you yourself have a perfect body type before you decide women are un-datable if they weight even two more pounds than you.

You hit it right on the head, here. I think a lot of aspie men suffer from "Internet Male Syndrome"; that is, unrealistic standards molded by years of porn consumption. As if a beautiful woman is a priceless work of art to be scrutinized, rather than a human being with thoughts and feelings.


Stop the stupid theories on us, seriously - I am reporting this and putting stop to this misandry here.
A non-overweight woman =/= a pornstar.

So either one extreme or the other?
So if a man doesn't find obesity attractive then he must be after women who look like pornstars only - logic. :roll:


You make up plenty of theories yourself people could call stupid as well as tell people they are lying about their personal experiences or feelings related to those experiences. I doubt the mods are going to do anything about you reporting someone for thinking a lot of guys with aspergers might have unrealistic standards.

The issue at hand how is a woman who weights 175 severely morbidly obese compared to a guy who weighs 172 pounds? no one has explained this yet.

Also I don't see where anyone suggested if a guy doesn't find obesity attractive he only goes after women who look like porn stars...you're really good at exaggerating and misrepresenting what people actually say.


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03 Mar 2017, 1:17 pm

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So you weigh 172, but a woman who weighs 175 is way too fat for you? Maybe you should make sure you yourself have a perfect body type before you decide women are un-datable if they weight even two more pounds than you.
As Boo suggested men and women are built differently. There are differences in height, build, muscle mass, bone density, etc.

I'm 6'2. At 172 pounds I'd have a BMI of 22.1. That's not overweight.

Most women are less than 6 foot. The average American woman is 5'4. At 172 pounds she'd have a BMI of 29.6. A far cry from 22.1.


That poster did not mention the womans height, and he himself 5'10 so still under the 6 foot range.


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03 Mar 2017, 1:19 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So what the syndrome is called for those overweight women who mock on slightly overweight men?



Idk what is the syndrome called for those overweight males who mock slightly overweight women?


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03 Mar 2017, 1:24 pm

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FEMALE pornstars can come in all shapes and size, FEMALE pornstars only, there are whole sites for obese female pornstars, small-chest pornstars, petites, tall....you name it - because males' tastes are so diverse.

I'd hate to see your browser history. :|

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the male gender is not the shallower gender, after all.

There is no "shallower gender". There are certainly deep, caring, and noble men; but your hints of misogyny here (as well as your post history) fails to convince me that you're one of them.


Exactly there are shallow men and women...both, it depends on the man or woman in question.


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03 Mar 2017, 1:38 pm

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I'd assume that women on a dating site are looking for more than just sexual attractiveness when deciding whether or not to respond to emails.


That is what I was doing when I was on dating sites, attractiveness alone isn't really a good basis for a relationship.


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03 Mar 2017, 4:39 pm

What about women who are overweight but still eat healthy and exercise? I'm not thin and I do both. I don't mind dating a guy who is a bit "chubby" but I can't date someone who eats KFC all the time and expects me to eat it and can't date a guy who never leaves the couch.

Attractiveness isn't the only thing that matters in a relationship. Being compatible as far as personality, interest and even lifestyle choices (eating habits, exercise, being able to hold down a job etc...)


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03 Mar 2017, 4:41 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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So you weigh 172, but a woman who weighs 175 is way too fat for you? Maybe you should make sure you yourself have a perfect body type before you decide women are un-datable if they weight even two more pounds than you.
You hit it right on the head, here. I think a lot of aspie men suffer from "Internet Male Syndrome"; that is, unrealistic standards molded by years of porn consumption. As if a beautiful woman is a priceless work of art to be scrutinized, rather than a human being with thoughts and feelings.
Stop the stupid theories on us, seriously - I am reporting this and putting stop to this misandry here.
A non-overweight woman =/= a pornstar.

So either one extreme or the other?
So if a man doesn't find obesity attractive then he must be after women who look like pornstars only - logic. :roll:
You make up plenty of theories yourself people could call stupid as well as tell people they are lying about their personal experiences or feelings related to those experiences. I doubt the mods are going to do anything about you reporting someone for thinking a lot of guys with aspergers might have unrealistic standards.

The issue at hand how is a woman who weights 175 severely morbidly obese compared to a guy who weighs 172 pounds? no one has explained this yet.

Also I don't see where anyone suggested if a guy doesn't find obesity attractive he only goes after women who look like porn stars...you're really good at exaggerating and misrepresenting what people actually say.
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So you weigh 172, but a woman who weighs 175 is way too fat for you? Maybe you should make sure you yourself have a perfect body type before you decide women are un-datable if they weight even two more pounds than you.
As Boo suggested men and women are built differently. There are differences in height, build, muscle mass, bone density, etc.

I'm 6'2. At 172 pounds I'd have a BMI of 22.1. That's not overweight.

Most women are less than 6 foot. The average American woman is 5'4. At 172 pounds she'd have a BMI of 29.6. A far cry from 22.1.
That poster did not mention the womans height, and he himself 5'10 so still under the 6 foot range.
I didn't realise this 175 pound girl was a real person. I thought you were speaking hypothetically. 175 pounds is overweight not morbidly obese.

As for the guy, he's no slim jim himself. He's just 2 pounds away from being overweight. He's also a few inches underheight.

I agree with Boo's point that to say a man is either attracted to any weight or only attracted to pornstars is a false-dichotomy.


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03 Mar 2017, 4:50 pm

xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
What about women who are overweight but still eat healthy and exercise?
That type of woman is much more attractive to me than unhealthy women.
xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
Attractiveness isn't the only thing that matters in a relationship. Being compatible as far as personality, interest and even lifestyle choices (eating habits, exercise, being able to hold down a job etc...)
Very true!


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