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03 May 2018, 12:58 am

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11 Oct 2018, 9:01 am

b9 wrote:
well really there are heaps of things.



2. i don't know how to make love.
i feel sometimes like it is a dirty perverse thing to do.
just to lay on a girl and hump them is a very basal thing that i find disgusting.

so you got to to the dance. the foreplay dance. i don't dance. i do not have the connection necessary to predict what they will do next.

so you have to be adventurous and have intercourse from many angles and stuff, and it's all too much of a hassle for me to work out.

then, when you get to intercourse, i have a major problem with rhythm. i like slow and they like fast.
no good.
our pelvises do not move in unison, and it really degrades the experience.

i have never been longing for intimacy anyway.


Sorry old thread but exactly how I used to feel, sex wasn’t mentally stimulating enough for me I couldn’t feel any connection was bored out of my mind. Dex helped me a lot. Also helps if u are feeling paranoid at work that ppl are talking about you most likely they were talking about some jerk called Andrew who has a problem with women ... doesn’t stop the thoughts but makes u not ruminate.

Just saying that things can change.

However I have always longed for intimacy but it’s more like someone to be inquisitive with. It’s probably not how others think of intimacy.



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12 Oct 2018, 2:28 am

I find it difficult not to become too attached. I don't meet people I get along with very often. And when I get signals that someone I'm interested in is interested in me too its difficult not to want to be with that person and spend time with them. But they never want to exclusively be with me and it never goes very far. They just slip away and then don't want anymore contact with me.

It's never outright rejection. But it still hurts. I don't understand it. Do I look attractive, but have a very annoying personality? I like them, I really do, but then they never like me as much and I have to let go.



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12 Oct 2018, 2:26 pm

The hardest thing for me?

Finding someone to date.



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12 Oct 2018, 4:34 pm

I've never been in a romantic or sexual relationship, despite a small amount of trying. So I guess my trouble is "getting a date".



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14 Oct 2018, 12:29 am

Kissing, hugging, sex. Starting to think I may be asexual because sex and cuddling etc. has never appealed to me. Makes me kind of grossed out thinking of swapping spit with another person having their liquid all over me.

I've been asked about by both male and females. I never said yes to a girl before (I regret it now I was too afraid of what my family would think.) The guys I've gone out with don't last longer than a month since I never put out, I hate kissing, It just grosses me out so much.

And I know it's not "mature" or whatever but I'm just not into it.



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30 Dec 2018, 1:56 am

finding a woman that is actually single, preventing them from flaking on me, or when I do end up going on a date with them, getting a second date with them.