rick42 wrote:
Wolfram87 wrote:
You're staring yourself blind on statistics. Unless you are in fact looking to date "most women", which seems unlikely and somewhat difficult logistically, your aim should be to attract the sort of woman who would be attracted to you and your traits, not changing yourself to game the odds. Just because getting struck by lightning is exceedingly unlikely doesn't change the fact that there are people to whom it has happened. Repeatedly.
Here's the problem,most non aspie women simply don't find aspie traits in a man to be very appealing.How many women would find aspie male traits to be attractive or even something that isn't a big negative?If I had to guess,I say it probably be a very few and far between, and even then I believe most of those women would likely ether already taken,or women who I find to very uninteresting. Non aspie/autistic men on the other tend a lot more accepting of aspie traits than women,which one of biggest reasons why there's many more single aspie men than are single aspie women. It's also the same reason why we tend to have more friends with people of the same sex than aspie women do as well.
You know, after reading Fluffy’s post above where she asked you a question, it occurred to me that there’s a whole series of questions that you haven’t been asked and that it might be worthwhile to ask them, so, her goes:
• 1) What do you want out of this thread?
Are you after advice and encouragement from those of us who have wives/husbands/significant others, or, do you want sympathy with your current situation? (If option two: ignore all subsequent questions, they’re irrelevant in that case)• 2) Repeating Fluffy’s question: what do you actually want in terms of a relationship with a woman?
Sex? Friendship? A date two-three times a month and see where that leads? A girlfriend you see a few times a week? Marriage/long-term commitment?• 3) Assuming the answer to (2) is one form or another of serious/potentially serious relationship: what do you think these are like?
what do you anticipate would be a positive change, are there any potential drawbacks you’ve thought of?• 4) What are you priorities as regards the hypothetical woman you would have a relationship of whatever form with?
looks? hobbies? tastes in general? sense of humour? character traits? background & upbringing? beliefs (religious and/or political)? Other?• 5) Where & how have you been trying to make a connection with women in the past?
That’s probably enough interrogation!
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NB: I’m not expecting you to answer any of these questions if you rather wouldn’t, answer all, some, or none as you choose