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23 Aug 2020, 4:39 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
AuroraBorealisGazer wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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I know you did, but you can't expect me to remember every post written in a long thread. I haven't even interacted with you nor I expressed what I think of your advice.


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To try and equate what I said to "catcalling might work for 0.01%" is irrational.


It is not, passing a such note paper to a stranger is pretty close to catcalling.


AuroraBorealisGazer wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I don’t have the “key” to women...that’s for darn sure.

I didn’t have a particular “method” that I used to date women. I went by my instincts.

I usually met women through friends, anyway. I was unsuccessful in bars and “singles functions.”


You give good input Kraftie. I hope you didn't think my comment was directed at you.


In other term, any input that you agree with = "good input".

And any input that you disagree with = "bad and dismissive of me". :mrgreen:



Boo we are from two very different cultures. OP lives in the US (as do I), where there is a very big difference between passing your number off to someone your acquainted with and catcalling a random person walking on the street. I can't speak for your country. But I can say that as an American who has been catcalled before, and also approached by strange men while working in customer service positions, passing a note with your number is one of the least creepy things someone could do.

From your comment about people who disagree with me you have not only shown that you leap to faulty conclusion based on scant evidence, but that you take me for an irrational person, which I am not. Let me be clear, I said Kraftie gave good input, not because we always agree, but because he considers his words and doesn't make sweeping declarations. I classify your advice as bad because it was based on generalizations and didn't consider the cultural differences between you and OP. If you ever read my posts on this forum it will be evident that I have no issue with people disagreeing with me as long as their logic is sound.


I may be from a different culture but not from a different planet, so please don't attempt to dismiss my advice just because I am of a different culture. :roll:; this is a very cheap attempt of alienating, AuroraBorealisGazer - this is typical btw and I am really starting to get sick of this.

There are others here who think the paper thing is very bad, and they're westerners (2 Americans and 1 Canadian) like alex, RightGalaxy and cyberdad. RightGalaxy and cyberdad even described the act as creepy / desperate - yet I am the only one you chose to associate my culture to my advice.


I'm sorry if I have offended you. My intent was to be considerate of why we may have vastly different views on this issue. Please understand that to me catcalling is a very important issue, and in my opinion as someone who's experienced it, does not compare to a non-threatening note.

I would ask that you consider my point of view on this issue: being catcalled by a group of strange men while walking alone is a very scary experience. There have been many cases where it turns into a physical assault on the victim. Conversely, when I have been at my job and someone who I'm friendly with approaches me, I do not fear for my safety. If that person were the hand me their number in a non-threatening manner, I would not have to worry about how I will respond because he's left the decision up to me. If I were to feel threatened by this person, it's more likely I would have co-workers and customers who could help me.

So from that, can you see my point of view? You don't have to agree with my opinion, I just hope we can come the understand each other better.