Do you miss someone right now?

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Whether or not the person we miss is "good" for us - if we miss them, we miss them!

I miss the ex-wife for the warm, caring person she used to be... and consider me perma-bumped for missing my amazing children!

I miss looking at my chubby hamster eating.

Yes but this is a free open forum for people who are individuals, people who will say things without being tactful, people who will say things that do not necessarily pertain to social rules or boundaries. People on the spectrum tend to have rants or speeches, although I do appreciate your effort to bring order to the topic and I think it's important that there is order otherwise we would be rambling off the charts, haha.

Anyway trying to stay on the topic, I don't know if you want empathy or advice, it's difficult for me to tell but...

I am not saying that fame itself is attractive but if someone is being valued for creativity and doing what they love, that is an attractive trait to me. I guess the closest experience that anyone can relate to on here is similar to being lead on or having a fling with someone and thinking it meant more than it did? or wanting more than just a fling? That can really make you feel used and that's why I have started to agree with Nessa that flings and friends with benefits aren't that good because people are just using each other or one is using the other for sex. However for the guy I was last year, it was the right thing and if this guy isn't ready for a relationship, you just have to let him be and try to move on as tough as it sounds...I don't really know what else to say about it.

I'd advice you to say nothing, I didn't post here for an opinion.

Besides, you have completely misestimated the situation: Some weeks ago, I told this person to his face in a not so friendly tone that I wasn't interested in him at all as a potential partner. He replied quietly with an indication that he in fact, had hoped for something more serious. It was very unexpected for me... Hence my utter confusion and frustration.

Well I wouldn't say completely misestimated because it still goes back to my point that when intentions aren't clear and sex is taken lightly, things can get complicated. People should be sincere and clear when it comes to communicating their feelings honestly otherwise it can lead to messy situations.

Frankly, you are not the best person to talk about that topic. I will not continue this conversation.

You're right, I know that I haven't been the perfect example in that aspect and there are times I need to be more tactful and sensitive towards others. Relationships and situations can be a lot more difficult when you are in that situation but it just goes to show none of us are perfect, you aren't perfect, i'm not perfect, relationships can be complicated and feelings can get messy, there's nothing wrong with admitting it.

Now you realize how easy it is to take the side of the other person and point the finger. Anyone can come on here and point the finger, even if they have no idea of the full situation and only part of it, that's what I felt you were doinlg the other day.

Everyone can make themselves look good on paper, anyone can wear a candy coated mask but what's wrong with just being who you are? People make mistakes, anyone can fall into difficult situations from sports stars to fashion models.

Dude wtf are you talking about? Are you really that butt hurt over how people treat you based on what you do? The other day you made a thread where just about everyone in wp, including people who try and fight each other at any chance given, agreed that you did something terrible. Learn some responsibility and also how to deal with s**t instead of going out and blaming everyone and holding stupid grudges. I've not seen someone this clueless about how bad they sound. And changing tune every time you're caught off guard doesn't help you in any way either.

TL:DR deal with your own s**t like an adult and stop being holier than Thou to anyone who has a differing viewpoint. And stop with these long posts that don't actually have any meaning or value to them.

Poor lil' wolf being attacked by the big bad blonde. Ohh wait, the story went the other way around...

Wolf,

You are once again making a personal attack on me and it is for petty reasons completely out of anything discussed on this thread or anything that I have actually done. In the thread you are referring to, you asked for people's opinions about your situation and you had all 8 pages of ALL people present telling you that you're acts were wrong. I had recognized the same patterns from your earlier cases told by you personally and gave you the same critique as I already had. You haven't altered your ways, so you can hardly expect the response being any different.

You have taken over the thread with once again attempting to make a point about your own awesomeness and others being just as bad as you are when it comes to making mistakes.

I still see absolutely no effort in you trying to improve your ways and that is sad.

We might need a mod here... This is getting out of control.

Besides I don't see myself as perfect, everyone has moments when they could be more tactful or sensitive. Everyone is fallible, I am meeting new people, running a business and developing new relationships and connections. I'm on a post cycle from the steroids and my doctor is helping me quit diazepam so I am working towards making a change for the better.

I'm simply saying it's easy to criticize someone if you haven't been in that situation but things don't always go to plan, relationships are dynamic and complicated.

I'm not a war criminal neither do I deal drugs or commit any crimes like rape or theft, there are people committing far worse crimes. I'm trying to run a respectable business and it's not just about making money to me, it's about integrity, trust and valuing clients.

Sure, there might be damaged relationships or damaging things I have done in personal relationships but like I said, I move on positively, grow and focus on the next goal. On top of that, i'm great with animals and kids which seems to help work clients and always a helping hand if I see someone in need or someone in an unjust situation.

I have had fights when people started on friends of mine and I have even had girls ask me to protect them from guys that were harassing them in public.

Just because there's worse does not condone something. But this is actually what we mean by the victim and hero complex you have. Complaining how unfairly you're treated and of how much you go out to help. It does not justify any actions of yours.

Bluemax and MXH are spot on in their posts.

Wolf, as it has been said too many times, there being worse possible crimes out there doesn't make your acts or behaviour any better and the things you choose to do on a repetitive basis can't be simply dismissed as "nobody's perfect" or "everyone makes mistakes".

You speak very pompously about growing and wanting to grow to a better person. I encourage any change for the better, so I wish all the best with it with the hope that you are being truthful about wanting to alter your ways. The problem is that we are yet to have seen any change for the positive here: you keep acting exactly in the same manner that keeps getting you in trouble and no amount of defending your claimed values or merits will take the attention away from that. If you have to try to convince us or yourself again and again as worthwhile by listing your claimed positive traits, you do realize that there is something fundamentally wrong? Leave flattery to others and concentrate in remembering that your acts here speak far louder than any self advertisement as a "wounded hero".

I never said that makes me exempt of bad actions or even being fallible but surely if you think of yourself as some kind of infallible being, you are misguided. The point is that there is damage done in the past, as well as hurt but there's strength, growth, love and well as you know, I have also had supportive relatives and friends that have been invaluable to me. I only hope that I can inspire others to overcome their obstacles and to grow into gaining long term employment or at least some type of fulfilment in doing what they love like I am.

Of course I haven't been perfect in the past few months because I have been faced with so many new situations and challenges, there's more to come in this competitive world. I'm still defensive and cautious even to people I might be dating or working for, however I do think trust and mutual respect are very important and hopefully this is something I can share or work towards with a partner.