Why do guys hate fat chicks?

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I wouldn't say its 'hate' but more of 'not interested' at a first glance. As it is, many times the first glance = first impression which is pretty much the moment people set the labels and behavioral rules / mask to use with this other person.

that's where the 'pretty/thin' girls and 'handsome/muscular' guys have a serious advantage over the rest: the first impression.

One of my previous jobs there was this woman who would talk to me every now and then and say Hi to me more than others did.. she was a bit shorter than me and her figure was overweight bordering obese and you could see it in her face as well. Actually she had the body type and looks similar to the woman on mudboy's 2nd pic, girl to the far left.

She was sweet and funny and hard working. Everyone got along with her just fine and she was a cool person to be around. A year went by until a few people told me she liked me and was hitting on me for months... whoa.

I never noticed!

but.. as shameful as it is to say it.. if she had been thin I would have noticed.


Do have your thyroids checked as others have suggested. My sister stopped smoking suddenly (literally..one day to another went from a pack a day to zero) and that sent her metabolism into a spin.

she had hypothyroidism ... and in 3 months she gained like 100 lbs. she stopped gaining weight after she started smoking as lightly as possible.. and is now weaning herself off it and trying to exercise the weight off. the weight did horrors to her self esteem and she's working on that too.

exercise is very important and so is your diet. Again, with my sister's case, we went on a family trip where we walked like CRAZY for a whole month. every day we walked about 10 miles on touristic hikes and such. we all ate the same food, we all did the same walk, etc. my parents and I lost about 20lbs that month just walking. she didnt. the only difference was that she drank her diet coke every day while we drank green tea or tang or fruit juices.

ever since that day shes also struggling to get rid of her 2nd addiction.. diet soda.

little things like that can make a big difference

I know a very charismatic girl who seems like she really gets around..she is married and poly and seems like she has dated a lot of guys...and she is pretty heavy set...There are guys who go for that...my business partner has dated her and several women who are quite a bit larger than me.

I am only 10 lbs overweight, and I have had my self esteem battered by dating a guy who will never stop reminding me that is attracted to really skinny girls...he just will not ever drop it...and I am working on ending the relationship...I would also like to continue to lose weight....even though, for him it would not ever matter anymore, because I am not his physical ideal.......but he was the catalyst for my losing 20 lbs during the time I have been dating him...so I guess that is something positive

I try not to be a "weightist" I really think it is more about how one carries ones self that it is about how much someone weighs. I would rather be really overweight with a healthy self image than HWP and disgusted with myself because I will never look like the Aeon Flux girl or somesuch....

My self esteem is such that I feel like crap because I will never be an ectomorph...but in reality, there are most likely plenty guys who would date me...at least for a while..and...maybe some day I won't feel so disgusted with myself anymore....

Maybe some day my stupid friend might miss me and realize that just because someone is physically attractive to him does not mean that they will be able to make him happy..dunnow...could be that he is right and if he keeps on chasing that rainbow of the girl who looks like a store mannequin then that will be the fulfillment to his life that he needs....I am told that it is mature for me to take time out for myself

Change doctors.

It measures your fat. What the doctors do is pinch at your skin and they know what part is fat and what part isn't. And they add it up and it tells you.

They would just chuck the weight back on if they did that. Our bodies go into starvation mode when we starve ourselves so when we start eating normal again, you gain it right back. That's why weight goes up so quick for people with eating disorders. In fact your body ends up storing it as fat than using it because it thinks you are going to starve yourself again.

So overweight people just starving themselves to lose weight, they will just gain it right back once they start eating three meals a day again. That happens to everybody. Even thin people when they lose some weight.

If you like video games, you can buy one of those dance revolution games. They make you exercise. But I feel they don't always give me enough unless I change the settings to hard. Plus I have done some work outs as I am watching TV such as sit ups or leg ups.

As long as the person wasnt huge! then yeah sure i cant see why not

Yeah, guy and girls who cheat, do so because they can. On the other hand, I worked with an NT that was about 400 lbs. He refused monogamous relationships and had 4 current girlfriends and was working on the 5th the last I saw him. All his girlfriends totaled was probably close to his own weight.

Anyhow, now let me get on my soapbox. Sometimes weight problems are genetic and there isn't much you can do about it short of surgery. But many other times, the problem is because of mothers refusing to breast feed and using formula instead. Worse, and is frequently seen in the seriously obese, mothers use home made formula (karo syrup and sweetened condensed milk) that has a near 100% correlation to obesity problems in children and later as adults.

So if you ever have children, please remember the hell you will condemn your children to if you don't breast feed.

[end soapbox mode]

I don't know if my mother breastfed me or not. I'll ask her later I guess. >.>

I know my grandmother did. Her breasts grew out to a E when she had four kids and since I'm built similar to her, it'll probably happen to me too. After her kids grew past that stage, her boobs are down to a DD. I'm afraid for mine to get that big. I like my Cs. >.<

I was breastfed until I was three, and I never get sick and I never put on weight, no matter how much I eat. So, hmm....

My mom couldn't breast feed because she had breasts reduction surgery due to a medical reason. And I am still thin. But I feel fat sometimes. I don't like to eat lot of food.

You're probably more accurate, after all, e=mc squared proves how little matter you need for explosive amounts of energy.



Nick, where do you think fat comes from in the first place? It cannot come out of thin air, it comes from the food we eat. Losing it is hard once we are already fat. But if someone skinny eats properly most of them should not get fat in the first place unless they have quite a serious thyroid malfucntion or other body process. You usually can't get fat off eating salads and lean meat and nuts unless you eat about 50 kgs of it a day.

Its just unfortunate when some people eat the wrong foods, their body functions it differently (usually to something not functioning properly, thyroid for instance) than someone else and the body stores the fat of the food we put into ourselves, where the other person burns it off. The point is though, they're still putting the wrong foods into themselves to begin with.

I'm not skinny but I'm not obese or anything. I'm 5 foot 3, 145 lbs or so. I'd like to get down to 125 but it's really hard for me to get up the strength to exercise. I walk daily as I take public transport everywhere, and I eat a vegetarian diet. But I like food-especially bread and sweets and alcohol. Food is like a drug, a serious addiction, and I think it's much harder than people realize to lose weight and keep it off.

That said, because I have such an aversion to my OWN chub I don't find myself attracted to fat folks. A little fat is okay, but I just don't like the look of fat. I hate looking at mine in the mirror.

What's interesting is I can have processed foods and canned foods and not gain weight. Maybe I have to eat them everyday to gain? Same as having sweets but I cut back on them.

But I don't eat TV dinners anyway. I call them junk.

That is how I am too for the most part. I dont gain unless Im inactive for over a month. At least Im happy that my doctors gave me the OK to finally do most exercises again.

The problem doesn't so much come from the processed and canned food, so much as from the lack of fresh food people eat when they replace it in their diets with food that stores better. It may store better, but there is no way to make a lot of the nutrients last, so it simply can't make up for fresh food (the same goes for cooking. Most of the nutrients that your body can use are destoyed). A lot of those nutrients are required to make digestive enzymes *, so you can be slowing the part of your metabolism related to digestion down, simply due to you not having enough enzymes to digest your food properly.

The thing about processed food is, it's loaded with artifical flavors and flavor enhancers, to the point that in comparison, natural fresh food is rather low in taste in comparison, and the senses of people who eat a lot of processed food adapt, to the point they can barely taste natural foods. However, if you avoid anything with those additives, you'll find natural food tastes so much better, and has a much wider range of flavors.

Most nutritionists would consider dieting to loose weight to be a complete waste of time. You're making a very dramatic change to what you're eating, for the sole purpose of losing weight over as short a period as possible, and the result is you're not likely to stick it out because it's not a pleasant experience. On top of that you're not doing something healthy, because you're actually starving your body of a lot of what it needs in the process. As has already been mentioned, starving yourself just makes your body store everything it can, and also pile the weight back on as soon as you get back to your old diet.

It's a much better idea to just gradually adjust your normal diet, so you don't get put off from the sudden change. You can actually see the benefits happening when you do this. Your body takes time to adjust to changes, so you should give it that time. Instead of sitting around being miserable because your diet is making you hungry all the time, just eat until you're less hungry. Give it long enough, and your stomach will adapt naturally, so you don't need to eat so much to stop being hungry. Give your body time (and nutrients) to repair and build healthy organs, and the weight will start to come off/stay off for additional reasons, besides what's in your food, and how much exercise you're doing.


* As well as complex proteins needed for growth and repair of the body's systems, and for producing neurotransmitters, which is why low immunity and depression are at least in part caused by bad diet.