Blog post on the epidemic of forced celibacy in males

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This thread should make clear to men like Nostromos and Slipperman how hopeless it is to expect any understanding from women or feminist men. You are wasting time trying to explain what drove Sodini over the edge to such people, but you do understand. I would like to say more but this is a heavily censored forum where I am not free to express my views. I recommend that open minded men look elsewhere, to less censored places, to find their answers. I would be glad to give suggestions privately. My email is [email protected] .


One other point:

If there's one thing I hope any guy who identifies with anything about George Sodini realizes, it's this: he never learned a f#cking thing.

I think that's worth repeating: he never learned a f#cking thing. He was not a man gifted with introspection; he did not allow his experiences with women to alter his approach to dating. Shortly before he slaughtered a bunch of innocent women - women who were wives, mothers, girlfriends, daughters, sisters - he still stubbornly maintained he was entitled to snag a hot young thing. George Sodini could have gotten laid - if he'd realized that his problem was much deeper than anything some BS PUA "bible" could resolve - and if he'd done something about those problems.

Even a few days before the mass murder, he met a nice woman on his bus ride home from work. But the prospect of that relationship wasn't enough to keep him from indulging his murderous rage against women who did nothing more than join the same health club. Instead, he resigned himself to the idea that any relationship with her would end as all those had before. So what's wrong with this picture? Well, to my mind, it's the part where he failed to assess what he could do differently in order to change the outcome. Instead, he chose to blame his failure on every woman on the planet.

I hope that lesson isn't lost on any guy reading this thread, or reading this @sshole's stupid blog. If you can't get a date, be willing to make some substantial changes in your life. Be prepared to do things you don't want to do. Get a therapist, talk to a trusted NT friend/relative, ask for advice, and listen to what you're told. Don't blame, don't judge, don't insult, don't get defensive - just freaking listen. And then get help to come up with a plan to make the changes you need to make.

If you can get a date, but can't make a relationship work, figure out what you're doing wrong (that means you have to be willing to accept that you're doing something wrong). Get a therapist, work out your childhood issues, your mommy issues, your bad relationship issues. Be honest. Realize that admitting your faults and/or weaknesses (and addressing them) actually makes you a stronger man.

And finally, you need to understand that women can sense anger - even during a brief encounter with a stranger. Someone lamented earlier in this thread how frustrating it is that women (stranger or not) don't provide constructive feedback when rejecting a man's advances. Yes, it would be great if women were willing to do that. It would be great if we lived in a society that supported women in that way. But we don't. Maybe you would politely thank a woman who offered such feedback, but most men wouldn't. Most men would call her a b***h, a dyke, ugly, etc., and stagger drunkenly away. And some men would add that feedback to a slow-burning bonfire of rage, and target that woman....just the way George Sodini targeted his victims. We've talked about this before, guys. A woman is not going to risk her safety in order to help some random guy improve his chances of getting a date. It's not fair, but accept it and move on, cause it's not going to change. At the very least, commit to working on resolving whatever anger issues you have toward women because of previous rejections. Cause if you're lucky enough to find a woman who's willing to give you a shot, you don't want to scare her away by raging at her because she's not capable of healing your emotional wounds.

George Sodini destroyed a lot of lives, all because he wasn't willing to take a hard look at himself and take responsibility for his own mistakes - and he still didn't get laid. I certainly hope he's burning in hell for being such a selfish coward.

It took a long time to process it, I meant. Much better now, happier.