22 Aug 2011, 2:44 pm
Good stuff, basic 
I think that a lot of the standard stuff that guys need to learn doesn't get handed out a lot, it's a good thing I had friends that I could look towards to learn from subconsciously, as well as my dad.
SadAspy, come on man. You're digging a hole for yourself mentally, it's kind of depressing to see. I'm not insulting you, I'm merely hoping that you can see that self-improvement is not some impossible mountain to climb. I think the best thing you can do right now is to completely forget about trying to attract women. Stop talking about it, getting angry about it, everything. The bitterness will consume you completely (if it hasn't already). And it will be very difficult to progress in life if all you are is bitter. Trust me on that one.
I know that it will be difficult to attract the kind of woman that I would be attracted to, but fortunately for me, that also relates to the kind of life I want to be able to carve out for myself. So I'm taking steps to sort out my life and get myself to that point, so I can expand my social circle, and thus be able to find a woman I am compatible with (I may even find her before then). I don't just mean financially either. I believe in you SadAspy. If I can do it, and many others on this forum can do it then so can you. Rejections are part of the game, you'll soon realise that.
Treat it like a computer game even. If you lose, it doesn't matter, you have unlimited continues.
If you win (i.e. get a date) you are at stage 2 or whatever, clocking up EXP everytime. There's info out there on how to be more social (I have a Carlos Xuma audio book called Ultimate Inner Game, which is incredible). Come on son........
It could be WAY worse mate, honestly. We trap ourselves in our own misery if we allow ourselves.
22 Aug 2011, 3:28 pm
7.)If a woman that you aren't dating or sleeping with is telling you about her problems, it means that you're essentially in the friend zone. She views you as understanding like one of her female friends. If you sense she's just using you for a shoulder to cry on, a cab, etc., just cut her off. No explanation necessary. If it's a true friend but you find her bringing her problems to you, tell her simply "Maybe you should be talking to one of your girl friends about this." She will respect you and treat you like a potential dating interest.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say the vast majority of women, NT or Aspie, would hardly respect a person who treats people this way, let alone want to date them. If a dude isn't even interested in being my friend, why the hell should he become something more?
true, true. i
your answer. and where the heck have you been, Bethie? missed your wisdom around here!I agree 100%.
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22 Aug 2011, 4:34 pm
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