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Aren't these called "chavs" there?

An orange person.



Chavs. I realise this is taking the mick but umm...visit Basildon.

I've tried both ok stupid and POF,not sure I like either.I keep getting "want to meet you" from men in their twenties or seventies.And one creepy message from a man who wanted to massage me
There are no orange people here,are they trying to look like Oompa Loompas?
You are a nice guy in attitude and looks JM,someone will notice.Im sure you have better prospects than the dating scene here.

So how's okcupid going for you Januaryman? Any dates?

Zilch. TBH, I give up with it. My pictures aren't too great and I have no real means of getting any good ones for a long time now so I might as well not bother.
I've sent out a few messages now, nothing back. I've had people rate my profile yes, a few. I've had a couple of conversations where I was expected to carry the entire convo like some sort of entertainer (hello, princess, you're supposed to be interesting too!). There are some girls on there that seem great but I honestly have no way of telling if I can't score a date with any of them, let alone hear what they have to say back.

I do okay locally without a dating site, frankly this is just damaging to my esteem and unnecessarily so.
I'm obviously good enough for girls in my area not on those sites, but I don't live up to the standards expected of me from women on that site. It could be something as small as my writing style, who knows. I'll just tell myself they are too picky and that answer to my question of "why?!" will suit me just fine.

Edit: Guys, DO compliment them on how they look and be classy about it. I can never bring myself to do this specific bit which could be my undoing on such sites.

It seems like OKC is complete anti aspie territory, or at least completely anti male aspie.

Yes if you don't have good pictures and don't fit the pop culture mold of what is attractive than you will have a hard time. I disabled my account a while ago too.

Except for geeko. He got 11 dates from Ok Cupid in 1 year or something like that.

I got dates from okc too, 6 out of Okc, 1 real life, and 3 through different online means, that's like since last summer.

Half of them were just one-time meet ups tho, some were bad memories.

but I didn't end up with girlfriend...oh well.

(well, if you consider a relationship lasting a month as gf/bf with kissing and making out then yea I had gfs out of those).

^ wth?! how is that not a relationship????

A month isn't a relationship. That's friends with benefits type of deal.

I'd call it just dating, personally. Depends how official you both felt it was.

*cough cough* perhaps this explains why so many of us are single

There are plenty of Aspie (and other socially Awkward-type) women on OKC (at least in my area.) I've personally met at least 4 through OKC.

-My girlfriend
-Another date I had that ended up becoming a great friendship (no romantic chemistry though.)
-One where we had a few dates/hookups before she started getting flakey.
-A terrible date. She didn't self identify but it was obvious with her stimming and other things. Found her very annoying for varius reasons.

One trend I did notice was many of these women I talked to would describe their exes (often not knowing what AS is) and they would fit the Aspie description to a T.
-Another (later became a friend/raiki teacher) also specifically said they used to date a guy on the spectrum. Later, I met her ex and we became buddies.
-One of the cited reasons this green-haired Gemini girl I was seeing (for a few months) didn't want to commit to me was because I reminded her too much of her ex-husband (i'll beit a kinder more self assured version.)
-Had an awkward first date where the girl said I reminded her of her ex. Never responded back.

I met multiple women who were compatible with my type but had that type ruined already. In other words. Aspies who were lucky enough to get a relationship then ruining it for the rest of us because they ended up being as*holes. These guys were very much like how I used to be when I started this dating expirement........ Desperate for a relationship but lacking the emotional maturity to handle a real one which only serves to give awkward guys a bad reputation.



Also.......
11 dates averages out to less than 1 a month which is not that much, imo (especially considering I made dating a special interest.) Usually, I'd have a long dry spell and then all of a sudden 3 or 4 women would be in my orbit (honestly, I suspect the same will happen with Januaryman if he keeps trying.) Could be quite overwelming. Got nearly as many dates offline too but it requires legwork and effort sometimes.

Any regular girl can have that number of dates in 1 month from okc.

**cough** sorry, I couldn't resist but spiting it out

I am just not clear as to how kissing and making out isn't some kind of relationship

I mean, who goes around randomly making out with complete strangers !?

I know Americans have this term 'dating' which means people can see multiple other people and kiss/make out with them and that's completely normal, but (correct me if I am wrong), that sort of thing is not very common in Europe and even if it was, I'm not sure I could ever make out with more than one person on a regular basis - isn't that cheating?

anyway, as an Aspie, I probably need to know a person better than their own mother before I'd even consider kissing them, so this is a moot point as we were talking about 'normal' girls