nurseangela wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Boys never get trained how to hit on girls; all they learn from the media and from their early expérience that if the hit on comes from an unwanted boy, then he would be called "creepy" "stalker", or "desperate" or something like that by the girl.
This is very true. Being raised by a single mother didn't help. Maybe they should actually teach something useful in sex education like how to hit on girls, instead of just explaining the difference between mitosis and meiosis and then slipping a condom on a banana.
My parents' generation where I live had the semi-arranged marriage way as the norm (through family connections, introducing matches...etc) - so even dad and most of the married men of this generation are totally clueless of how to approach women on their own.
So how come you didn't have an arranged marriage? Is that taboo now?
Not much common anymore,
at least, not in the middle class and urban areas. Among Christians (who are about 40%),
it got even less popular but it was very common among their parents' generation.
This how things went: it starts from a female family member of the guy , usually the mother, older sister, grandma, or even aunt - who plays the role of the match seeker, often seeking among people of the same "religious community" -among friends, friends of friends, distant family, in the past even cousins (2nd/3rd cousins mostly) - and set up a meeting between the guy and the potential bride - first time often within the girl's parental house, if she says yes (and usually if her parents say yes too)- her family later may accept the guy to start "dating" her outside the house; but this is usually for very few times before engagement; the latter usually last a couple of years before marriage.
Now, things were'nt always as rosy though; because if the guy is too rich (and it's expected from him to pay for everything, housing, wedding costs...etc) and her parents got greedy, they would exerce great pressure on her to accept him even if she didn't like him - this often ended bad later on.
As for me, my mom is a senior math teacher - hightly educated, same for sister and I can't even imagine them going matchmakers Lol ...hell no... nauseating.
Yeah, this tradition is totally dead in my family.