Online dating is pointless as a guy

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Strictly my own experience but every single woman I dated except two made less money than me (at least I can assume that). The two that made more VERY quickly lost interest when they discovered I was only searching for a $70,000/yr job and hadn't obtained it yet.

Still, I see plenty of couples in real life where the woman makes more than the man and they seem to be doing fine.


I had a group of younger women in a elevator with me once. Without warning, one of the women looks at me and says "you look just like a serial killer." Her friends were clearly embarrassed and in hindsight I should have said "thank you. Serial killers are successful because generally look good."


This is important to remember when a date tells you they don't have time. When I met my wife, I not only worked full time but played two sports and was training for a 10km race! I STILL found three days a week to see her.
True, but that doesn't make it any less rude. Whatever happened to provide polite closure? If not for basic human decency don't these people realize that one day they may be in a job interview with the same person? Obviously if I met any of my flakes in an interview I would quickly shred their resume.


Nobody specifically called me "not an adult" but it was implied more than once. You are right though that I should have immediately (verbally) fought back. Who the 5%$# are they to judge on a 10 minute coffee date? They are obviously in the exact same boat! Luckily I am permanently done with online dating and the entitled attitudes it fosters.

I had no success with online dating either. I think women make a list of the characteristics of their ideal man and if you fall short in any one particular then you are out. I'd be having an online conversation with someone and they would just stop replying without explanation. One girl told me it was never too soon to ask someone out. Yet some seemed to want to do a text exchange for a while. Some said they'd met someone else when they didn't even know me well enough to not choose me.

I'd go meet a girl now and then and I usually felt that they were nice and I could hang out with them but then they would never respond again. One girl acted insulted when I told her I thought we could be friends. One girl with the handle FunMoreFun I arranged to meet for dinner. I should have specified which specific location of the restaurant I meant and not assume the original location was the default. We failed to meet but I felt she didn't take it very seriously and didn't try very to sort out the confusion.

My therapist suggested I put Daguerreotype Collecting in my profile. I found out however that unusual hobbies do not attract online women. I do agree they look for superficial things. If you're not into "normal" things like sports and social butterfying then you are out.

Girls on Craiglist or backpage even in the normal dating section, (not the looking for sex section) are all call girls who don't even read your profile though they'll say they loved it, and offer sex and I'm sure they expect me to pay for it. They are willing to travel hundreds of miles from a far away state. They'll say, "Distance means nothing when it comes to love." Right, if the guy bis loaded with money and is willing to buy you.

I’m busy from 8am to 12am. So guess if I start drinking energy drinks again and taking cafine pills I could skip sleep but then there’s no buses past 12 am and nothings happing. The only day I have off is Sunday and the bus times are few and again. Othings happening, all the groups and clubs take place weekday nights when I’m working.
Guessing you drive? Taking the bus here ads 2 hours to and two hours back to any trip. So that 5 hour shift is a 9 hour shift. Going to the gym is 2-3 hours cause it’s little closer. Leaves me enough time to shower, eat and get changed for work. Yay so maybe if I wasn’t going to the gym and didn’t work nights I would be able to but meh why would I go hang out with a bunch of lonely aspie men. Or geeky men. I don’t share common female interests. I don’t like dancing, shopping, sewing, knitting, or crafting.

Yeah when a woman makes 100,000 and guy makes 70,000 they might be ok I make 9,000 a year! What woman making 20,000 and up is going be ok with a man who makes less then a teenager? See people don’t get it I don’t care that female executives might accept male executives who make slightly less that has nothing to do with my situation.

Take nurse angel iim guessing she makes about 40,000 a year or so. She won’t date s guy who makes less then that. Most nurses and teachers won’t. Min wager working women won’t either. What women do you know who’d date a guy who makes 9,000 a year and is constantly at risk of losing his job? I’ll always make about 9,000,while she’ll keep getting promoted and paid more. So the difference will get worse and worse. Such women don’t want a guy who can’t pay half they say they see him as a mooch. I’ll never be able to pay half. I make 9,000 pre tax, while even min wage women make twice that.

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I get it. Women are evil and horrible and we want to destroy the world. Women never have to worry about their own safety and well-being when doing just about anything men have always been allowed to do. And that's why God punished us with the horrible pain of childbirth and we totally deserve to be abused and raped and treated like lower life-forms. I do SO get it!

Didn’t say evil. Most women are superficial, society in the USA is highly superficial it’s why we treat homeless people sub human, they don’t contribute to society so they are worthless and should just die, it’s survial of the fittest as a lot of atheist say.
I worry about my safety all the f*****g time,so do a lot of men, men get mugged stabbed, killed too. Men also get attacked for little stuff like say yiu glance at some guys gf. Now he has to defend her honor by beating the s**t out you. Men get abused and raped too. There’s whole shows about women killing their husbands children or bfs, women cheat and get their sex buddy to kill their husband too, or hire hitmen which is lucky now adays usually a undercover officer. They primarily use poison over time slowly making their husband sicker and sicker til he dies whole time he thinks his wife is s great and loves him.

Also no men are the lower life forms, women are superior. It sucks being a man women deem worthless. I’ve been abused too, sexually molested, I’ve been sexually harassed once as an adult too.

I’ve seen th women’s threads about how horrible other women treat female aspies, why is it ok for them to treat men horrible, why jump to defense of women yiu don’t onow who’d likely treat you horrible. I don’t get it. I don’t think anyone here is saying aspie women are like that, most aspie women are, few are, but most have been treated badly too. Most men are horrible too. I won’t defend them or pretend they don’t exist, most men are only into sex with hot thin women, a lot of them see women as sex objects, a good minority of them will physically abuse women, a lot of men verbally abuses women too just as much as women verbally abuse men, humanity at large is horrible. If some highly advanced alien race came here they’d be so utterly shocked and appalled they might just d th universe a favor wipe us out. The minority who’s good and kind don’t make u for the majority.

I really don’t get why women here take this personal like admitting women out there are like this somehow means your like this, your not, your not your not, they are though. Who they are and what they do has no zero nata nothing to do about you or effects you, besides that most guys will initially fear you are one of them and yiu might get passed up cause if it, but that’s about it.

Thanks to the women here who just say you bunch of women are like that yiu just have to find the good ones, you see to be able to separate yiu and how you are from other women and how they are, rather then feel the need to defend all women regardless of their actions and if you agree with them.

I will never defined absurd sexist men

Hugs. Sorry if I upset yiu. Though it doesn’t change my opinion on majority of women. Aspie women are part of the majority usually.

Don’t forget “the curse”! Bleeding for one week a month (if you’re “lucky”), every month from puberty to menopause, without dying. What a pain in the uterus.

What this rant of yours has anything to do with guys' complains about their experiences regarding internet dating in this topic? Your rant won't change their real experiences.

And no, you are not entitled to a guy who makes more money than you just because you are a woman, in case this is what triggered you.

To all the people saying that women are only like that on dating sites cause there’s more men then women in dating sites, what happens when there’s more men then women in a city? Wouldn’t yiur same logic then happen in person?

There’s 3-4,000 more men then women in my city. Not including all the college women from other cities, states,and nations that come to attend the university.

Still, that doesn't entitle you to have a guy making more money than you.
Go rant elsewhere about women's physiological pains, such as the Women's forum.

Can’t change that. Men get bald and have fragile hanging balls.

What I can do and would do is try to make that week better for a gf if I had one. Bringing her chocolate, cooking food, offering lots of comfort hugs and cuddles, getting her supplies and anything else she needs.

I have a lot of love to give but no one to give it too. it’s probably just about the only thing I’d ever be good at. No special aspie talent for me.

Thumbs up. You have the right idea. I wish I had the answer for everybody. Have you tried meditation or eastern philosophy? 12 step groups have also been helpful to me as well.

Normal for dating sites. Both genders.



Again, normal for dating sites. You talk to multiple people at the same time. She didn’t “not choose you”, she just clicked with someone before your conversation with her went anywhere.



Again, this is extremely normal in dating. They don’t dislike you, they just can’t be bothered. It’s not you. It’s normal.



She was probably furious at being rejected and didn’t think you had the right to reject her. High horse mentality. Forget her.



This is interesting. I talk to other women. I know what they think is lame. What you mentioned we like, every girl I talked to on tinder thinks generic male interests are boring and standard.
It seems a lot of guys think that’s what we want to hear, that’s why so many tinder profiles have it. Your interest is very niche. Half the women probably don’t even know what it is.



I don’t know why you expect Craigslist people not to be a bunch of bottom feeding dead beats.

Doing what? If that’s true you have a more full and interesting life than most thrill seekers and celebrities. You’re busy for 16 hours every day?



If you work 20 hours a week, you have most of the day off on most days.

Maybe save for a car then? If you can afford to pay hundreds of dollars for a premium dating membership, you can save for a car.

Those female common interests Are very stereotypical. It’s not 1950.

Yes I agree with the female interests comment - this is soooooo outdated and probably fits a lot of ladies in their 60's and above.

I have a tool collection which would make most men envious who are into constructing things like I am. My best friend bought me a reciprocating saw to say thanks for looking after his dogs as he knew flowers would be lost on me.

Lots of ladies are into things like DIY these days as well as photography, foraging, collecting things, gardening and too many to mention which are either neutral or male friendly.

I was told by a few men not to mention about my enjoyment of using power tools and engineering skills as this could make a male feel inferior or make me seem to butch adding that men want feminine women.

So it would seem that none of us can win if this is the general way to attract the opposite sex by being the average of you own sex.

I actually get put off if a man is into sport and drinks a lot. These don't float my boat. Football is the worst thing a man can put on his profile because I instantly know he already has a love in his life so I am unlikely to ever be anything other than 2nd or 3rd best.

Also if a man spends a lot of time at the gym and doesn't have the time for dating then I would also give his profile a miss. This may sound like I am being a princess but if I am looking for a partner I want them to have enough time for our relationship and want to spend time with me. Notice I said 'our relationship'.