Still haven't found a girlfriend

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But goldfish I don't like my Stepbrother and i never have. I think he is a miserable git and him and my stepsister treated my mum terrible. Sometimes I wonder how the hell he found a girl like he has but now i now because he met her at the disability place he has that focused on their disability.

But you see this is the problem, they can speak well, they have no problems but if i ever did go to an autism meet up the majority of girls would look autistic and they wouldn't be able to talk very well. I've seen a program called the undatables on UK TV and if i'm honest i would not want my family meeting them.

Show me a video or picture of some girl who looks and acts normal who has autism and i might backtrack because i have been told by people that i don't even look or sound like i have autism, its just my social and confidence and not being able to cook very well

^ ugh.

So, what you're saying is that it's possible for males to not "look autistic" like yourself or myself or countless other males on this website & around the world.. but that every single last autistic female, 100% of them, "look autistic" and are therefore undateable?

Wrap your mind around how absurd that "all or nothing" thinking is and get back to us on that one.

Ok, well maybe i was wrong on that one. It is just i saw on you tube and saw this video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a34qMg0aF6w&t=71s

now this is wonderful and i bet she is a nice girl but i would want to her to be a positional girlfriend and i just assume most girls at autistic meetups would be like that and not like the picture that Allikit posted

A positional girlfriend?

potential

That is me (in the pic) and there was a thread before where alot of girls from this site shared their pics and they looked amazing.

Also when I tell people I'm autistic they often are shocked or don't believe me often thinking I am just shy

Also have no idea why I chpose that picture my nose looks awful

Perhaps you are assuming too much.
You won't know what people are like until you put yourself out there and actually meet some of them.
Not going because you assume all autistic girls will be like the one you've seen on YouTube is very closed thinking.

And it makes you sound like a bit of a dick, tbh.

Like what? She's not a super model, but she's not an unattractive girl, either. You mean Non-verbal? Even someone who is a non-verbal autistic isn't necessarily a "low functioning" person, obviously... I mean, look at her. Or you mean "low functioning" as in those who are stereotypically "very autistic"? Even at that, it's a very low % of people on the spectrum who are low functioning to the point that they're the type who were traditionally institutionalized in the past because they cannot function in society, or on their own, or with family etc... and even then, what of it? Sure, someone like that might not be your ideal mate.. but your whole attitude towards it is rather off putting TBH. In one breath you're telling the world you're so desperate for a date with virtually anyone.. and in the next you're saying "but not someone like this, they're not good enough." Meanwhile I'm sitting here thinking you'd be one damned lucky man if the girl in that video agreed to go on a date with you.

It's fine to have standards and ideals. It's kinda rude to exclude potential partners how you're going about it. IMO. It's also difficult for me to quite define the difference between the two. I think a part of it is simply because you're being very open and blunt about what it is you do and don't like about a potential partner, and not necessarily because you are being rude. There are some things that are better left unsaid because they're not "socially acceptable." ie IMO it is perfectly acceptable for someone to be attracted to a particular race and not others, simply because that's what turns them on. However, if you go and post things like that then chances are there will be people who call you racist for it & a debate will ensue. It's simply better not to openly state your racial preferences for others to judge you by.

I think she's beautiful.

She is really brave to put her self out there. I struggled to even put up a picture and she is there putting herself in front of thousands! I admire her greatly!

But this is the thing, You see i don't want to be someones carer. You see Raleigh i go to this drama group, now there are a few girls that go there, One girl i added on facebook at the start.

She messaged me saying, MY BOYFRIEND, SNOG ME, MARRY ME, I WANT SEX. Now i then found out she was known for this and had over 1000 friends on facebook from countries i can not even pronounce.
There are two other girls who have down syndrome so bad they can't even talk and i can't even understand them.
And there is another girl who acts younger then she is and her fave tv character is Sarah from a show called Coronation street.

Now i now these girls can't help it and i pray to god everynight because they don't deserve it. But me and my friend who go to this drama group are the real only able people and have to help the others.

Oh and i do think it is very brave that she has put herself on the internet.

That's quite typical for girls with down sydrome because they are so loving.

Autistic girls aren't like that at all trust me in fact even the girl in the video probably isn't like that

It's perfectly acceptable, IMO, to not want to be someone's carer nor for them to be yours. For some people out there, they WANT to be someone's carer and specifically are drawn to that sort of relationship partner. You're not one of those people, so, don't be that guy. Wait until you meet someone that's on your level.

As for being the only two more able people in the drama group.. ok, cool, so take pride in your ability to function higher in life and being able to help others out in the drama group. Don't look to those currently in the drama group as your potential dating pool. Look to it only as a drama group, a place for you to help bring others up while practicing and improving your own social skills - including your willingness and ability to help bring others up. Perhaps that is the social value of attending for you.. honing your social skills of being nice to others, helping them out. Other people will notice this positive trait about you and commend you for it.

Agreed w/ others.. pretty brave of her to put herself out there as a bit of a public figure on the internet. The boy I've been dating does this and has several thousand followers on YouTube. He's good at it and I hope he gets ever better at it, gaining an ever larger following of fans - and maybe getting discovered by a record company someday because of it. I'm no performer and it's not my thing, though. More power to anyone who does enjoy it & has talents, though!

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