Red flags in dating? Early stages

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How do you even approach a subject like that? Usually a person just says what they do for a living and they leave it at that. Next thing they will want to see is your taxes! What is wrong with people?!

I've never had a woman ask my salary.

Most of the women I know would think this is a great invasion of privacy.

I think it's a totally inappropriate question to ask, especially on a first date. It most likely indicates that she doesn't have the best intentions.

I'd never ask a guy this. I also wouldn't want him to tell me his salary so early on. It would be so awkward.

Last edited by TwilightPrincess on 12 Jan 2017, 10:59 am, edited 1 time in total.

I know what you mean it seems rude to ask about anyone salary.

Red flags:

Calls you weak because you asked for advice

Accuses you of being passive and unmotivated because you decided to wait and see what her short terms plans before you decided your next course of action

Accuses people of being manipulators if they question her views on relationships, despite the views being completely detached from reality.

Says they will never disappear without a reason, but does exactly that.

Abruptly goes from being very open to being very secretive.

Can't guarantee they won't cheat if things are not 100% their way all the time in a relationship, yet expects you to be completely unaffected if they actually do cheat.

Doesn't allow you opportunity to improve yourself, and if you do improve yourself, accuses you of trying to intentionally deceive them.

This post had red flags all over:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/ ... ith_my_bf/


Not respecting you and listening so she is late all the time and he keeps on doing it no matter what she tells him and it's affecting her life like her grades and her family life

Wanting her to be around him all the time (controlling)

Gets upset when she tries to talk about her issue they are having

Also the fact she is afraid her boyfriend will think she doesn't enjoy his company and not willing to make sacrifices for him

The hypocrisy. (He feels bad for making her late but yet still does it again and again)




Just because someone is "fun" and "passionate" doesn't mean they're compatible.

I wouldn't date the female version of you.

and oh, I forgot to mention here this one Jupiteriously gigantic red flag: viewtopic.php?f=17&t=334459

Oh, but it didn't stop only here.

I was really young back then and in both times I naively answered my real salary instead of pouring the juice over her head like what I would do now.
One of them was like "Oh, but at your age you should earn more" --> And she was an unemployed university student back then who was dropping and failing a lot of classes too.

Then a couple years later, there was this other one and she was like "Only that much?? Even I make slightly more than you" Despite my salary was above the national average.


Another red flag too: Women palying "Manhood" tests on the guy.

There was a someone I dated years ago, a beautiful blue-eyed blonde and sexually nympho (I swear, she was used to orgasm even on phone - her sister caught her several times).

Anyway, on the few dates we went together, even on the ones when I invited her (and I tried so hard to to make it my treat) but she insisted excessively to split the bill every time, by pulling her purse and putting the money on the table.

Days later, while we were chatting she mentioned that she was about a certain topic with her female friends (she probably made this up) and they were tell her that the guy who split the bill is usually a cheapskate, and she was saying that she somehow agrees with them.
And here she triggered the quarrel in me.

Then she tried to justify it, and tried to convince me that she wasn't referring to me in particular- but my trust in her behaviors died....and things went downhill from there.

I call these "Manhood" tests, it's something some women do in the dating world to test how much the guy is "typically" a man how far he would be treating her like a princess. This one for instance was trying to test my reaction on her insistence to split the bill and she was probably expecting me to react like putting her money back to her purse forcefully and be like "Me Man, me pay - rawwwr"

She got engaged recently. I don't envy this miserable fool.

That's just pure rudeness in my opinion.

Although I am guilty of letting my fiance treat me but only when he offers. It is kinda of fustrating sometimes when we have agreed to split the bill and he nabs it of me

I have an amazing idea for a thread!

It is "What red flags you see in the opposite-sex member above you" (or same-sex for homosexuals).

Oh....the drama!! !

Was this because of what I said?

Not really, but since you mention it, I think I can see some few red flags in you.

Good

Now that's just cruel.

I think it can be about anyone. Homosexual, bisexual, asexual, whoever is dating.