To all the bitter men

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Sadly i agree Alliekit and have found many aspie women share your opinion

Many aspie women here have said they wouldn't date an aspie male if they were available, and the ones that claim they would just so happen to be with NT men.

It doesn't matter if they're shy/awkward/nerdy/goth/metalhead/"weirdo" NT men - they are still NT.

Plenty of aspie women here also identify as aromantic asexuals with no need for romantic love, and some are also LG or T but rarely B it seems.

I do see LGBT men here but they seem more rare.

It seems aspie men are more likely to be bisexual or gay, and women lesbian, transgender, asexual or gender queer.

Even if the aspie men wanted to date aspie women, which some of them actually would be very willing to, including I use to, it seems some aspie women want little/nothing to do with us

Esecially because we're all fat, lazy, jobless whiny bitter misogynists who "clearly arent even trying to overcome their difficulties".

Some female users also constantly thrown those insults at aspie men.

And you wonder why some of them are bitter in the first place when their "own kind" don't even want anything to do with them romance wise.

This doesn't apply to all aspie women but is true for some.

And don't try and argue to me aspie men don't want to date aspie women, either. I am the only example of this I have ever met on this website. Most of the other men don't appear to mind.

Besides, id still give a nice compatible aspie girl a chance if she were willing to give me one.

Im not sure what your talking about. It looks like it yes but I wasnt trying to.

I cant date LGBT women, not because I don't want to but obviously gay women dont want to date me.

I would date a bisexual girl because i am myself.

I would date an asexual woman who never wants sex as long as she wants love.

Many aspie women here though say they dont want love or sex, so obviously i can't date them because they don't want to date anyone.

I'm not compatible with nerd/geek women. That doesn't mean i think they are not good enough for me, its just I've tried to date or be friends with nerd girl but no we aren't compatible.

We are too different, there are many things about them I dont like (does not make them bad people just means i dont like it) and theres many things they dont like about me. I wish I could be with them but it just doesn't work.

Alli want is a super plain, boring girl with not many hobbies or interests.

An average looking girl who looks very plain and average, down to earth and friendly,heterosexual or asexual but wants love or bisexual, and with a very ordinary persoality.

Many aspie women here seem super quirky and different nthan the other women. Im not attracted to super unique women.

You'd think my standards were low since super normal women are easier tonfind than super unique ones.

Maybe what I meant to say was that you actually proved it's not about women/men having certain standards which are set in stone somewhere. It's about personal preference.
Actually that could be a good thing to keep in mind: rejection is just about the other person's individual preference and therefore doesn't necessarily imply anything other than "hey ok I am not what this specific person is looking for". Even if it happens multiple times, still valid.
In Dutch there's a saying: there's a lid for every container (there's someone out there who will love and accept you for exactly who you are). Doesn't mean you can't be the best version of you to the best of your capacity but I think that's something you should do to make yourself happy.

A lot of N.T. women tend to want a man who is independent, lives alone, has a successful job, is educated, owns a car, drives, etc.

Men with Aspergers or other mental disorders tend to struggle to do these things more than the average man. Aspie women too.

So for some aspie men these things are incredibly difficult or just plain not going to be possibly to achieve in the near-future entirely.

It's not about entitlement, it's about flexibility.

You would think women with Aspergers would be more flexible and willing to give a guy with Aspergers who may still live with his parents or can't drive yet a chance because she would understand what he's going through.

There are plenty of women here who are empathetic to the struggles aspie men face but are still not willing to date them, such as hurtloam being sympathetic to aspie men but not willing to date a man who still lives at home, for instance.

I've noticed many N.T. men and women want someone at the same 'level' as them, particularly women but also men too.

If they are educated, successful and have a high income, they desire the same in a partner. People like to date same level or up but rarely 'date-down'.

So, you'd think aspie women might be even the slightest bit more willing to 'date down' but like N.T. women, some of them have the same "I improved. You can too. I will not date you because you are choosing not to improve." attitude that many N.T. women have.

It's probably N.T. people who are probably most likely to think we just aren't trying in life, it would be absolutely disgraceful if other people with Asperger's think most men aren't trying or most women aren't trying.

As Jacoby said earlier, some people here have NO idea how hard some of the men and women have to try and still see little/no results.

How many aspie men and women here instead can say "Okay, I see you really ARE trying to improve yourself and your life, but find it difficult. I'll still try a relationship because I appreciate your effort and it is something to be admired with how hardworking you have been despite your difficulties. Normally I need a man at the same level of independence and success in life as I am, but I'm willing to give you a chance."

This is of course a mutual attraction already exists.

Because it's perfectly possible to be attracted to someone but still choose not to be with them because they don't have a job at the time, still live with their parents, etc.

I'd be ecstatic to find out how to find a place I can afford on part time income.