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No that’s. It what she’s saying she’s said that after and it’s not connected. She said if you don’t meet my standards(looks, personality income etc) that she’ll use you anyways to get what she wants til she gets bored(your use drys up). So basically sshes going use guys for money until they broke and throw them away, as she said she doesn’t want sex, so that leaves use pretty much being money and objects, favors.
Then she said she won’t be someone’s therapist and bf and then goes on to describe that more. The two aren’t connected.

It’s be like me saying if you message me and I don’t find you attractive I’ll just use you for sex til I’m bored then dump you.

It’s good she was honest so people can avoid her like the plague, doesn’t change she’s a horrible person.
If if racist is honest he’s still a racist and horrible person. Anyone who’d use someone uglier or unattractive for monetary, sexual, or favor gain then drop them like a bag of poop as soon as that drys up is horrible person.

I could have done that, there’s been a few women I didn’t find attractive for sex and cuddles. But I’m not w horrible person, I don’t habe it in me to use and hurt people and hurt people she will and then they’ll likely need therapy but won’t seek it cause she’s a therapist so they won’t trust therapist anymore. Quite frankly makes me wonder how many therapists are narcissistic and cruel like her. Maybe that’s why they were never helpful to me.

Glad we agree on something. That’s why I posted it mainly. I’m horrified someone who’d use and hurt another person for nothing other then wanting love and finding her physical and mentally attractive, is then allowed to interact with hurt abused people as a therapist.

Exactly.

Some of us aren't capable of working 60+ hours a week and going to school full time.

Additionally, when climbing the career ladder, "networking" is one of the most important skills one can have, and also one in which Aspies are sorely lacking. I know plenty of hard-working people who never became rich.

SLY, forgot number bit sorry.
I honestly don't read her post the same way you do, admittedly I'm not good at guessing what people really mean so we'll have to agree to disagree.
Bad counseling is ****, my CBT was terrible, luckily I'd had good counseling previously otherwise I'd never have asked for my Autism assessment. The worst bit was that those I had told assumed it must be me that was the problem, everyone assumes all counselors are perfect.

I’ve been told by a bunch of successful people in high position that you have to break policies, rules, laws, hurt people, take advantage of people. It’s a dog eat dog world if you want to climb the ladder and be successful. They pointed to my morals as why I’m not successful. I won’t do any of that to get ahead in life, I won’t betray a coworker to look good and get promoted, I won’t break laws to increase profits and sales. I won’t lie to people either. Example if a product is crap I’m going tell the customer and recommend a better one. If they still want it I’ll sale it, but I won’t lie and push a crappy product so the company can make money and get rid of it. Luckily my manager doesn’t want us to lie, he wants us to be honest so the customers know they can trust us and come back over and over.
My neighbor runs garage sales and swindles people all the time, I’ve heard stories from friends who bought stuff and he himself tells me. Like one time he bought stuff from someone dirt cheap by lying and telling them it’s illegal to own so you better get rid of it.
It’s usua the cut throat people who get ahead in life, it is no wonder why ceos are all cut throat and only care about profits.

Well I am the same way and that's good but for me I often take it to the extreme and I wish I didn't. For example I probably could have gotten that job at the pet store if I hadn't said that I couldn't lift over a certain number of pounds because that's one of the requirements they were looking for. How often would I have had to lift by myself anyway? If I needed help I probably could have asked someone.
I also wish that when someone scams me I could just take the money back from them. Now that has to do with not having hacking abilities and not just being an honest person but still... Also I would have never gotten scammed probably if I hadn't expressed that I was poor or been so transparent in my tone about how desperate I was.
I also hold my bladder at work often because I don't want to have to ask anybody to tie my apron.
But I digress. It is good to be an honest person. I just think that in my case I need to be able to pull back and break the rules once in a while.. I have tried to be more relaxed. Sometimes when there is nobody there I will go on my phone when we're not supposed to but it's not to do anything fun..it's to try and earn more money. I work too hard even when I'm technically breaking the rules and the worst part is when I told my boss that I do surveys for extra money (no I didn't tell him I did them at work) he says they use it to collect your information and spam you.
Even the games I play lately are to earn points towards money and I wonder if it's even worth it because the tablet I am doing it on costs 10 dollars a month for the data connection.

Yep. Why don't some people get this? If you're poor and living on a full time minimum wage job, some people expect you to keep working that full time minimum wage job and study for a bachelor degree in a high paying field at the same time!

And then after you graduate, they'll tell you to get a master's degree because "everyone has a bachelor degree".

This type of thinking is alarmingly prevalent in our culture. It's become an expectation. Whatever happened to balance?

Why do some people not understand that some people can't work / study 16 hours per week, 7 days per week?

Maybe hale_bopp's sister could do it. For some that is not the path to success, it's the path to guaranteed burnout.

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It's pretty simple, supply and demand...the market will ultimately dictate the value of labor. Companies will live and die by their sword and getting the government to step in will only make it worse for everyone. Hate to break it to you but nobody owes you anything in life just because your parents decided to be irresponsible and have a child in poverty.

No students work full time jobs. Unless it’s over the holidays. It’s normal for students to have part time jobs while studying.

It probably also comes down to your family’s values. My family is not rich, but they put a lot of emphasis on getting an education and getting a decent job, and being a hard worker. Either work for your money or have none. I guess it rubbed off on myself and my sister.

Some not rich families don’t give a crap about any values except drinking and getting knocked up, and getting government money. It’s no surprise their kids turn out to be the same.

Sly’s family probably has a lot to do with his situation.

You are so sheltered if you believe all poor people are lazy alcoholics and wealthy folk are all honest and hard-working. Once again you make it patently obvious how much contempt you have for those less well-off than yourself.

Not everyone has excellent parents like you did hale_bopp. Some people are raised by clueless parents.

There are many people less fortunate than myself and I don't expect them to pull themselves out of poverty by their own bootstraps.

I used to be on welfare. For that I make no apologies. I used welfare as a launchpad for my current career. The second hand suit I wore to the job interview was bought using welfare money. I lived on welfare while I completed my IT certificate at TAFE.

If I had even been working part time, it would have been very difficult for me to get that certificate. I don't have unlimited energy.

If I had gone to that job interview without descent clothes, they might have turned me away.

If I thought the world doesn't owe me anything and never claimed welfare, I would still be unemployed.

So I disagree with people who say welfare should be eliminated so that unemployed will suddenly decide to get jobs. It doesn't work like that.

If someone is happy and well fed and well clothed and not worrying about how they're going to pay their overdue electricity bill, they can study effectively or they can ace a job interview.

So rather than telling the poor that if they work hard, everything will magical be ok, I would advise them to use welfare as a launchpad to a new career as I did.

If you look like a monster like me , its a big problem

(i am 0 of 10 on look scale)

What are you even talking about? Pretty sure I didn’t say either of those things.

I wasn’t implying welfare isn’t necessary. I was basically saying what you said. If you’re born to useless parents you’re at an immediate disadvantage.

I’ve been on welfare for a short period of time when I was unemployed, and got harassed and screamed at by my family until I got off it. I’d sooner live on the street than go on it again.

I really don’t know where you’re pulling this anti welfare argument from, and why you think I apparently think welfare is unnecessary, though there are people who get “comfortable” on welfare when they could try, and it’s usually people whose family doesn’t give a s**t.

If those who aren't working have no money then presumably they're not getting any from welfare.

That was why I thought you were against welfare.