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03 Nov 2018, 8:47 pm

Just being a woman is enough to get by in life. Life is too easy being a woman in the USA, Canada and in Europe. The man has to work hard to improve himself and he does not have as many laws to protect him. There is a new movement called MGTOW that challenges society and says being a man is enough.



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03 Nov 2018, 8:49 pm

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Just being a woman is enough to get by in life. Life is too easy being a woman in the USA, Canada and in Europe. The man has to work hard to improve himself and he does not have as many laws to protect him. There is a new movement called MGTOW that challenges society and says being a man is enough.
^MANsplaining.

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03 Nov 2018, 9:08 pm

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My older brother is racist, sexist, homophobic, and xenophobic but he's always had girlfriends and is married. I am the opposite of those things but I am considered "weird" for being those things.


If any of your detractors tell you that you're weird for being the way that you are, you could always tell them to eat worms. You could also work on yourself and prove your detractors wrong. A short, modern hairdo would also help if that's what the girls in your area like.


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03 Nov 2018, 9:15 pm

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... You could also work on yourself and prove your detractors wrong...
Now, where have I read that before?

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03 Nov 2018, 9:25 pm

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My older brother is racist, sexist, homophobic, and xenophobic but he's always had girlfriends and is married. I am the opposite of those things but I am considered "weird" for being those things.


If any of your detractors tell you that you're weird for being the way that you are, you could always tell them to eat worms. You could also work on yourself and prove your detractors wrong. A short, modern hairdo would also help if that's what the girls in your area like.


I actually keep my hair short because it gets thick and heavy when it grows out. It also curls instead of staying straight and I hate that because I can't have hair like a lot of heavy metal musicians do unless I am missing something about growing long hair. Unfortunately, the hair in the front of my head is thinning due to my genetics. I've tried to use rogaine to regrow it but it doesn't do jack for it. The thinning makes me look older than I really am and someone even said to me I was ugly compared to how I used to look but even when I had hair covering my forehead I was still overlooked by girls.



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03 Nov 2018, 9:29 pm

Maybe some preppy clothes would do the trick if that's what preachers daughters like.


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03 Nov 2018, 9:32 pm

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Maybe some preppy clothes would do the trick if that's what preachers daughters like.


I don't want a preacher girl, though. The ones I know are either stuck up and snobby or fragile and scared of their own shadows.



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04 Nov 2018, 12:07 am

Marknis wrote:
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Maybe some preppy clothes would do the trick if that's what preachers daughters like.


I don't want a preacher girl, though. The ones I know are either stuck up and snobby or fragile and scared of their own shadows.


So what DO you want then?



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04 Nov 2018, 9:24 am

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While you may not be able to afford it, your prospective partner may be able to pay for your travel and moving expenses.

Even if the relationship doesn't work out, you may benefit in long run by getting away from a toxic environment with no suitable partners to a more stimulating environment with more like minded people. I doubt that KraftieKortie would have as much dating success if he lived in a rural area with few people to meet.


I've never met anyone online who wanted to meet or date over a long distance, so the point is pretty moot anyway.


Let's be real: who is going to pay thousands of dollars to move across the country a middle-aged fat, broke, and socially inept nobody who has nothing to offer her.



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04 Nov 2018, 9:43 am

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There is an actual core-reason for all of this - and the psychological-depression is a symptom of the problem - not the cause of it.


That doesn't mean that you won't feel better if you don't get help with the depression.

Yes depression can come from circumstantial causes. It can be a vicious cycle. Circumstances cause depression, the depression makes the circumstances even worse, you lose the joy you had for even the good things in your life, you get more depressed, your circumstances get worse because you no longer have the motivation to try and improve anything or partake in things you enjoy, you get more depressed.

But that doesn't mean we can't get help. It doesn't mean things we hopeless.

My depression was circumstantial. I was really lonely. I just couldn't find folks to relate to. I've made new friends with people who actually make me feel like I'm not weird and I'm a lot happier.

Had a crash this Summer though... even though my life is much better... I went to the Dr and I'm back on track.



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04 Nov 2018, 10:55 am

Marknis wrote:
CockneyRebel wrote:
Marknis wrote:
My older brother is racist, sexist, homophobic, and xenophobic but he's always had girlfriends and is married. I am the opposite of those things but I am considered "weird" for being those things.


If any of your detractors tell you that you're weird for being the way that you are, you could always tell them to eat worms. You could also work on yourself and prove your detractors wrong. A short, modern hairdo would also help if that's what the girls in your area like.


I actually keep my hair short because it gets thick and heavy when it grows out. It also curls instead of staying straight and I hate that because I can't have hair like a lot of heavy metal musicians do unless I am missing something about growing long hair. Unfortunately, the hair in the front of my head is thinning due to my genetics. I've tried to use rogaine to regrow it but it doesn't do jack for it. The thinning makes me look older than I really am and someone even said to me I was ugly compared to how I used to look but even when I had hair covering my forehead I was still overlooked by girls.

Ah yes, Rogaine...

My mom pushed that on me towards the end of high school when my hair first started falling out. Totally not worth it.

I was in denial over my hair for a long time, thinking it would look just fine if I kept it at a good length. I have a thin patch that grows right in the middle of my bald spot and makes it look like I have a combover when I don’t. Wife bought me clippers for Christmas. I just slap a #2 guard on and I’m good as gold. It looks MUCH better than when I was trying too hard.

Occasionally I forget or procrastinate. I let my hair grow out for about two months before I buzzed it. My middle school girls were a little freaked out the first time this school year since I hadn’t cut since August.

Cool thing about clippers: you can also get the perfect beard that way, too. Face hair balances out thinning hair. From time to time I’ll clip my face without the guard. Looks a little more rugged, like “I’m not growing a beard, but I’m too manly to shave.”



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04 Nov 2018, 7:11 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
Marknis wrote:
CockneyRebel wrote:
Maybe some preppy clothes would do the trick if that's what preachers daughters like.


I don't want a preacher girl, though. The ones I know are either stuck up and snobby or fragile and scared of their own shadows.


So what DO you want then?


Someone who I have common interests with (Doesn't have to be every single interest) and doesn't base my worth as a human being on how "religious" or "manly" I am.

One of my detractors thinks it was okay for me to be bullied and told I was never going to have a girlfriend.



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04 Nov 2018, 9:33 pm

Working on yourself is not enough. If you are an unattractive guy you will never see any signals from females. Unattractive guy with good job and lots of money is less attractive than a good looking criminal/homeless guy. Imagine being a guy with assets and millions in the bank but a a good looking criminal/homeless guy is regarded as more attractive to the female gender. That is a bitter pill to swallow and hard to accept.



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05 Nov 2018, 12:57 am

Aspie19828 wrote:
Working on yourself is not enough. If you are an unattractive guy you will never see any signals from females. Unattractive guy with good job and lots of money is less attractive than a good looking criminal/homeless guy. Imagine being a guy with assets and millions in the bank but a a good looking criminal/homeless guy is regarded as more attractive to the female gender. That is a bitter pill to swallow and hard to accept.


https://www.distractify.com/trending/20 ... e-criminal



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05 Nov 2018, 2:58 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Aspie19828 wrote:
Working on yourself is not enough. If you are an unattractive guy you will never see any signals from females. Unattractive guy with good job and lots of money is less attractive than a good looking criminal/homeless guy. Imagine being a guy with assets and millions in the bank but a a good looking criminal/homeless guy is regarded as more attractive to the female gender. That is a bitter pill to swallow and hard to accept.


https://www.distractify.com/trending/20 ... e-criminal

You mean there are shallow, stupid, idiots in the world 8O


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05 Nov 2018, 2:59 am

^I left out selfish and self-obsessed sorry.


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