Do women simply just dislike Aspie men?

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I've been within six relationships myself, and whilst they all broke down for various reasons. Absolutely none of them were because of my autism. In every instance of talking to a woman I'll bring it up, it normally goes one of two ways:

Five to ten minutes discussing it and how it affects things.

"Oh that explains why you were awkward!" Followed by slight laughter and carrying on like nothing happened.

I know it affects people differently, but some people will hide behind it and use it as an excuse to blame others for their own issues. They see it as a safety net, using it as an excuse to not grow as a person. "It can't of been me, I'm autistic, maybe it's because she doesn't get my autism! Yeah it's her fault not mine!".

This'll probably sound harsh but I can't quite think of a way to put it without possibly sounding like a jerk,

LOL!  Of course, be careful ... the point is that just because "most" non-aspie women don't find aspie traits in a man appealing does not mean that "all" women feel the same way, and that those women who are not put off by aspie traits are out there, and some of them may even be available -- the OP shouldn't give up just because of a few disappointments.

Okay, fine. All women are evil and demonic and we love to watch men suffer mu ha ha ha. Happy now?

To whom are you directing this, and why?

First - I want a bit of both.I want advice how I approach/talk with women without looking like creep or someone who's desperate and advice of how to turn female acquaintances into female friendship or romantic relationship.How do I even meet women in the first place? From what I heard,most women might not like random strangers approaching them.I also want empathy of my current situation as well.

Second - As of now,ideally I would start as friends with female that becomes girlfriend who I see a few time week that turning into a long term relationship after that.The problem is that is that every woman I came I contact,they rejected me.Like they never wanted to even become friends with me,let alone get into a romantic relationship with me.

Three - Not sure since I never had a relationship or even dated before.I guess for me if ever enter a long term relationship is that I feel loved romantically,which never happened to me before,someone I can tell my deepest secrets with,someone who I can trust financially,someone who I can cuddle,hug,kiss,etc with often,with sex sometimes(tho it's not a main priority for me).


Four - I prefer a female who might be in sports(tho fine if she isn't),someone like traveling,cooking,Arts/painting,photography,someone who I can do fun activities/outings with,but also like to stay home sometimes as well.
I would want a woman to not super religious,tho the same time not against religion neither.Also a woman who's not very conservative,but someone who's not far to left neither.
Looks of the woman does matter to me if the relationship is beyond a friendship. She doesn't be a super model,however she's has to be atleast okay looking.
Personally I a women who is feminine,but is also not very submissive.I prefer a woman who's a introvert,tho I also would take who's extroverted woman as well,as long as we share some of the same interest/hobbies and share similar values.
Race or culture of the female doesn't matter to me,long as we connect with one another.

Five-Yes I have tried to make connections with females in the past.I try to have long conversation with females,however it seems like they tend to become uninterested of what I'm saying after three or four sentences.I have tried to ask for females for her phone number and email after getting to know for a while,however within a 5-6 months after we exchange emails or text,we never talked again.However within last 2-3 years,I have mostly stopped talking with women outside of family unless it's strictly for business reasons due to previous failures/rejections.

I see you've met my ex.

I didn't know you're into tentacles.

She kept them hidden.  Don't ask me how.

^ Well you’re Gargamel after all, so it’s not surprising to attract a super villain.

Now there's a disturbing mental image...

What do you talk about? Do you just talk about yourself or your interests? Do you ask them questions about themselves?

If you like outdoor activities I would suggest joining groups that do that sort of thing... after lockdown is over. You might not find a partner, but you would at least meet like-minded people.

+1
That's how my parents met.
Also, good time with activities you enjoy is in the package.

My parents met since they were both doctors. Being a librarian hasn’t translated me to being with another librarian, though. Most of the women who become workers here are already married. That doesn’t help me at all.



That was unnecessary.

I think this is a good idea to try but as Marknis says it doesn't always work, you'll prob have to try more than one thing. Make sure you pick things that you genuinely like.
I didn't have any luck when I went from working in a pub to working in a book shop either Marknis. I thought swapping drunks for readers would be a step up but the customers were either married or snobs. And nobody bought me a sodin drink.

I don't mean to rehash things that are past but I only just saw this. It was not me who reported the post, I wasn't offended by the post at all.