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10 Feb 2022, 2:48 am

Yeah, why should she lose her job when the teen is technically a school leaver and she didn't commit a criminal act, I bet the school enrolments would go up if they had teachers like her.



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10 Feb 2022, 3:37 am

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Every boys/adolescent dream come true. :o :heart:
Who could resist... not me.
Was never molested by a teacher.... :(
It's like that episode of South Park..
With Mr Garrison...
That's how i feel.... :lol:
What am i, ugly? not worthy?
Scenario depicted in Southpark is sick and twisted btw.
But i'm all for teacher love...
If its a female teacher, i see nothing wrong with it. :shrug:


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10 Feb 2022, 5:15 am

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Today he would be a still virile 50 year old man with a 73 year old wife who lunches with the Golden Girls.

More confirmation of the truth of the Lesson of the Scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz: conferring a college degree upon someone is not the same thing as conferring a brain.

a 73 year old can, if she takes care of herself, still be hot enough to make a virile 50 year old drain his cojones into her regularly and make them both enjoy the fkkk out of it.



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10 Feb 2022, 6:00 am

You're so graphic...LOL.
Why not just say they could still enjoy' intimate relations'..or they could still be psychical....
Why mention of the draining of bodily fluids... 8O :lol:
And come on.. :P
A 73 year old can not be hot. :eew:
There's certain cut off point... :?
Would have to be the worlds most perfectly preserved 73 year old.
I think a woman can be attractive into her 50's though... :wink:
It's all individual.. :|
I'm not against older woman.
(not as often as i'd like... :) )
Not at all.
I dont think it's creepy. :|
If the gap isn't TOO severe...
Like a 40 year year gap... :o :eew: :thumbdown:
That's pushin the limits of attraction..
Even for me...


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10 Feb 2022, 6:03 am

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Stepankas farts are at least safer to sniff than drinking Belle Delphine's bathwater :eew:

In most cases (probably 99% of the time) the 3rd world babes come to us first worlders.

But for Dorkseid the issue is money, perhaps you would like to start a gofundme page for Dorkseid to finance trips to Columbia or Venezuela?


Never heard of her but women who jar their own farts for others to sniff seem like ideal women who don't take life too seriously and are probably hard to offend.

I have a friend from university that was the uni hottie and I really mean hottie. Literally drop dead gorgeous and looks a lot like Elsa from Frozen (bad comparison I know) She spews spaghetti hoops when drunk, urinates behind dumpsters, tells politically incorrect jokes, bear hugs me when she farts and tells you she'll be a while and to wait outside the bathroom door when she's taking a dump. It's weirdly reassuring for women to behave like that.

I certainly wouldn't overlook those women. They might be the best equipped to deal with an autistics quirks. The woman I mentioned above certainly likes mine and is why we are close friends (sadly) friends like that are a foothold I guess.

i'd marry somebody like that if they'd have me.



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10 Feb 2022, 7:05 am

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I had crushes on teachers when I was an adolescent. I never had a teacher reciprocate----but I wish they had! I wish they had "groomed" me.

I was fortunate in being sort of naive----yet still able to tell if somebody was exploiting me. I guess I could have been potentially been the victim of exploitation by a teacher, though.

The laws are in the books for a good reason.

I see a serious problem when a teacher exploits the students----gives the student preferential treatment because they are "involved." Or actually exploits them emotionally and physically. Practicing blackmail. Threatening consequences if the student doesn't do his/her bidding. That is felonious conduct, in my opinion. Worthy of years in prison.


I am totally against prosecuting teachers like this
https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real- ... 103c3eadc6

Every single cis-hetero male student probably dreams of meeting a teacher like this. She probably made this the kid the happiest teen in his school and she gets punished for it severely?? kind of warped.


This is seriously f**ked up!

Just because a minor wants something that we as adults know is harmful doesn't mean it should it should be allowed. There's a reason why children can't legally consent. In cases of statutory rape the child involved is consenting. Everybody, including yourself, has no problem understanding this concept when it involves a adult man taking advantage of an underage girl who has a crush on him. But change that to a woman taking advantage of a boy and suddenly its okay.

F**ked up, man!

And KK, this time I am calling you out on this too.



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10 Feb 2022, 7:30 am

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This is seriously f**ked up!

Just because a minor wants something that we as adults know is harmful doesn't mean it should it should be allowed. There's a reason why children can't legally consent. In cases of statutory rape the child involved is consenting. Everybody, including yourself, has no problem understanding this concept when it involves a adult man taking advantage of an underage girl who has a crush on him. But change that to a woman taking advantage of a boy and suddenly its okay.

F**ked up, man!

And KK, this time I am calling you out on this too.


No. :tired:
I think your attitude is seriously f****d up.
Age 23 and age 18.
It's not children.
It's not a minor.
It's not harmful.
The guy was lucky.
The guy had a good thing going on.
The guy must be envy of his classmates. (Did yo see her? :o )
Take advanatge?
What did she drug him?
Getta outta here with that BS.
No victims.
No crime.

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10 Feb 2022, 7:43 am

i hope she finds happiness in dubai.



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10 Feb 2022, 8:43 am

You're "calling me out" on what?

I don't go around advocating relationships between older people and minors. I feel like they are fraught with many potential dangers.

I was speaking from the viewpoint of a 17-year-old boy who had a crush on an older teacher. I would not have "told" on this teacher----because, even though I was minor, I would have been culpable as well for any sort of sexual relationship which arises from the student-teacher interaction. It would have been something I wanted. The bad part about all this---is that I would have been too naive to notice if the teacher was "grooming" me. And I could, easily, have been the victim of exploitation.

If I were a teacher, I wouldn't pursue a relationship with a minor student.



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10 Feb 2022, 8:49 am

theprisoner wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
This is seriously f**ked up!

Just because a minor wants something that we as adults know is harmful doesn't mean it should it should be allowed. There's a reason why children can't legally consent. In cases of statutory rape the child involved is consenting. Everybody, including yourself, has no problem understanding this concept when it involves a adult man taking advantage of an underage girl who has a crush on him. But change that to a woman taking advantage of a boy and suddenly its okay.

F**ked up, man!

And KK, this time I am calling you out on this too.


No. :tired:
I think your attitude is seriously f****d up.
Age 23 and age 18.
It's not children.
It's not a minor.
It's not harmful.
The guy was lucky.
The guy had a good thing going on.
The guy must be envy of his classmates. (Did yo see her? :o )
Take advanatge?
What did she drug him?
Getta outta here with that BS.
No victims.
No crime.

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I'm not talking about an 18 or 23 year old. I'm talking about the fact that this women was his teacher when he was a minor. That makes things look very suspecious. If she had never met him before he turned 18 I would find it odd but otherwise not have any issue with it. But that is not the case.

When a male college professor has a sexual relationship with a female student he is considered to be taking advantage of her even though she is consenting and is over 18. He can be persecuted under the law. But somehow a female high school teacher can have sex with a 15 year old boy and its all fine because hey he never complained.



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10 Feb 2022, 8:53 am

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You're "calling me out" on what?

I don't go around advocating relationships between older people and minors. I feel like they are fraught with many potential dangers.

I was speaking from the viewpoint of a 17-year-old boy who had a crush on an older teacher. I would not have "told" on this teacher----because, even though I was minor, I would have been culpable as well for any sort of sexual relationship which arises from the student-teacher interaction. It would have been something I wanted. The bad part about all this---is that I would have been too naive to notice if the teacher was "grooming" me. And I could, easily, have been the victim of exploitation.

If I were a teacher, I wouldn't pursue a relationship with a minor student.


17 year olds make very bad decisions all the time. And I would not hold this matter against the 17 year old. But that's not my point.

There is a reason why society does not make laws from the perspective of a 17 year old.

The adult in this situation is taking advantage of a child and is 100% culpable.



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10 Feb 2022, 8:54 am

People grow up. A person is not the same as a 15 year old as he/she is as a 23 year old.

I probably wouldn't pursue a relationship, now, with the teacher with whom I had a crush. But if I did, so what?

Just like I don't bear a grudge against my bullies----because I've grown up from the bullying, and hopefully so have the bullies.



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10 Feb 2022, 9:13 am

As for the whole double standard, are their any studies that it's healthier for boys compared to girls? Like have any psychologists come out and said that it is, hence why society is more accepting of it that way?



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10 Feb 2022, 9:19 am

Yeah , let's see what science has to say on this.

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10 Feb 2022, 9:22 am

Studies matter...but they don't always matter.

I'm not that "composite person" who is frequently created through social science studies.

I might be happy if my "crush" with a teacher was fulfilled; but some other kid might not be so happy, and might become traumatized from a relationship resulting from a "crush." And the teacher might have caused the trauma.

I don't go by studies. I go by what impact something actually has on an individual.



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10 Feb 2022, 9:48 am

call me what you will, but i just don't see the harm in it IF the student enjoyed it and learned something good from it. if i had been lucky enough for it to have happened to me, my life would have turned out differently, let me tell you!!