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28 Aug 2010, 11:14 am

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Months ago, I asked a woman out. She blew me off. It turns out that she thought I wanted sex with her. As pretty as she is, she obviously thinks too highly of herself. So woman who make assumptions because they want to feel powerful and in control are the ones I would avoid.

A few weeks ago, I was given the knowledge of another woman. She wants to see my picture before we even meet up. I blew that off because I know she wants to blow me off if she doesn't like the look of me. She wants to be in control, to be the one to turn me down. She's playing head games. I want nothing to do with woman who do that.

Wanting physical attraction doesn't make you a bad person. It's perfectly understandable for her to at least know what you look like IMO.

Its perfectly okay for a woman to know what I look like, BUT, its not okay to know what I look like and not like me see her picture. Its her way of controlling the situation, when she doesn't like my picture she'll blow me off and any asking for her picture would be blocked by a "I'm not interested" bloody head game. I may be an Aspie, but I am not a dumb ass.

have you asked her for a picture? you didn't mention whether or not you asked, or if she refused.

if you do see her picture, and you don't like what you see, will YOU still meet up with HER? because if not, you are playing the same games as her.

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28 Aug 2010, 11:26 am

She's an old issue, I have forgotten about her now. There is no way I would ever see her picture, because she is playing games. I want nothing to do with her.

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28 Aug 2010, 11:55 am

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She's an old issue, I have forgotten about her now. There is no way I would ever see her picture, because she is playing games. I want nothing to do with her.

you completely evaded the question. would you have judged her by her picture? if you found her unattractive, would you still have met up with her? if you would have judged her too, then you have no right to judge her for wanting to see your picture first.

you say that she was 'playing games' but provide no other information as to what the games are, so from your post, it appears that the only game she was playing was wanting to see your picture before meeting you.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:09 pm

She's an old issue, I have forgotten about her now. There is no way I would ever see her picture, because she is playing games. I want nothing to do with her.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:17 pm

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She's an old issue, I have forgotten about her now. There is no way I would ever see her picture, because she is playing games. I want nothing to do with her.

what i mean is back when she was asking for your picture. did you ask for her picture, and did it matter if she would have been unattractive?

all i have to go on is your post where you said she was playing games and wanted to see your picture.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:22 pm

The issue is dead, it'll never happen. Never, never, never. I prefer older women, bloody young ones like Nicola, Amber and now Rachel are just pathetic youngsters who like playing with male emotions.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:26 pm

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The issue is dead, it'll never happen. Never, never, never. I prefer older women, bloody young ones like Nicola, Amber and now Rachel are just pathetic youngsters who like playing with male emotions.

you are not actually answering the question at hand. i understand that you will never get together with those girls, but i am not asking about that.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:29 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

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The issue is dead, it'll never happen. Never, never, never. I prefer older women, bloody young ones like Nicola, Amber and now Rachel are just pathetic youngsters who like playing with male emotions.

you are not actually answering the question at hand. i understand that you will never get together with those girls, but i am not asking about that.

I'm not answering the question, obviously I am unfuriated by the whole thing. Its done through a mate of mine, he sees her, I don't. Its like a matchmaking situation.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:31 pm

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The issue is dead, it'll never happen. Never, never, never. I prefer older women, bloody young ones like Nicola, Amber and now Rachel are just pathetic youngsters who like playing with male emotions.

you are not actually answering the question at hand. i understand that you will never get together with those girls, but i am not asking about that.

I'm not answering the question, obviously I am unfuriated by the whole thing. Its done through a mate of mine, he sees her, I don't. Its like a matchmaking situation.

so what was the point of your post about the situation? to just try to get sympathy... and then be evasive when people try to get more information?

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28 Aug 2010, 12:35 pm

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The issue is dead, it'll never happen. Never, never, never. I prefer older women, bloody young ones like Nicola, Amber and now Rachel are just pathetic youngsters who like playing with male emotions.

you are not actually answering the question at hand. i understand that you will never get together with those girls, but i am not asking about that.

I'm not answering the question, obviously I am unfuriated by the whole thing. Its done through a mate of mine, he sees her, I don't. Its like a matchmaking situation.

so what was the point of your post about the situation? to just try to get sympathy... and then be evasive when people try to get more information?

I was just stating my situation, this is the right thread for this. Its a discussion board, is it not? Evasion, you call it. Emotional battering I call it. My evading the question is my way of not reliving any pain, but talking to Aspies, well, they can't tell if I am upset about something. They just go on and on and on.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:41 pm

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hyperlexian wrote:

Craig28 wrote:

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The issue is dead, it'll never happen. Never, never, never. I prefer older women, bloody young ones like Nicola, Amber and now Rachel are just pathetic youngsters who like playing with male emotions.

you are not actually answering the question at hand. i understand that you will never get together with those girls, but i am not asking about that.

I'm not answering the question, obviously I am unfuriated by the whole thing. Its done through a mate of mine, he sees her, I don't. Its like a matchmaking situation.

so what was the point of your post about the situation? to just try to get sympathy... and then be evasive when people try to get more information?

you brought up the topic of this particular girl in the first place. if you didn't want to relive the pain, you should not have started talking about her.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:45 pm

I have no pain stating the facts about the situation, its just the incessant questioning from you that turns it into something else. I'm now also wondering where the next woman to play headgames will come from. There will be another one very soon, there always is.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:47 pm

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i was asking for facts, which you did not provide. i asked the same question more than once, and each time you refused to answer. very odd, unless you have something to hide.

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28 Aug 2010, 12:51 pm

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i was asking for facts, which you did not provide. i asked the same question more than once, and each time you refused to answer. very odd, unless you have something to hide.

I felt battered by your questioning me. Rachel this latest situation, is a finished issue. Nothing will happen. We havn't even met and already the issue of if I can trust her has come to light. I wouldn't be able to trust her, especially since she is a bar worker in her fathers pub, she'll probably get hit on by every guy she serves. I deserve better then her. I deserve a woman that treats me the same as I will treat her: with kindness and respect. Silly youngsters like her are a dying issue with me, I have been looking at older women for years. I know the real reason why now.

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28 Aug 2010, 1:12 pm

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i was asking for facts, which you did not provide. i asked the same question more than once, and each time you refused to answer. very odd, unless you have something to hide.

that's odd. why didn't you just answer? it was a simple question, and you could have provided a straightforward answer. it's not like i'm harassing you - i'm not insulting you or being mean to you. you provided only certain portions of you assessment of a situation, and i wanted to know some critical details in order to properly see what was going on.

you've given me all kinds of other unnecessary details about the situation - you are keeping the conversaton alive. i didn't ask who she is currently dating, or where she works, or why she wouldn't date you anyway. for some reason, you keep providing these random bits of explanation that don't pertain to what i was asking.

if it hurts you to talk about her, then by all means stop.

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28 Aug 2010, 3:26 pm

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my PhD.

...ummm you do realise that you said the 3 magic letters right?
'They' lied about it being 3 magic words..

What does that mean? That I'll still be able to get a date because I'm doing a PhD?

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