Dating profile, part 2

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Only ask her this if you are sure she will know what the heck you are on about, i.e if she has specifically mentioned that she is into physics or molecular biology or anything else that suggests she understands chemistry.


Sounds fine.

It has to do with neither. It's actually particle physics and was about that recent story where people at CERN managed to find a way adequately store antimatter. Actually, I wouldn't consider mentioning something like that if I didn't think she would know what I was talking about, I thought of that one because she specifically mentioned the LHC in her profile. I think I should go with the Star Trek question though.



OK.

Particle physics is physics, right? Anyway I was just trying to get the general gist across cos, well, it pretty much went over my head!

This girl sounds interesting. Let us know how it goes.

Yes it's physics, I meant that it didn't have anything to do with chemistry or biology. She hasn't logged on again yet, I'll let you know if she replies.

Gee, she sure does write a lot in her profile, doesn't she?!

She clearly only wants internet friends, so unless you were somehow able to magically sweep her off her feet I'd say treat this one as a friendship, and keep looking elsewhere.

Are you hinting that I have an interest in her? I guess I do, although as you say - if she replies, I'll treat this one as just a friendship for now and continue looking for potential others.

Of course you would, she's cute

Hang on, did you actually look for her profile?

Did you ever find what you were looking for?

I'm afraid not. I got one or two responses to my initial messages as well as some people who have messaged me first. However, I've still yet to get a confirmed date through OKCupid.

I was curious to see how many chicks actually mention LHC in their profile - not many - and there she was so I had a peak, yeah. Didn't read much of it though cos it was just toooo long, hehe.

I've now had an argument with someone in this forum who claims that me not revealing my AS in my dating profile is dishonest. I've had this discussion before and even my own psychiatrist says I don't have to directly reveal it. If I am some how required to prepare a prospective partner for the issues related to dating someone with AS by what I write in my profile, as requirement for honesty, then fine. However, I'm certainly not comfortable about revealing my AS on my dating profile. What I must write in there to satisfy this requirement of honesty without directly revealing AS?

I'd never say I have AS in a dating profile
thats just stupid

wait a second... i also said (3 times) that on or before the first date (i.e. during email communications) could also be acceptable for some women in terms of disclosure for the sake of honesty. basically, if a woman can tell that there is anything "different" about you either on the profile or in person, then if she does not have a reason of which to ascribe that "difference" then there could be problems getting a second date (or a first date, in some cases).

sorry, but i don't know of a way to speak around the disorder without naming it (that requires a layer of spin doctoring that i do not have experience with), but if other people have ideas i can help refine them.

I was considering revealing it to the one and only girl who I had a long conversation with on OKCupid, initially by bringing up the movie "Adam". But that was before she blocked me. As for what to write in my profile, this would be a lot easier if I knew exactly what me seems "different". I know that among some of the mannerisms that people have said they noticed about me are fleeting eye contact and a somewhat flat and monotone voice but I can't exactly write that directly in my profile because it look corny. My psychiatrist told me that he could help me try writing around the disorder back in February when I first told him that I was considering on-line dating but I haven't asked because for a while, I thought it was good enough judging by the comments I got back in this forum and my mom also told me that it looked fine. What exactly about my profile makes me seem "different"?

I don't see how not revealing AS on a dating site is dishonest. There are no written rules about what you should or shouldn't put in your profile, so imo it's up to you personally what you feel comfortable with sharing on a public profile.

I do mention my AS in my okcupid profile though, but mainly just because I don't wanna have the hassle of bringing it up later on (I also mention that I am transgendered for the same reason, although I guess that is more important than the AS)

To be fair though, I am not as bothered about dating as most of the other guys on here seem to be, so I'm not gonna sit here worrrying that listing my AS is gonna put girls off. If it does, then it does. I'm not really active on there anymore anyway