appletheclown wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
no, a man is not "supposed" to do anything at all - men and women are not given roles that they have to follow. in the western world, about half of all of the people in the workforce are men, and half are women.
i agree that men and women should help each other, but that does NOT mean that anyone must be financially caring for anyone else unless that is the arrangement that an individual couple agrees upon. for some periods, when i was married, my husband stayed at home and cared for my daughter when she was little, and i worked full-time. it worked for us. other couples do it differently - sometimes the mother stays at home, sometimes neither parent stays at home.
i don't think most people end up in a situation where anyone has to die protecting them, i saved a man who could have died if i had not stopped someone from trying to kill him.
The willingness to do so is what I mean.
just because a woman gives birth doesn't mean that she has to have someone buy her groceries and take care of her indefinitely. giving birth is one small biological act, but life can have many other acts and roles in it. the small physical differences between men and women don't mean a whole lot in day to day life. childbirth doesn't happen for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week after all. you don't have to
believe anything at all, because people are off doing these roles whether you believe in them or not. i have to admit i am rather shocked that you have never noticed that women are out doing jobs and contributing in the real world.
many men and women have similar roles in a household (differentiation is not actually required), or reversed roles, or whatever works for them. you can choose a more traditional way to do things, but that doesn't make it the "right" way or the way that things should be for other people. that's the beauty of the modern world - people can choose to do what works for them within their own relationship.
you don't have to be lazy (not sure where you got that idea, as i did not say that at all). but your future wife could work too, if she wanted to. or you could take turns working and caring for the household, if you wanted to make an agreement like that. many people work because they want to, not because they have to. it gives them a feeling of fulfilment and a sense of accomplishment. but your future wife will probably make her feelings clear about that.
Obviously you feel offended and are completely letting everything I say go past your ears. My wife is a rich mma champion? Hell yeah! A miner? Why not? A construction worker? So be it! An A-10 warthog tank destroyer pilot? They already got those! You must hate butlers very very very much....
I don't want want my wife to do anything she doesn't want to, and also want her to do everything she does! That doesn't mean some lady on the internet will instantly know some random day in my life my wife will smite me because I bought her milk and sugar and asked if she wanted a back rub! You gals sure do get offended when we try to make you feel special......
Did I ever tell you I would let her ask, or if I saw she was out I'd ask her if I could run to the store for her, oh wait you didn't ask, sorry I ever told you!