Girl dates me for being nice to her: Matrix glitch report.

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Good to see some guys getting it now. By "no," I mean verbal resistance in general. Why didn't I say that? Because it's common sense to me, and "no" is more concise. Sometimes I forget how literal aspies can be.

Some of you may have heard that 93% of communication is non-verbal. I don't know how accurate that is, but I agree it's over 50%. Look at the big picture. How is her body language? How is her tonality? If she really didn't want it, she would physically move away. Also, if she verbally resists, most of the time, it's not simply, "no," but something along the lines of "we shouldn't be doing this." Sometimes though, she may object harder, which you should STOP physically, but you can reason with her LOGICALLY so she sees how silly her objection is. I provided examples of that earlier.

Usually if a woman sais " we shouldn't be doing this" and we were already making out or kissing than I just back off for a second and read her body language and facial expression.

That's where each aspie here has to use their own discretion.

I agree with this statement by tequila though.

As long as you dont say it repeatedly to the same person its ok.

Diagnosing someone goes for those that try to dismiss other peoples posts by asking if they are bipolar/whatever

A "no" in a "we shouldn't be doing this" unserious resistance sense is something that you can look at and tease her about.

But if any resistance is a lot more determined and serious, I would (depending on how serious it sounded) wouldn't want to try to persuade someone that clearly isn't interested and/or doesn't want to have sex. If she is saying no and means it in a "I don't want to do this, it's not for me" there's no good in trying to convince the woman.

Bear in mind also that some women freeze up when they can't process what is happening to them. If this happens to you, Ctrl_F4, STOP! And make sure she's OK.

source http://www.16personalities.com/intj-personality

*considers this post for some time*

Is it just me, is everyone pretty much INTJ here? Excluding some of the girls that might have pulled an "F".

Is there a 16 personality type thread somewhere? I got INTP. :/

INTJ seems more common. I feel like making a thread if one doesn't exist, yet im sure one does.

I seem to be ISTJ.

That makes alot of sense. We're supposed to sensation types, aka noises touch etc. I forget about that lots. Mine isn't that bad at all.

*scratches my head* I wonder if it's a girl thing *mulls*

I have to watch myself sometimes. Otherwise if I'm out walking I'll find myself running my fingers along a fence or something. One time I stopped to feel the stairs because they looked different to other stone stairs I'd seen before and I wanted to know what they felt like. I'm quite the affectionate type too, I like to touch people (not in that way mind, but sometimes I overdid it on the hugs and kisses). I'm still kicking myself for not putting my hand on the outside of a plane to see what the metal was like. And for the love of god, DON'T let me loose in a craft shop where there is lots of different materials around!

^ Unrelated to any of this, i am supposedly incredibly soft.

Also, airplanes feel grainy.
Also, your personality type is used to contrast mine on wikipedia as a matter of perspective. Huh. Weird.

Edit: I don't take it overly seriously. Freud was Jung's teacher. Aha. Tho to be fair, i wouldn't be surprised if one of them was aspie.

I get INTJ every time I take one of those tests.

Its probably the most badass one. Supreme Lord Putin of Russia is supposedly INTJ if i remember.

I would guess that consciously your dominant mode is heavily kinaestetic, with visual coming in second.

You never know, you may have a gift with touch - have you ever done relaxation massages on people? You might find it's a good way for you to connect with them.

I guessed that he might be INTJ. I experienced this too at some stage in my life. It doesn't work to emulate confidence. At least not for me.

^ We're used to emulating stuff. I doubt it works for confidence. How do you emulate confidence? I don't think anyone has ever recommended faking it. Well, nobody smart. It's more like an aura. It's something that is projected. It's rather hard to project something you don't have. Confidence is related to body language, voice tone, and how you present your thoughts. To be fair, alot of people brainwash themselves into being more confident. It works really good for fooling fools, assuming you care about impressing fools *shrug*.

Sometimes i feel like people treat confidence like a rare pokemon. They wanna know where to find it, how to catch it, how much balls it takes, etc etc.