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Ok, you don't care for any of those girls, and that's ok.
But don't base your whole opinion of girls on the ones you don't care for.
You were saying you didn't want to go to an autistic meet up group because you assume all the girls would be somehow abnormal, but how do you know that if you've never been there?

Yeah Alliekit i am not saying the Girls at my drama club are not nice. The two girls with down syndrome are really sweet and kind most people with down syndrome are very kind.

I just would not want to date someone that has that bad high functioning autism. I Watched the Undatables the other day which i think is a terrible name but anyway i saw a guy with autism and he went on a date, now the girl he went on a date with seemed very nice but again just wouldn't appeal to me.

Now there was this girl who has a condition where she falls asleep very easily and I thought she was very attractive and very sweet and i would have gone on a date with her

Don't play coy, you are stunningly beautiful.

I was going to say that but i didn't want to because i didn't know how Alliekit would respond as she has a boyfriend. But as you have said that i will say that you look very pretty Alliekit

You don't really look Autistic. Autism don't majorly play physical traits. Its an invisible disability. Down Syndrome is more of both physical by appearance and invisible disability. No one in my family and network of friends say I look Autistic. It is a same for deaf people without hearing aids. How people in the public know they are deaf? They respond in sign language. So it all about communication.

I am totally in same situation as you Cricketman23. But I am quite ahead of you at the moment, I assume you are much younger than me. I am 26 next month. I used to have urges, anxiety and misinterpreting about women. I went through college and universities meeting women. I struggled a lot, but that is not all because it also other peoples' problems communicating with people like us. They must never give up. Love isn't part of 'oh she got a disability that is too difficult to deal with'. Thats pretty discriminating. Like you said you struggle to communicate with two girls who have Down Syndrome. Why not try harder? I met plenty of these people in my disability networks. It not all that difficult, it just different way to speak.

Back in the times when I struggle communicating with women and don't understand social situations about them I learned a lot over time when speaking with psychologists and group networks running workshops and events where I able to learn life skills. I had similar conversation about this with my psychologist on other day, involving the topic of dating she said there are a lot of NT people missed out learning social intelligence skills because of alcohol, media influences and inconsistent education processes during adolescent and young adult years. NTs have a lot serious problems, even more than us. My friends came over to my new apartment for small housewarming gathering yesterday, they told me I have been doing so great about my life making friends, career, networks and that compared to lot of people they knew (they are all NTs). NTs do not have same access to psychologists like people with disabilities and mental health. Their life stages is different, and more likely lagging behind. They don't understand 'aggressive-assertive-passive' spectrums for instance.

So this helped me to learn this good piece of advice. Do not be like other people, just be yourself as human being with your name and personality. Use them for the good. Show them why you are good, but always give them back.

It's genuinely how I feel in high school I used to be bullied for being ugly. They even gave me the title of 'ugliest girl in the year group'

How could you be called that Alliekit you look pretty.

I mean i can understand myself being bullied at school because i'm just worthless, stupid and ugly.

But those people don't know what they are talking about with you

Nah, you're a pretty girl.

It's just human nature to be mean like that. Especially between girls competing for the attention of guys. Other girls will be mean to those they perceive as a threat to them, picking apart any tiny beauty insecurity they can find with someone just to make them feel ugly so they're not strong confident competition to them in the dating game. It's just human nature.

One of the prettiest girls I ever worked with told me she used to be bullied so much about her eyebrows that she was very insecure about them and her looks, which was shocking because she's a real head-turner. It's just the nature of other girls being mean b*****s.

Take it from me, a gay guy who's definitely not hitting on you, you're a pretty girl.

Well, they must be blind. What people said in high school doesn't matter, they were likely jealous and projecting. People say lots of things to gain favor in others, doesn't make it right or true. What I said is the honest truth.

Self depreciating negative depressive thoughts because you're depressed. "Worthless" is entirely subjective. It depends on how one measures one's own worth, doesn't it? Stupid? Again, relative to what or whom? Ugly? A matter of subjective opinion.

You will go a long way towards attracting people into your life if you practice loving kindness towards all people, including yourself.

^ haha, goldfish. Snap!

Ha Ha, me not ugly. Of course i'm ugly. When i posted a picture on here i was told i didn't look attractive, I didn't look interesting. So of course i'm bloody ugly.

Alliekit, do yourself a favor and consider the source of the negativity. Why would their opinions matter? Obviously they were hateful people. Look into the mirror and see yourself as you are, not as others have projected onto you.

Being told your photo didn't make you appear particularly attractive doesn't mean anyone called you ugly.

Also, I do recall, several people made suggestions as to what you could do for yourself to be more aesthetically attractive. A fresh haircut, different clothing style, and getting into better physical shape were all recommended. Some of these things can be done nearly instantly, others take time and hard work. Ignoring helpful constructive criticism and taking zero action towards bettering yourself for your own good is also an option available to each and every one of us.. but if that's the path we choose, we can't possibly expect positive desirable results, now, can we?

I've seen drop-dead-gorgeous girls post pictures on the internet to be told they're ugly, so forgive me if I find this argument unconvincing.