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Yeah I would agree with Luhluhluh. When people find out what I do for a living they kind of recoil from me and say, "oh you must be smart". People do look down on gaining knowledge. It's viewed as dull and not fun, therefore if you are knowledgable about anything you are tarred with the brush of "dull and not fun".

I agree though with Shuhusha. Some people are not book smart, but they have other kinds of intelligence which is appealing and makes them nice to be around and listen to as they tell you about their expertise. I think that when we talk about intelligence here, we inlcude that. What we don't want is a fud who just drinks and watches xfactor and football.

Yes!

I've just googled the word fud and it's way more offensive than I thought it was. It's something one of my Glaswegian friends says... 0_0

I apologise to anyone who actually knew what it meant.

lol How naive I am, I thought this was a first date incident .... but you were actually in a relationship with a such man?

I am really curious though, what did you find attractive in him?
I mean before revealing his stupidity and abusive nature.

I really wonder how a man of a such horrible intelligence and personality gets into a relationship and probably doing better than many here; what was the secret of his first spark?

I thought it's something related food.

Not bad hurtloam....you are going naughty.

Well, she said that he had a six pack.

Six pack is sexy indeed.

I wonder if he glued them or something.

Sorry Outrider, not everyone identifies with a particular philosophy.

If you want to meet girls who identify with philosophies you should major in philosophy. You won't find too many philosophers among the sports science majors.

That's a really good question because now that I look back I wonder how I got into that relationship in the first place. But in all honesty, I KNOW why.

The blunt truth is when I met him I was at the lowest point in my life. I had been a dating failure since ever. Guys were never ever interested in me, and he actually showed interest. He was charming as heck, decent enough looking, and he showed interest in me. So we went out for about a year. Over that year, he started to show signs that something was wrong. I couldn't put my finger on it exactly, but he seemed fake, like he was playing a part. He started to show signs of a temper, like getting angry at the grocery store clerk because the debit card machine wasn't working, or the waiter because the food was not to his liking. And there were things he would say that were cruel, then he'd apologize later. And through it all I put up with it because I didn't want to let the one stinking thing go that I had ever had.

But to cut a story short, the temper was what did it. He got worse, he drank quite a bit, and he flew into a rage over something stupid, I can't even remember what it was, and he threw the six pack at me. And that was it. I left him shortly afterwards, knowing I would be single for a very long time. And I was. It wasn't for another five miserable years of dating dead ends that I met my current partner.

I learned a lot from that experience. I learned that I don't need a relationship because I can do bad all by myself. Seriously there are worse things than being single, and that's being with someone who treats you like dirt or a second class citizen.

That's boggin ya glaikit fandan! JKWhat do you for a living?

I don't have a chance compared to him. There's no way I can compete with his incredible stupidity.

So to put it specifically - what was his spark? I was desperate and he was charming and a good showman - he was involved in live theater so he could put on an act (which is why he was such a fantastic charmer and liar as well).

He was decent enough looking, nothing spectacular. Average I would say. So it wasn't looks. If I had to put a name on him he was a narcissist.

Depends what kind of person you are. Sometimes people just want to be around anyone so long as they have feelings for them and make them feel loved. Some smart people are an absolute pain especially if they are closed minded and you are unable to disagree of discuss anything with them. Sometimes even if someone has no intellectual curiosity you could still enjoy being around them. Heck maybe they are funny, really kind and supportive their is a multitude of traits different people like.

I completely agree with you.

I don't really value 'intelligence' at all in a girl.

Insightfulness? Maturity? Sure.

But I don't care if she's not interested in science, politics, any of that stuff.

These 'smart' people can had the other smart people.

Low brow entertainment and self indulgent girls?

Yes please!

Though I'd much rather say she sounds simple, unpretentious, and values a good time over 'inellectualness' and feeling 'intrigued'.

For me the most important things in my own life and a partner's is being a good person (yea, even nihilists can!) and just having good fun together.