Why are women so desperate for men?

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Also: Since both men and women now work, and both feel similar stresses as a result, the difference in the life expectancy of men and women might narrow. right now, women do live, on average, about 5 years older than men.

Speaking of that stress, from looking at the issue in previous years I know there are references out there.
4 references from more or less legitimate sources.

https://www.womenshealth.gov/a-z-topics ... our-health



http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/stress/2010/gender-stress.aspx


https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/women-work-stress-and-heart-disease-5-ways-to-protect-yourself


https://www.cdc.gov/niosh/topics/women/ ... cture.html

^^^Examples of the correlation between what is "common sense" and the results of objective, peer-reviewed research.

I feel a sense of "cognitive dissonance" when that correlation doesn't reveal itself. This is related to a feeling of "counterintuition."

Maybe, but aspie men won't ever have common experiences with women.

The kinds of neurodiverse women I am friends with are very disciplined. They're book smart and very black and white about right and wrong.

Most of them burned out working full time and have dropped out of careers and have part time jobs.

They are only human, but they have high standards for themselves. I think they just expect the same standards from a partner. If they are the way they are why wouldn't a man be, is how they think.

Now I can't really tell you much about NT women. They are as much a mystery to me as they are to you.

So...aspie men should work themselves until they burn out in order to live up to the standards expected by aspie women?

No.

I was just relating that not all people can cope with full time work. A lot of aspies guys seem concerned that they can't work full time. Guess what. Neither can some women because they're not NT and can't cope with dealing with people in a regular 9-5 office job.

Then I kind of rambled into: even though they work part time they still have routines and still have interests and still put a lot of effort into what they do even if it's not mainstream.

You don't have to be like them, but this is how men and women are different in this particular case. That's why they overlook you. Because they are principled and disciplined and don't want someone who isn't that way ruining their lives that are going ok for them on their own.

And they do view a man as a burden when they enjoy their freedom. Why would they want to cook for some guy obsessed with video gamescand football? What do they get out of it? The cons outweigh the pros for them.

Not your type of woman. Don't worry about it, move on and find someone more suited to you. Its just what i observe about these women.

Would they date men who work in part time jobs?

I highly doubt so.

Aspie men don't have this other choice.

Then I find your post confusing and/or incoherent.




This is true, this is why I work a part-time job and have partial disability. But you seemed to imply that the higher standard to be aspired to was to have a full-time job, burn out and then go down to part time, and that men working part-time was beneath their standard.




I'd actually be more concerned if a woman didn't have interests than if she did. We would not have to be joined at the hip, other than for activities that do, in fact, require joining at the hip.




Men aren't principled and disciplined? I think you'd be surprised. And one of the few things that can't really be dealt with alone is loneliness and the desire for companionship which I'd like to think men and women feel in not too disparate amounts. And if you want someone in your life, you have to make time and room for them. That goes for both sexes.



As far as aspie men goes, I think you'll find a lot more gamers than football fans. And ladies can like gaming, too. It's inclusive like that. And aren't you stereotyping more than a little here? Maybe ladies would object to cooking for me, but would they mind terribly to be cooked for? I make a mean Bolognese...




I'm not even sure what type of woman we are talking about, beyond neurodiverse and, apparently "disciplined" and "principled".

My post is just general observations on people I know who are single and can't meet a guy. They aren't NT that's for sure.

I think their ridgidness is a bit off putting to men actually. They're too perfectionist.

Men here are very into soccer. Finding one who isn't is a rare gem.

That's all. It's not a detailed plan with a point that you have to act on. It's just musings. Sorry if that's confusing, but people are confusing.

It's just an observation on the difference between men and women.

They definitely want men to approach them though. Whether that's right or wrong is another issue. I can't change their attitude. But they'd like clear signals of interest.

Probably yes. It would be a rare thing if a man was actually interested in them in the first place. I think work hours would be low down their list of priorities. They are perpetually overlooked.

These are pragmatic women who value other things over money. They buy second hand clothes and look frumpy. But as long as they're not cold they're happy.

I have a weird bunch of friends lol

Sorry, but I don't think I would like these female friends of yours; wanting men not to like a popular sport? They sound like control freaks.

And if there are men out there who don't like soccer, those would most probably be geeky and gamers (or Americans lol) - but I guess they don't like those either.

Probably they want Vin Diesel looklike too or some celeb.

And oh, that applies to watching sport too:

My goodness I forget how literal you all are.

They've never once said they don't want someone who watches soccer.

I was trying to think of a lazy type of thing as an example when I was half asleep. Lol.

I was trying to think of advantages of single living.

No sport on the tv is a huge one. Life witjout a man is ok.

For you guys no soap operas or costume dramas is a bonus.

Tvs aren't much expensive.

Talking about soap opera....yesterday a woman cancelled our dance event date because she wanted to rest at home friday nighf and....to watch some soap opera- urgh.
Even thought she was the one who asked me out, it was her idea and I went with the flow.

Tom Hanks or Hugh Grant are certainly more appealing than me, sigh.