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02 Jan 2018, 8:38 pm

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You believe too much radically in vibes, HP, it is ridiculous.

Vibes are very real. You can tell what kind of person someone is from your first impression of their vibe as you meet. Some people gie off a very negative sinister vibe and there's no way I'd want to be around them, others are friendly & happy and good to be near.

Thank you. I’m not going to stop trusting my gut when it’s gotten me out of bad situations and helped me avoid people who have turned out to be nasty pieces of work. My gut instinct is never wrong, because some limited forum poster thinks it’s ridiculous, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

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02 Jan 2018, 8:48 pm

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Clearly you meet them and get a feel for them and the place. Stupidity has nothing to do with it. You choose the area they live, look at their jobs, age and lifestyle, and pick up any vibes when you go there. Any nutty or weird vibes, you walk out. It’s so common here and unheard of to only live with people you know, (unless you have a very large social base; most people don’t) in a large city full of international people, who generally don’t know anyone.

Certain areas of the city and certain stereotypes of people I wouldn’t even consider living with.

Well yes of course, but can one or two meetings that give you good vibes really quarantee they're safe to be around? Or do you meet up a lot before making the desicion? Even if the area's good, they have proper jobs and have healthy and normal lifestyles they could still turn out to be horrible, dangerous people. Even if they seem decent there are still risks... of course there are risks even with people one has known for a long time, but the chances for something going wrong with friends should be smaller.

Not that I'm saying you shouldn't do it, especially if it's common there, just that it could be dangerous so keep your guard up... but well, you probably already do. I could certainly never do something like that; sounds way too dangerous.

It’s very unlikely someone is going to cause trouble for you if they want your rent money. This is not Mexico, New Zealand is very westernised and boring. Don’t live in drug and crime areas and stick to middle class people.

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03 Jan 2018, 12:47 am

hale_bopp wrote:

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Facebook groups for flatmates, look at your local flatmates wanted site.

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this is really a thing on facebook? i need to find a place to live with roommates in a town where i don't know anyone.... i was under the impression facebook was only for people you knew?

The only flats I have been in were found in these two ways. If I didn’t use those I would be living in my car.

But is that really safe? Did you do some kind of background checks on them or ask some reliable sources if those people were safe to be around? Or were you really just brave and, pardon me for saying this, stupid enough to go in blind?

I feel like I'd give off a lot of nutty/weird vibes considering I have a passion for bugs.

You don’t seem to to me. When I say weird I don’t mean aspieish or weird interests. Vibes are something completely different to personality traits. You don’t come across as someone who would be a danger to be around.

People at wp have in the past. One WP member years ago had the worst vibes I’ve ever felt about someone. He started harassing me and sending me death threats 5 years later (I simply told him on wp to stop sending women abusive pms when they rejected his advances) and I found out he had several restraining orders against him.

No kidding? A bunch of restraining orders against somebody is definitely a bit of a red flag. And I never understood the thought process behind people who obsess over somebody and then get all hostile about it. Like I get if you're really sad that somebody you're into doesn't feel the same way, but you clearly can't like them all that much if you're sending out death threats. It's a funny old world.

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You believe too much radically in vibes, HP, it is ridiculous.

I do too. Though maybe we have different interpretations of the word "vibe". For me it's just something... off, about the way they act. It's a bit vague to describe really, but you know it when you feel it. It's not like when you see an autistic or mentally handicapped person where you think to yourself "that's person's a bit strange", rather you get distinct sinister feelings about said bad vibes person.

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03 Jan 2018, 2:52 am

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I don’t get vibes off people or I’d not handed those 1,000 dollar Binos over to the guy who stole them.

I don't get vibes of people either

What's a Bino?

Binocular. Used to see far away. They can cost upwards of 10,000 dollars.

$10,000

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03 Jan 2018, 3:15 am

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I don’t get vibes off people or I’d not handed those 1,000 dollar Binos over to the guy who stole them.

I don't get vibes of people either

What's a Bino?

Binocular. Used to see far away. They can cost upwards of 10,000 dollars.

$10,000

Yup. A cheap night vision scope is $5,000 for example. While high end ones cost $20,000. Well off people will waste huge sums of money on such things. They often just paying for brand name. A 1,000 bino is just about as good as a $5,000 bran$ one. But such people will plop down $500,000+ for a car they rarely drive.

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03 Jan 2018, 3:17 am

That's far too expensive for me. I'll stick with my opera glasses.

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03 Jan 2018, 3:34 am

hale_bopp wrote:

goldfish21 wrote:

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You believe too much radically in vibes, HP, it is ridiculous.

I always get the impression Boo thinks everyone who talks about vibes talks about something magical/esoteric. Now I don't know if that's the case - and if it is, I'm not of the opinion that that kind of vibes exist - but to me it simply means picking up on body-language, how someone talks etc. - signals they are really sending out. And you either can tell what makes you wary about the person, or it's many little things which, without trying to thoroughly analyse it, is more like just an uneasy feeling.

Though of course it is not always accurate, and some people really ignore/don't recognize signs that someone is not to be trusted. Some nasty people also give off more obvious 'vibes' than others - it's being a good liar or a bad one. I mean, a lot of people end up in friendships/relationships with the wrong kind of people or confide in someone who will use it against them etc. - obviously it's not perfect.

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03 Jan 2018, 5:03 am

What vibes you can sense from this innocent face?

Kim: Hahahahaha

Generals: Hahahahaha

Kim: Hahahahahah

Generals: Hahahahaha

Kim: Hahaha- kill this idiot.

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03 Jan 2018, 5:08 am

The guy in on the far right clearly farted and is hoping no one will know.

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03 Jan 2018, 5:14 am

sly279 wrote:

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I don’t get vibes off people or I’d not handed those 1,000 dollar Binos over to the guy who stole them.

I don't get vibes of people either

What's a Bino?

Binocular. Used to see far away. They can cost upwards of 10,000 dollars.

$10,000

I'd have a Jaguar Mark II in racing green and could buy my dream house a couple of streets away with the leftovers.

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03 Jan 2018, 5:20 am

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What vibes you can sense from this innocent face?

Kim: Hahahahaha

Generals: Hahahahaha

Kim: Hahahahahah

Generals: Hahahahaha

Kim: Hahaha- kill this idiot.

They are saying 'look, we have your stolen binoculars'

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03 Jan 2018, 5:30 am

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03 Jan 2018, 6:06 am

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03 Jan 2018, 10:38 am

Kim jong un gives off a cruel and nutty vibe. More nutty than anything else, which makes sense, as he lobbed a nuke over Japan.

The guy on the left clearly shat his pants.

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03 Jan 2018, 11:42 am

hale_bopp wrote:

Well you do have a point there... and I suppose it really is safer in some countries than others. Probably would be relatively safe here too, but I don't think I'd even consider it unless I absolutely had to. Of course the difference between you and me could also be the fact that I'm bad at reading vibes and have gotten in trouble with other people because of it a lot, so "trusting my gut" is not an option for me. I need facts in order to be comfortable with making decisions like that. That or I actually need to get to know people.

Glad to hear that it works for some people, though.

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03 Jan 2018, 12:32 pm

fluffysaurus wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

What vibes you can sense from this innocent face?

Kim: Hahahahaha

Generals: Hahahahaha

Kim: Hahahahahah

Generals: Hahahahaha

Kim: Hahaha- kill this idiot.

They are saying 'look, we have your stolen binoculars'

« Finally... my binoculars! »

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