a little late to the party but sometimes I feel if I'm with a BBW, bigger lady, thicker, rubenesqe, rotund, whatever, I feel that others judge me for preying upon women with low self esteem as if all large women have low self esteem...
I've often wondered it myself. If I thought that cheerleaders were out of my league, I should "thin the herd" (pun intended) by dating a large girl - someone in my league.
I don't think that's the case. I think the psychological school of thought that men are attracted to women who remind them of their mother. My mother was pretty big at times, thin at others - just like my wife. She's quite thin now. She's lost about 130-something lbs.
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