How many of you are on OKcupid?

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OKcupid is free.
Theres a pay version that includes the possibility of browsing anonymously(so that someone doesnt see you have visited their profile several times...) the possibility of changing username(I think) and probably a few other things Im missing.
Free version lets you browse,message people, read messages... so I havent really looked into the pay version considering my account there is barely active.

I was on there a while back, lost heart, cancelled my account. Then I decided to give it another go a few weeks ago.

My username's Richard1565, if anyone's interested

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It's not working.

So the one guy I thought i upset has forgiven my rudeness and messaged me back. My son actually gave me a tip so I don't scare them off. He said keep the messages simple for awhile since I'm just getting to know them. I'm still wondering about the guy I talked stuff with. I would like him to calm down with the flirting without giving him the brush off.

This is, I think my third attempt at trying but at least these prospects (using that word loosely) are close to my age and in the same state. If nothing pans out at least I'm learning how to communicate better.

Just reactivated my profile:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/jewbuntu/

Where my aspies at?

I visited. You don't have anything in your self-summary section.

Thanks. Yeah, I wasn't sure what to put there. What sort of things would you like to know?

That's the point- it's a free for all!


I guess anything you'd consider unique or interesting about yourself, as well as the basic stuff.

My biggest weakness about this site is pretty much the same weakness I have in real life when it comes to real life: if I find someone interesting, I'm too scared to message them first. Personally, I don't get the whole deal of where men are the ones who HAVE to make the first move. If that's an "according to Hoyle" rule, then I'm screwed.

Go after what you want who cares about rules.

I just can't do it. I just don't have the b***s to message someone and even so much as say "hello." And even if I did, how lame would something like that sound to someone, especially if they were more self-confident than I was?

I'm not cancelling the account though since I still find answering the questions and doing the tests to be fun and, at times, informative. But even if I was a "good catch," I wouldn't even know it since there's not one reason I could think of as to why I would be.

I was the same way. That's why I didn't date anyone until I was 23...

If you ever want to have a relationship, you will have to stop worrying about what people think of you. Most of the girls I message will take one look at my profile, decide they're not interested, and go about their day. Fine. An few minutes later, they will have forgotten it ever happened.

Don't say "hello". Pick out something you like in his/her profile that you like too. Ask about a common interest. For instance, you might notice that she likes the same kind of music you like. Then you could write "I love _____ music! What are your favorite bands?" More people reply to that kind of message than to "hello."

Still, you may have to send *a lot* of messages before someone replies back. Don't take it personally. That's just how these things work. If you send out enough messages, someone will reply. Doesn't necessarily mean (s)he will go out with you, but it's a start.

This is a process. It will take time. But you will get nowhere - IRL or online - until you take that first leap. Start messaging. It will do no harm.

I am but only because I have not bothered to go back and delete my profile.

I am so tired of the types of men I attract, they are so unappealing to me (not in the least bit interested in academics, often into drugs, tend to get too attached far too quickly (within one or two conversations on msn for example), and seem to only be interested in sex whereas I am seeking a life partner to share my heart with) that I no longer wish to pursue a relationship or go out on dates with men at all.

I really don't see the point in wasting my time as I do not enjoy socialising for the sake of it, so it's not like I can just enjoy it for the evening out if they turn out to be a no go again. All I end up doing is wasting time that could have been better spent studying or on one of my other hobbies.

I'm on it but never get messages from anyone interesting.

I've messaged someone whose profile was really intriguing and we exchanged e-mails almost everyday for about 2 months.
But after meeting in person several times he told me he met someone else, so I stopped contacting him.
That was 3 months ago and I haven't found anyone as interesting since.

I think I need to tweak my profile a little to attract right kind of people but I'm not sure how...

I have been on OKCupid, POF, Passions Network, Match.ca, & every other free dating site out there at one time or another with absolutely NO LUCK. I'm starting to lose hope of ever finding someone that isn't a complete loser or looking for a "mom".