NT women cant stand aspie men!

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My gods, all this psychoanalysis because of one sarcastic post.

There is a chap at work, very young, very obviously overweight, very plain, very obviously on the spectrum and yet already married. Make of that what you will.

I'm very sorry for striking my thought filled shovel into your soil but that's just the way I am. As you said yourself this is Wrongplanet. We all have our stuff to deal with and we're all different.

I had no idea that was sarcasm. I can tell sometimes. But recognizing your negative mindset made me feel it was a genuine post and question.


I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings or prodded Boo. But I'm not taking anything back, if you present a issue I will try to understand it and solve it/help the best I can.

At least it means I care, which I'm not going to excuse or be ashamed of.

They dont like us because we do aspie stuff! Hehe just kidding some cant resist us and find us adorable in a geeky way or adorable like having a human kitty cat that will sleep in your bed!

Tehee!

**SoulcakeDuck has invaded you world**


I believe many NT women like Aspie men we are sensitive and kind when we feel comfortable and we make others feel comfortable with who they are. We are probably the fastest people to accept you for who you are. I like to think. Because I have no opinion of you until you do something that creates that opinion. And I'm pretty understanding so little things don't set me off.
We require much patience though and often it is demanded of the other person, women in this case, to be very open minded and understanding of individuals who react and think in a different way.

I think we make one hell of a good first impression, and we really impress. We are often happy and playful when comfortable and some quiet and direct depending on how you interact and what mood you allow yourself to be in when doing so. But we run out of energy pretty quick when playing with others and women who don't understand that may start to challenge us and come with suggestions we might not be comfortable with or ready for.
For example I'm often cheerful when I first meet someone and try not to be so expressionless because I have heard and been told that I look angry, when I'm really in relax mode being myself. I don't really need people to smile at me constantly to make me feel calm and secure. Others do.
I often get in to arguments when I tell people to stop laughing so much and just be themselves, they get upset of course because they think that I'm calling them fake and in front of people to. It might come out looking like I'm an as*hole but when I do that I can sense that people are just standing there and pleasing each other with increasingly creepy enthusiasm and fabricated laughter and interest. And that makes me uncomfortable till the point where I just to the best of my ability try to tell them to just take a step back find some emotional balance and restart the conversation in a normal tone, and not a crazed shouting match.
But presentation is so important for most that you really have to alter yourself to relay to others that I'm not dangerous or upset.

"Bad girls" (I call them girls because women don't look for danger voluntarily) like me because my first impression if I'm in my own mode, come of as a tough silent dude who takes no crap from no one and I believe they see some comfort and security in that behavior and appearance. It would start out that I'd just communicate lightly and in my own deep regular voice but when I get more and more into the conversation with this person I loosen up and my voice and attitude becomes more mellow and cheerful.
This always surprises them because they thought I was some hard ass (I am, but you have to throw a punch at me first, I never start fights unless I'm defending someone or myself) and you can quickly see the change on their faces and tell they wanna leave. When this was new to me I was in a constant "what......??" mode when girls just walked of but now I know they want some one-word-answer tough guy who refuses himself the pleasure of finding joy in anything, because he hard and he seems dangerous. And chicks like that, some chicks.

Smart women find me funny and like the way I talk they often say, "You speak like you think" and stuff like that. I'm quite funny in a very dark way so it's all about finding that right girl who's understanding of your re-charge time.
We're like the latest smart phone we are fun to interact with, lots of brainy information and we can introduce you to new things that we know but our battery life is crappy and we overheat and we get sleepy and cranky. We just wanna sit in that other room alone for a few hours and gather ourselves.

I get along well with girls and they like me, but they are mostly unforgiving about inactivity, rests, pauses, "me time" and being non verbal for a longer time.
All women are different of course, but if they are NT especially and active they will not forgive your non-participation if it's to frequent.

One of my previous girlfriends after having spent a whole week at her place doing everything possible that you can do with your girl, and all was good. She called me up 2 days later after I had returned to my apartment and started crying hard in the phone saying I was distant and other things and that she was worried about if it was going to work. That just blew my mind and my ears (literally) and trying to have that conversation over the phone while she was crying was not that cool. And you really don't want to hang up on her saying let's talk tomorrow because she is going to blow the f**k up. And I'm not going to hang up either even if my brain is melting because I'm prioritizing her emotions, not because I'm weak and can't take a stance but because she's my girlfriend and what bothers her I must solve because I don't want her to be sad.
It's just those characteristics and chemistry things you have to experience/endure and go through when trying to find that person you wanna be with for some time or for all time.


I've never met a Aspie in my life. Maybe I have but I wouldn't know it. I just can't tell. I feel like I'm in the middle constantly. I haven't altered who I am as a person but I've changed the way I interact with the world and had to adopt a more NT approach to get by in life.
I bet I would purr like a kitten if I had a Aspie girlfriend or boyfriend (I'm Bi) who understood how I operate and that Soulcake needs to chill the f**k out and let me rest.

I'm often tired, no rest for the wicked... or those on the spectrum. Same thing.


stuff stuff stuff.... u___u sry was a bit of a rant but it's all guuuuuuud. I think... right? (I don't care n__n)

NT women dont like us they only like us when they see we have a girlfriend then they do!

f***s sake.

Talk about generalisations.

Just kidding teehee *runs away giggleing*

It seems like they are only interesed when they see us with another woman and double their efforts to get us when they realize it! Must be an NT female thing we aspie males cannot understand.

^ trolling hale_bopp?

????? Aspie or not, if you are with another woman, you should probably stay there.

*Decoder Ring*

"I'm posting generalizations out of bitterness but I'm totally just kidding guys it's all a joke (but really it's not)."

Im getting into mischief hehe!

NT woman: Im dumping you now since you admitted your an aspie!
Me: But I thought you love me for me!!
NT woman: times change and I just said that so I dont hurt your feelings!
Me:
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