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14 May 2013, 1:01 pm

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I'm not trying to make you look bad. Indeed, I'm sure you wouldn't befriend people that you consider bad people.

And here is when it comes the interesting thing: I'm sure you wouldn't befriend a person that you consider bad. However, and even though you consider intelectually as something morally wrong some behaviours (as the FWB one), you wouldn't have any emotional problem to befriend a person that has a FWB, or that is gay, for example.

Your head and your christian convictions say that something is morally wrong. However, your emotions don't find any problem in befriending such people.

That is food for thoughts, don't you think?


A man cannot force his opinions on another, or make him believe what another does. So yes I agree with you one this one, I find it not wrong to befriend these people. Why would I hate these people if it is their will to do these things? God gave them free will just as I. There is no more thought in this discussion though. I have said what I did, it is for God to judge petty things like this. Rape, pedophilia, molestation, human trafficking, and murder are different, that you can be angry about, because that is righteous anger. On the other hand, God did say not to go out and murder these people, he doesn't want you to become one of them.


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14 May 2013, 1:02 pm

IMO it's kinda like the poly relationship thread.

It's okay as long as everyone consents.


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14 May 2013, 1:20 pm

Some people I know that want a FWB think they are the last step in the human evolution or something like that :lol: They are veeery cynical, some of them tried to manipulate me to make me think like them. "Love is a lie", "enjoy the life", "It's just sex, and sex is fun", "you're missing a great opportunity". Exhausting! I'm ok with people that do that because everyone is free, what I don't like is that they try to make me join the FWB club trying to depress me if they see that they are not convincing me. You don't need to be pretentious and manipulative with someone that wants sex+love only because you think that FWB is the best option.


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14 May 2013, 1:23 pm

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Some people I know that want a FWB think they are the last step in the human evolution or something like that :lol: They are veeery cynical, some of them tried to manipulate me to make me think like them. "Love is a lie", "enjoy the life", "It's just sex, and sex is fun", "you're missing a great opportunity". Exhausting! I'm ok with people that do that because everyone is free, what I don't like is that they try to make me join the FWB club trying to depress me if they see that they are not convincing me. You don't need to be pretentious and manipulative with someone that wants sex+love only because you think that FWB is the best option.


Right on! (towards stuff in bold)


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14 May 2013, 2:09 pm

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14 May 2013, 2:24 pm

appletheclown wrote:
Not the ok with it part, do we have to go through this again, I meant her saying about people shouldn't try and make people think their way.


I'm sorry I don't understand what you're talking about this time. I only posted that gif because I feel the topic has gotten ridiculous.

I mean, how hard is it to say "I do/don't like FWB because...[text]"? That's not directed at you, mate, but generally.
All this talk of books older than Yoda, and magical beard wizards with a tangent to change these Yoda books on a whim has me awful bored. I prefer to make decisions on my own principles and judgement.

From my own experiences of what I thought was love, actual love, "interesting" friendships with girls and long periods of being single..I find FWB to be a beneficial arrangement (if they consent of course, and initiate!). I'd much prefer a relationship but in a time in my life with little stability and certainty on a number of things, a FWB situation would be better for me and the girl I'd want to go with.



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14 May 2013, 2:25 pm

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I don't know what you are trying to say, all you are doing is LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.............................................


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14 May 2013, 2:26 pm

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Not the ok with it part, do we have to go through this again, I meant her saying about people shouldn't try and make people think their way.


I'm sorry I don't understand what you're talking about this time. I only posted that gif because I feel the topic has gotten ridiculous.

I mean, how hard is it to say "I do/don't like FWB because...[text]"? That's not directed at you, mate, but generally.
All this talk of books older than Yoda, and magical beard wizards with a tangent to change these Yoda books on a whim has me awful bored. I prefer to make decisions on my own principles and judgement.

From my own experiences of what I thought was love, actual love, "interesting" friendships with girls and long periods of being single..I find FWB to be a beneficial arrangement (if they consent of course, and initiate!). I'd much prefer a relationship but in a time in my life with little stability and certainty on a number of things, a FWB situation would be better for me and the girl I'd want to go with.


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14 May 2013, 2:28 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:
appletheclown wrote:
Not the ok with it part, do we have to go through this again, I meant her saying about people shouldn't try and make people think their way.


I'm sorry I don't understand what you're talking about this time. I only posted that gif because I feel the topic has gotten ridiculous.

I mean, how hard is it to say "I do/don't like FWB because...[text]"? That's not directed at you, mate, but generally.
All this talk of books older than Yoda, and magical beard wizards with a tangent to change these Yoda books on a whim has me awful bored. I prefer to make decisions on my own principles and judgement.

From my own experiences of what I thought was love, actual love, "interesting" friendships with girls and long periods of being single..I find FWB to be a beneficial arrangement (if they consent of course, and initiate!). I'd much prefer a relationship but in a time in my life with little stability and certainty on a number of things, a FWB situation would be better for me and the girl I'd want to go with.



The gif confused me. I don't like that troll stuff, it is kind of annoying.


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14 May 2013, 2:42 pm

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Some people I know that want a FWB think they are the last step in the human evolution or something like that :lol: They are veeery cynical, some of them tried to manipulate me to make me think like them. "Love is a lie", "enjoy the life", "It's just sex, and sex is fun", "you're missing a great opportunity". Exhausting! I'm ok with people that do that because everyone is free, what I don't like is that they try to make me join the FWB club trying to depress me if they see that they are not convincing me. You don't need to be pretentious and manipulative with someone that wants sex+love only because you think that FWB is the best option.

I feel the same way. Welcome to the club! :D


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14 May 2013, 4:18 pm

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BanjoGirl wrote:
Some people I know that want a FWB think they are the last step in the human evolution or something like that :lol: They are veeery cynical, some of them tried to manipulate me to make me think like them. "Love is a lie", "enjoy the life", "It's just sex, and sex is fun", "you're missing a great opportunity". Exhausting! I'm ok with people that do that because everyone is free, what I don't like is that they try to make me join the FWB club trying to depress me if they see that they are not convincing me. You don't need to be pretentious and manipulative with someone that wants sex+love only because you think that FWB is the best option.

I feel the same way. Welcome to the club! :D


Yes, nowadays it seems that if you don't like this FWB stuff some people mocks you, as if you were naïve or not "modern" or something similar. One thing is the "theory" and the other thing is the reality. I have met people with this kind of relationships and I saw that "feelings" (good feelings and bad feelings) usually are on the way. Unrequited love, jealousy and a FWB becoming a long term relationship. Here where I live people don't say FWB anyway, they say "f**k friend", so I don't know where is the respect in this kind of relationship in the first place. To me "f**k friend" means "someone to f**k", not "a good friend who enjoys sex with me".

I don't like when someone that wants a FWB thinks he is more modern than me because he can separate friendship, love and sex. Those three can be easily mixed.


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14 May 2013, 4:28 pm

appletheclown wrote:
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Some people I know that want a FWB think they are the last step in the human evolution or something like that :lol: They are veeery cynical, some of them tried to manipulate me to make me think like them. "Love is a lie", "enjoy the life", "It's just sex, and sex is fun", "you're missing a great opportunity". Exhausting! I'm ok with people that do that because everyone is free, what I don't like is that they try to make me join the FWB club trying to depress me if they see that they are not convincing me. You don't need to be pretentious and manipulative with someone that wants sex+love only because you think that FWB is the best option.


Right on! (towards stuff in bold)


Ha ha, well, if I meet two friends that are into a FWB I don't care, what annoys me is when they think they are being more intelligent than me and that I saw "too many Disney movies" and that they don't want any relationship. I'm cynical and sarcastic myself, but that people is just too much :?. I don't want their "I'm fed up with the world and I'm going to teach you something about what men really want, little girl". Ah, pleaaase.


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14 May 2013, 4:37 pm

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL



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14 May 2013, 4:38 pm

^ that wasn't directed at anyone, just felt the urge to do it after seeing JM's post.



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14 May 2013, 4:49 pm

Something I would absolutely NEVER do, but it may work for some people.



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14 May 2013, 6:28 pm

cakey wrote:
BanjoGirl wrote:
Some people I know that want a FWB think they are the last step in the human evolution or something like that :lol: They are veeery cynical, some of them tried to manipulate me to make me think like them. "Love is a lie", "enjoy the life", "It's just sex, and sex is fun", "you're missing a great opportunity". Exhausting! I'm ok with people that do that because everyone is free, what I don't like is that they try to make me join the FWB club trying to depress me if they see that they are not convincing me. You don't need to be pretentious and manipulative with someone that wants sex+love only because you think that FWB is the best option.

I feel the same way. Welcome to the club! :D


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