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24 Oct 2013, 1:26 pm

I like elephants...

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24 Oct 2013, 1:39 pm

I don't like Pokemon...

They are so noisy and annoying...

I want to capture them all.

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24 Oct 2013, 6:04 pm

Geekonychus wrote:

-Don't take rejection personally. After a while I had gotten so experienced with dating, the worm turned, it became me having to reject others more often then the other way around. It gave me a whole new perspective and I would have given anything to be the one being rejected again. It's even more painful from the other side.

Really? Being rejected is much more painful to me than rejecting. Especially when you don't hear from them again after the first meeting.
A lot of guys are eager to meet me and I do very well with messaging but meeting in person part is very hard for me.
I get very nervous and stiff. I probably seem extra awkward. Any advice?

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24 Oct 2013, 8:58 pm

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Or maybe you are lost in the hall of mirrors.

Who could dare to say but yourself.

Oh, it's the "it's all in your head" stupid argument.

Hmmm.

Reading your posts, and your endless (and rather futile) classificions (which you abort because you realise you could go on forever), I could suggest that it is your classification that is the 'all in your head' stupid argument and very few people fall neatly into boxes. And most people reading this have spent their whole lives being classified as something or another - yet here you are happy to do so.

Your "that's how the world works" so I'll join in argument (plainly absurd), is like saying 'okay mein fuhrer, where shall we put the Zyklon B?' It's joining in this simplistic division conspiracy - that discrimintates against people on the spectrum, and people who do not fit a 'mainstream' model that actually fits so few anyway.

The prevailing powers and ruling elites have always enjoyed the 'divide and conquer' approach. Hell, let's set woman against man, man against child, geek against nerd, middle class against underclass...so we forget we're all people.

The end result of classification - you vs. everybody else. Why even start to go down that road?

Very nicely put.

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24 Oct 2013, 9:06 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I don't like Pokemon...

They are so noisy and annoying...

I want to capture them all.

Anyone that thinks an electrified rat is cute needs therapy. That's all I have to say about that...

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24 Oct 2013, 10:15 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I don't like Pokemon...

They are so noisy and annoying...

I want to capture them all.

I'm still striving to be the greatest master

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25 Oct 2013, 5:25 am

Idealism speeches here make me nauseating.

Anyway, lostie, do you like tattooed eyebrows, manipulated lips, fake boobs on women?

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25 Oct 2013, 5:27 am

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The prevailing powers and ruling elites have always enjoyed the 'divide and conquer' approach. Hell, let's set woman against man, man against child, geek against nerd, middle class against underclass...so we forget we're all people.

lol, who's talking world conspiracy now?

Let's burn the DSM then.

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25 Oct 2013, 5:40 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I don't like Pokemon...

They are so noisy and annoying...

I want to capture them all.

You are now considered the purest form of evil for saying what you did.

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25 Oct 2013, 6:39 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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yellowtamarin wrote:

That's nice, dear.

I still maintain my point that if you are not interested in conversing with someone (or not able show interest in conversing) because they are talking about something that isn't your special interest, or is something you already knew, etc etc, then you should think about whether it would be appropriate to form a relationship with that person.

If we think like that it will narrow our options down too much, which basically means we will give up before we even tried. I would like to think that learning more social "tricks" would help out. It will be mentally tiring having to keep it up, but it is essential to communicate and find out if people are compatible. If I could be a Geek, I would.

Example of socially inept person.

Josie : *Winks flirtingly*
Ben : Oh do you have something in your eye? Want me to go get you some eye drops?
Josie : You are so socially inept *walks off*

I would like to think the Geek would have figured out earlier what is going on.

um..no, geeks can be aspie too hence socially inept too lol.

I think we are not on the same wavelength anymore, I was drawing a line between fictional geeks (geeks who are more into fiction stuff like animes, magic, arts, palm reading and often having "crazy" looks like weirdly dyed hairs, tattoos, arty.... call them hipsters or artists....wtv) and nerdy-geeks who who lacks the 'crazy' element and are more into factual things (call them nerds if you like).

Both can be socially inept, but ON OKCUPID, the former type are more common and arger female population of that type of geeks than our type.

I realise the problem by saying a pure Geek can't technically be an Aspie, and yes sure, perhaps relaxing on that part and saying that leaning towards being a Geek is still more accepted by society than the other kind (nerds/dorks) that has no value. Society places high value on what is considered intelligent. Geeks show a more intelligent side that is acceptable and easier for a non aspie/neurotypical to also be a Geek. So I inevitably agree with you that the Geeks you mention are people with high intelligence and more common and accepted.

I guess when I said my nerdiness mixed with dorkiness makes it difficult for me, because dorks aren't valued because dorks aren't on the intelligence range. It's a fact of life.
The things you considered to be Geek is still considered intelligent, there are more Geeks out there that makes it more viable to be a Geek and be accepted.

hmm you do have a point with that "crazy" element. oh well, I suppose that makes it more in demand then.

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25 Oct 2013, 9:04 am

Yuzu wrote:

Geekonychus wrote:

I'm hypersensative and empathetic around people, definetely moreso then the average guy. Breaking girl's hearts is painful to me. It's what made me realize I could never be a true "player." I'm not sociopathic enough for the game.

My Advice:
Just try to remember that they are likely just as nervous as you are. Don't be self concious or ashamed of your awkwardness. It might help if you told your date upfront that you are shy and awkward around new people. It might put them more at ease too.

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25 Oct 2013, 9:13 am

Blah Blah Blah. Geeks, nerds, dorks are all used pretty much interchangably by me and most other people. They are just different types of awkward. Few people actually know or care what the differrence is.

It's a silly Semantics argument. Like all semantics arguments, it just acts as a distraction from the real issue.

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25 Oct 2013, 9:28 am

I might try that next time. Thanks.

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25 Oct 2013, 12:48 pm

How to spot an online player (clicky)

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25 Oct 2013, 1:11 pm

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How to spot an online player (clicky)

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Players as they describe in the article seem pretty harmless, especially if they don't take their silliness offline. Females are equally likely to engage in such behavior. Good advice on there though about how not to behave on a site. Standard call-up messages are sure to fail.

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25 Oct 2013, 1:23 pm

Interesting, makes some (obviously) good points - but is rather hypocritical. The 'what's he trying to prove point' is very badly made, for instance.

I'm sure there are a fair few 'fakes' out there, but hey, put thoughts of fear in people's minds and they'll quite happily come to all sorts of conclusions. I wonder how many people with asperger's have suffered from not fitting a chavtastic/average norm, too.

Do we have any figures for fake profiles? No.

And what about the 'female players', the ones who have certain strategies and they are willing to implement them come hell or high water. And what about the lazy journalist bloggers, who are quite happy having a profile for 'research' purposes...coughthat's called an online dating playercough.

I look forward to the writer's next articles, "How to spot a communist" and "Never talk to anyone in public, as they're after your blood".

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