The real reason why you aren't hit on much by women.

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If there's a reason to be motivated, then it's no lie.

I happen to think there are many reasons to be motivated.

Motivation can be as simple as a "thirst for more". More whatever...more money, more knowledge, more fun, more meaningful moments. Contentment with your life as it is is fine, but not particular interesting to most people (and presumably not very interesting to yourself either?). Craving "more" out of life, is generally an attractive trait. Stagnation is generally not.

“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practise resignation, unless it was quite necessary. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, to live so sturdily and Spartan-like as to put to rout all that was not life, to cut a broad swath and shave close, to drive life into a corner, and reduce it to its lowest terms.”
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden: Or, Life in the Woods

This thread now needs a Music-Video about guys who apparently are clueless than a girl actually wants them...

...eventually giving up & deciding to find someone else because Aspies don't know that they're being desired.

Disparage is an interesting word in this context.

You're not doing too badly, Sly. At least you're not in debt!

I think you're stuck in a world which seems to exist in dating sites--but is not the real world.

Regarding motivation; don't be surprised or picky when you only attract equally unambitious people.

There's nothing wrong with wanting a peaceful and ordinary life with stability trumping prospects and adventure but you'll have to accept that it limits you to people of the same esteem and mindset.