Still haven't found a girlfriend

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It doesn't affect me massively anymore I know they were just stupid and picked on me because I was a easy target. Even so it did leave it's mark even now sometimes I'm not happy with myself.

Thank you for the kind compliments you guys are making me all embarrested

You are pretty, Alliekit.

You have become the Swan.

But how to a bloody well change a haircut. I thought my hair looked good, how do i make a haircut look nice. How to i change a clothing style when i thought my clothes looked good.

Ok this is my stepbrother http://picpaste.com/1-UkLKaDE2.jpg

and this is me- http://picpaste.com/IMG_0320-Fw0lbzPz.JPG
and then another of me-http://picpaste.com/IMG_0634-3IppjgdE.JPG
and one more of me-
http://picpaste.com/IMG_1665-puem8Aok.JPG


So there are 3 pictures of me, yes i might need to get in better shape but does my stepbrother really have a better haircut then me from those 3 pictures, is his dress sense really that better

Show me one comment on here that says i look nice, that i look handsome and that they would date me

Why is it that no one replys to me on plenty of fish if i don't look ugly.

I have sent thousands of messages and no one ever replys they just view me so wht does that tell you

You're welcome, sorry for embarrassing you. You should drop that baggage as it's useless to hold onto anymore. People can be cruel, especially when they get into groups. Mob mentality is pretty stupid. Every time you look in the mirror remind yourself you are beautiful, be happy. I will stop embarrassing you now.

It tells me that everyone has an opinion.
That doesn't necessarily make them right.
It doesnt make you wrong, either.

Sorry, I wouldn't know where to start looking for comments on here.
And I haven't had any experience with dating sites to comment on why women don't reply, so I will leave that for someone else to maybe answer.

The main difference I see if that your stepbtother doesn't seem to care what people thing. He is happily looking like a tit but at the same time he doesn't look like one because he doesn't care (if that made any sense at all).

I like your hair when it's up, also this is just observation but my brother used to have skin like yours and he went to the doctor for it. They gave him this ointment that cleared it up and his confidence went up massively

I'm not exactly gorgeous.....but I've done okay with girls.

I'm short and stubby.

If you have a decent personality, Cricketman, you can certainly get a girlfriend. I've seen guys who look similar to you cuddle with pretty girls. Just don't exude desperation.

It ain't hopeless, Sir.

If it ain't hopeless then why hasn't it happened to me so far?

Your hair looks the best in the first photo, meh in the 2nd, and the worst in the 3rd photo. Of the 3, it'd look better (IMO) if you keep it cut & styled like it is in the first photo first the 3rd.

Your clothes are not terrible. They're just kinda "meh" and average looking - the kind of stuff you'd wear lazily around the home vs. going out trying to look your best to impress anyone. My regular dress of t-shirts and jeans is not much different. In fact, my work clothes are old tattered jeans and holy t-shirts that make me look homeless. However, I do not dress like that when going out somewhere nice & would never dress like that when I'm meaning to "dress to impress." I'd at least wear clean newer clothing that fits well, and if I'm going out going out even if I wear jeans they'd be nicer jeans and I'd wear "smart" shoes as you British call them & a proper button down collared shirt, ironed.

As an autistic man, I don't really care too much for fashion & style.. but I do own some fashionable stylish clothes, a couple nicer jackets, a few decent pairs of shoes, some proper fitting dress shirts etc and can dress reasonably nicely for any occasion I may want to. I don't own a proper suit or anything like that, but my work and life at the moment don't call for it.

As a gay man, I naturally have a bit of a better idea of what does and doesn't look good on a guy, IMO, despite not caring too much about my "look." I'm a construction labourer at the moment, not a salesman, so meh - I don't care. But I still know what I think looks good. While I'm not narcissistic, I'd rather spend time and money on healthy food and lifestyle so that I look good naked vs. invest in camouflage to make myself look better with clothing. But that's just me. And I do hang out at a nude beach in the Summer time, sooo, looking good naked isn't just about sexy time in the bedroom. And it's not even about looking good to other so much as it is about feeling good about being fit, healthy, and active.

Once someone has a "fit" body vs. fat (I've been both, so I know.), there are WAY more options for fashionable clothing and it's easier to find something that fits better. SO much about what clothing looks good on someone is about how well it fits their body, no matter what shape or size they are. Fat people wearing clothing that's too small looks terrible. Fat people wearing clothing that's too big for them also looks terrible. Average people wearing designer clothes that are too big for them looks bad. etc. It's not about the name of the designer or how much something costs, it's about how well it FITS the body that it's on. This is part of why almost everyone at the nude beach looks pretty good naked, even fat people, because they're not dressed in ill-fitting clothes.

Your step brother is no looker. It's not his striking good looks that got him his girlfriend, nor is it what keeps her. As you've stated, they met at a disability meeting and have common ground. Their relationship is likely more based on that and compatible personalities than it is on her being initially attracted to him for his GQ model good looks. I'm a firm believer in first impressions & he doesn't exactly make a good one in the aesthetics department. If he were gay and I were looking for a hookup.. nope! There you have it, there's my blunt assessment of your step brother.

The other thing that you could change about your look that would instantly make an improvement would be your glasses. I wear glasses and quite like mine. Besides being expensive designer frames and lenses, what makes mine look good on me is how they fit. I've learned how they're supposed to fit and that my first pair of glasses had too short of temple length for the shape of my head. I can't tell if your temple length (glasses arm length) is appropriate or not based on the angle of those pics, but I can tell you that, especially based on the 2nd pic, the width of those frames is too narrow for your face which makes them look sort of "stretched" out to each side. You'd do yourself a great first impression service by seeking out eyeglass frames that are wider across from the outside edge of each lens, so that the temples then go straight back over your ears vs. spreading outward as they go back. IMO proper fitting glasses are critically important to the appearance of eyeglass wearers because you have to wear them every single day with every outfit, so it's worth spending a bit more money on them if need be. Again, just like clothing, they don't necessarily have to be expensive designer brand name frames, they just have to fit you properly.

Over the long run, diet and exercise will get you into better physical shape which will make clothing fit & appear so much better. When you're lean and fit and can wear a proper button down dress shirt that's "fitted" vs. the typical American style made for obese people [the shape of the body of the shirt is tailored like ") (" instead of a big wide sail of fabric like "| |" or even "( )"] clothing just fits & looks oh-so-much better! I was once 242lbs with a 38" waist. I'm now 200lbs of muscle with about a 33" waist & a pretty solid chest and arms. It takes a lot of time and hard work to do what I've done, but I have Z E R O regrets about making the effort. I look better and feel better and AM better off in every way for it.

Also a long run thing, a very healthy diet and healthy insides would do wonders for your skin. I also know this from experience. Even as an adult, with a crap diet my skin was unhealthy. The healthier I eat, the clearer my skin is. It's not perfect, but I've gone from having pretty bad acne to the point of not going swimming for several years to fairly mild and having no problem being naked in public soaking up sunshine at the beach. It's said that the health of one's skin reflects the health of their intestines. If you're insides are healthy and clean, your skin is, too. If your intestines are full of toxins from a lifetime of poor diet, undesirable bacterias/funguses etc, then your skin reflects it in it's appearance and health.

Whether body composition or skin health, it takes a very long time to get unhealthy, so it should be expected that it takes a long time to slowly get healthy, bit by bit, so don't expect instant results & don't give up on yourself just because something takes a long time to achieve. Decide that you're worth being happy and healthy and then do the things every single day that will get you the results you want in the long run.

People hate this idea.....but I've learned that not actively seeking a girlfriend has reaped benefits for me.

Put yourself in situations which reflect what you're interested in. Hang out. Talk to people. Don't seem like you're desperate or dependent. Don't exude self-pity, even if you feel like this "inside."

If girls see that you can relate to people, you stand a better chance. If you seem desperate, no chance.

Because you don't look particularly attractive, is all. Just as others have bluntly pointed out. That doesn't necessarily mean you're ugly. Just not stereotypically "hot." Just as it is with other things, it's not enough to not be ugly.. people have to be attractive, whether we are talking about looks or personality or the "whole package." There are ways to make yourself appear more aesthetically attractive. I just typed out a very long & honest post for you above.

What it tells me is that you're continuing to do the same thing over and over and expecting different results... which is pretty much the definition of insanity and sure to drive yourself nucking futs if you don't cut it out. Either your communication style is lacking in some way and that's your mistake, or your photos, or both. If you're not getting a positive reaction to your pics over and over and over and over again.. take better pics! Get a photographer friend to snap pics for you. Read tutorials on how to take better selfies. Yes, they exist. Dress differently. Get advice on your clothing. etc.

As someone who has had.. great success with personal ads, I know what I'm talking about. If I weren't currently dating someone and I REALLY wanted to put up a proper dating profile to attract someone I was really genuinely interested in, I would get a fresh haircut and then make plans to go spend a day with a photographer friend, wear some attractive outfits, get some proper photos taken and then use those. I've never done anything like that before, but I have SO MANY gay friends that are models and photographers that I know in real life that post VERY attractive pics on Facebook and Instagram and it makes me think hmmmmm, if I really REALLY wanted to have an attractive dating profile out there (which I never reeeeeally have or I'd have maybe done this) I would definitely enlist the expertise of a gay fashion friend & photographer and make a day of looking good for the camera - even if it cost me $$ I'd consider it an investment in putting my best self forward and an investment in my future happiness with a loving partner. I'm sure I'd also find out who was super shallow on these dating sites by who messaged me that never had before but I wouldn't really be able to fault them for finding me more attractive after I just made an effort to appear more attractive!

Listen i have sent loads of messaged to girls tonight on plenty of fish pleading for them to respond. None have

I sent one saying, Hi, please tell me and i worthless, am i ugly because it will mean a lot coming from a pretty girl like yourself. And guess what no response

I even sent one saying i am near to killing myself but again no response.

It all just shows i am ugly, i am worthless and killing myself is a good idea. So maybe i should just give up.

Looking good is just going to take too long, I was trying to lose weight but tonight i have just eaten and eaten.

That's your mistake.

NEVER plead to a girl. It's fatal to your chances.

Look i've tried not pleading, i tried sending them normal messages but i still got no answers

Pleading is much worse.

Just continue with the normal messages.

Talk about your favorite band.