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At the end of the day everyone is different and is looking for someone who fits them. That is neither bad or good or black and white. We're just all different.

I'm a computer programmer btw. I used to do office work, but I never had enough to do in those jobs and got bored and depressed. I needed to do something more fulfilling for me personally. That won't suit everyone and it doesn't make me better than anyone. It's just different.

I'm from a British middle class family (which is different to the American middle). Most of my family have gone to private schools. A guy raised on a council estate will not find a person like me attractive and that's OK.

Actually it's not OK. I was trying to hold my head above the rejection and say it doesn't matter.

I get judged by what I do for work and how I talk too.

Apparently people marrying only their own class hampers social mobility and it's actually worse now than it was mid 20th century.

It's hard to measure or describe what makes people compatible other than that all too fake sounding word "chemistry" and we end up with clunky class relayed descriptions instead which hurt people

These people took it too far though.

Jacoby said he believes people
e must want someone 'dumber' purely to control the other person, and showed some contempt on those who aren't interested in intellectual pursuits.

Don't even get me started on the pompous, elitist drivel Luhluhluh spouted.

Oh yes of course the general population are all willfully ignorant philistines and of course you imply in your posts that you belong to this apparent superior class of enlightened intellectuals like you and Jacoby in your ambitious adventure in intellectualness.

If I'm as intelligent as I've consistently thought I am and been told my entire life, that is above average intelligence, though I'm not one to decide I am, then I can say with confidence that 'intelligence' f*cking sucks a good amount of th time, as does self awareness.

I want a simple, non-studious girl with very y little academic knowledge aside from the minimal amount of 'common sense' necessary to navigate modern living, basic mainstream level knowledge of politics, philosophy, history, etc. The answer to that is very little/jack all.

Short answer is if I meet a girl with few/no knowledge in most academic topics, I, the more studious one who researches a lot of this stuff, would be delighted to be the one to say "you're not interested in politics? Good, maybe its better you dont know much about it, because it certainly didn't help me!"

Because the only thing knowledge has turnt me into is a cynic.

Ignorance is bliss they say.

Of course if she wants to know more she can, of course its a bad idea to always shelter people from the atrocity that is this world, but most people know the world is bad without needing to know the specifics.

Seriously, its probably less impactful to know 'war has always existed. War is bad. Australia was in ww1 and 2. America, the Nazis and england and Russia and Japan were too.' then to know hundreds and thousands of wars throughout history and know the motivations behind each one and all sorts of detailed personal accounts that make you hate the human condition with a passion.

Guess which one turns you more cynical and misanthropic if you're not careful?

Better to know 'racism is bad. The White europeans mistreated the indigenous Australians' than to know the kind of detailed accounts I know about it.

I'm too far down the rabbit hole, I need a girl who hasn't been so broken by knowledge,who can help me climb back out and live a more simple, laid back life again though I am already doing this myself she would help. Lets eat at fast food places and joke, lie under the stars, be young, dumb and immature. Let's get drunk and dance awkwardly, get high and chill, screw politics or history or science, etc. "Basic" common denominator Philosophy while high is all we need and small talk. I love child-like tomboys. A girl I crushed on even still made 'pinky promises' at 17. <3

FYI, my mother didn't even know about Hitler and the atrocities he did in WW2.

That's fine Outrider you don't have to defend your preference.

At least you know what you want. And a down to earth regular lass should be easy to meet.

Also, you're not blaming women for looking down on your preference which is good and balanced.

The you in the following paragraph is a general you and not directed at Outrider:
There's no point complaining about all the people who don't want what you want and who are not wanting to share the life you want. Just move on and look for someone you will enjoy life with. Now that pool may be small and more difficult to find. But my pool is small too. We've just got to get on with it without blaming other people for their own preferences.

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It was always one of the most hated things among women; I see a lot of women on boards complaining about guys who like gaming.

Luhluuhhuhuh is right that he may find women who like games.

But....based on what I see, it's often seen negatively and as waste of time by .... I dare to say more than half of women.

That's a reality.

Lululuuhluuuhhhh, locally the only games women of my age range play are games like candy crush and that sort of facebook games.

The ones who play more "serious" games are way younger.

I know for the fact that some of my teen/young cousines (french word for a female cousin) are gamers.
My youngest cousine beated me in Mario Kart on the DS like in every round - she was 7 at the time!

Lulululluuuuuhluh,

*shrug* Honestly gaming isn't at the top of what I seek in a woman even if it's one of my interests; It's so trivial for me.

It's having in common outdoor interests and outlook at life that I care more about.

Trying to find a woman who truly enjoys video games, isn't fat and isn't already in a relationship, is a complete waste of time. I'm just looking for someone who'll accept I enjoy video games and modding, but has other things in common with me.

It doesn't help that my taste in video games is far from the norm.

In popular culture, they have this idea about guy gamers like on the left.