do you find autistic girls attractive?

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I guess I sound like a female when I say this, but (and this part is shallow) I do like my women to be attractive...but that ends there; it really is personality that I go after. I don't want a hot looking woman who is a b****; go somewhere else, please. I have enough low self-esteem to abuse myself for that. Am I attracted to aspie women? I wouldn't know. I have met one that wasn't the most beautiful woman to me, but that personality of hers...eternal bliss! The sweetest person I have ever met besides my mother and sister. So my answer: It depends on the woman. I will not and cannot go by looks alone (strangely, I have been that way since I was a teenager). The honest answer is that as of now, I need to get my life back together before even looking, as I am on working disability, and could not provide for anyone. Yet it is a lovely thought to find one that tolerates me for who I am and vice versa; if any consolation, I hope the best for everyone in their search for their Aphrodite.

No, in a word.
Really I want girls that can hold my attention, because I get bored easily.

Personality > neurology. I learnt this from the disaster that was my AS/AS relationships

I agree Asp-Z. For this reason, as far as neurology is concerned I don't have any preferences.

On a different but related note, I find it interesting this topic is still going strong.

i actually have an autistic gf. i was in high school at the time i met her. i was the typical guy, liked a good looking girl, played a sport, just working cuz i needed some side money, and looking for a girl that i can either hook up with or maybe for something more serious. i met her at work folding clothes, i was minding my own business, and surprisingly she came and talked to me (only because i needed help with something) i looked up and saw this strikingly beautiful girl and she was let me tell you...really really pretty, she had the hardest time making eye contact, and mumbled to me if she wanted to say something.

she was a really feminine girl, really innocent, and her innocence just shone through her eyes. she would dress really pretty, she would always be in a dress because she really loves dresses, she loved flowers, growing flowers, and she would never be afraid to admit it. she was a girly girl, which is what i loved about her. i love a girl that's not afraid to be feminine.

so i kept trying to communicate with her as days went by. i found out this girl went to my school, and was in the same grade i was but she was never noticed because she barely made contact with anyone. at first i thought she was normal as i tried to talk to her, and then eventually i asked her out, and asking her out was infact a long process. it took a couple weeks for her to actually say yes. she was really really shy. during those weeks, i just went along with my life. since she wouldnt say yes, i would go after other girls, but none of them appealed to me as much. there was just something about this girl, a charm, or something i couldnt really tell. this was a job at a clothing store that i really really hated at first, and i would be looking forward to it with excitement, just because she would be working there and i would get to see her. everytime after work, i would stay and ask her if she wanted a grab a bite to eat, but she would always mumble something about being busy and how she has to be somewhere and just hurry off home quickly, as if someone's out to get her. i realized later that she walked home from work because she didnt have a car nor a license at that time and she would be getting her license in a couple months, i sought that as an oppurtunity to get to having more interaction with her, by offering her a ride home. i tried doing that a couple times, but she suggested that she'd just walk home because it was good exercise. one day at work i found out that she had injured her knee, her mother dropped her off to work but there was no one to pick her up afterwards, so this time, i was more persistant in giving her a ride home, she finally agreed.

when i got to her house, she thanked me for the ride, and surprisingly asked me if i wanted to come in. i wasnt the one to refuse, even if the idea seemed far fetched, what if i got lucky? when i got to her house she asked me if i wanted something to drink, i said anything would be fine. so she sat me down at the kitchen table made the best latte i have ever tasted. and then she asked if i wanted to see her room, since i was her 'friend' now. i thought why not, i may like where this may be leading. i went into her room, and my jaw dropped. there was a bunch of plants and flowers that took up one side of her room, that she grew herself. then on the other side, she had a board full of math and physics equations. and her bookshelf was full of books of math and physics and quantum mechanics and all those things. i asked her, do you LIKE all this? she said, yes of course i do, i would like nothing but to understand the mechanism of this universe.

i was completely flabbergasted, on one side, i see this really girly girl, who wears dresses and has a flower in her hair and smells of flowers, and is really really beautiful and delicate, and i look again and she's one of those crazy geniuses who has those crazy equations scribbled all over her room . she showed me stuff she was learning by herself, her book collection, her equations, and when she explained it to me, she got really really excited, her eyes would light up. she was just so cute. even though i didnt get a word she was saying, i was still getting really excited with her. i forgot all about 'getting lucky' it really slipped my mind, i didnt want to do that to her, if anyone not her, she was just so genuine, so fresh, so innocent. her mother came home, and i got to meet her, and her mother told me about her autism, and that i was the first friend that she has had over in a matter of YEARS. we eventually became closer friends, and i can honestly say, i have gotten to know myself more as i became closer to her, she would talk about math and physics as if it were her god, her passion, and that really charmed me. she was not scarred, not influenced by the media, or anything, or anyone. she would take me places she liked, like gardens and meadows, and hiking on mountains, anywhere there is great nature. she was just so free and pure, and i would love to keep her that way. she makes me feel so secure about myself as a man. she cares for me like she would for every little flower she has. i take good care of her also, she also made me find my love for physics, and i decided to choose that as my major. it's been 3 years that we've been together, and she lost her virginity to me a year ago. i would really do anything for her, i really genuinly love her, and regret that first feeling i had of just 'hooking up' with her. i have friends of mine who also learned to accept her, and she slowly started interacting and getting along with. it is tough for her, but she's getting there. and i'm proud of her.

an autistic girl may be hard to deal with at first, but once you become close to them and really understand them , it is the most rewarding experience of your life. you have to let go of worldly influences around you, and be free spirited. i am the happiest man alive right now!!

I refuse to date an NT girl. They are mean and demanding.

I think a lot of times girls with autism/asperger's can get away with such a "disorder" because female social education is a lot more extensive than that for males... all the lectures about being "proper" and whatnot.

I do know one that didn't receive such an education and we're meeting in October.

I was told by my ASish friend that my awkwardness and ASish traits made me less attractive than perhaps I would otherwise be.