Qualities you DON'T want in a guy/girl?

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lol.. yea I had to come up with a term to explain the stimulation.. it works for me and some others.

Do you also like fractals?

I wonder how many are lurking this thread going.. umm what? why are those two so.. excited over physics.. women are NOT supposed to get turned on by that.. let alone have greygasms..

If you ever have a chance to come to Saskatoon.. do it for one thing - a tour of the synchrotron

You will walk out wet!

BTW.. what are your thoughts on the mind-control self-control system for children?



You may be many things, foreveryoung, but dumb is not one of them

fractals are wonderful, but my sister has a better understanding. she is the mathematician! she took the time to explain fractals and chaos theory to me over and over again until i could maybe understand just a little corner of them. something so soothing about things like that, like beautiful tales of wonder.

my dad used to explain electronics in the same way. to this day i am fuzzy about resistors vs. transistors for example, or watts vs. volts. but i liked to hear it over and over, and some small bits would soak in.

i enjoy trying to learn about things i can't really ever understand. i'll buy scientific american and read some of the harder articles several times before i grasp anything at all. but i am driven to know things, to somehow have some explanations of the things that confuse me.

mind-control self-control? do you mean like behaviour modification? i am uneasy about it. i tend to look at cognitive methods first, but i also believe that human potential is huge, but if we allow ourselves to be controlled by our own behaviour we might not succeed at whatever we desire to eventually do. not work-wise, but life-wise.

I'm a business major who took quite a bit of liberal arts for his GE requirements at both the lower and upper divisions. If you look at my transcript, there's a ton of history, art and speech classes on it.

They were trying to explain to you verbally? Did they used diagrams.. or 'props? I would have thought you were more visual of a learner..
I had a lot of hands on learning growing up thankfully, and as you say ..I am driven to just know... so the hands on, is on going
I was known for taking things apart, to see how they work, and put them back together - earliest was a tv, then a sewing machine at school.. and a carburettor and it never seemed to stop.

I had a friend that worked in a morgue once and he arranged for me to come in - the smells were not what I had imagined them to be..
but still very interesting..

I never left the 'why does.....' stage lol

I should do a post on that I think.. the mind-control self-control equipment..
It fascinates me, as much as it disturbs me..
I think it could be used for some wonderful things..

I know I'm not dumb. There are NT people that even if they focused and cared, wouldn't be able to get an associate's degree no matter what classes they took. I also know that book intelligence doesn't equal intelligence. I know a lot about life, am a deep-thinker, etc., but that doesn't equate to handling a job, driving, being a normal, functioning human being. I'm easily overwhelmed in a lot of social situations and likely will be living with my parents until they're too old to take care of me, then my brother will be taking care of my parents and myself.

Same there - I loved to take things apart and I still do. I HATE carburetors(American English for carburettor), even though the British SU/Stromberg designs were MUCH, MUCH simpler than the American Holley/GM Rochester/Carter, German Solex and Japanese Aisin/Hitachi/Keihin(ESPECIALLY Keihins on Honda cars) designs. I also know how to install and balance tires, I learned that from the mechanics at my old job. I've disassembled and resealed the air conditioning compressor on my Lexus as well.

I know in school, I tore apart a HP LaserJet IIP and 5P and repaired them for 2 teachers.

Then don't say you are.. or hint at it...
Book intelligence, is completely different compared to life, I completely agree.
But unfortunately, sometimes we need to get the books and the pieces of paper that seem so important to many.
I try to keep myself balanced in all parts of my 'self' - that involves book/life knowledge, society/hermit etc..

If I am around people everyday, either working or at school.. no way will I spend too much time just socialising. I cannot do it.
I will burnout and crash, and I don't like when that happens.

Do you think that is fare to you, living with others?
Do you not think you deserve to be on your own? To have the option to do what you wish, without worrying about disturbing others?
Does that not, in its self cause you stress?

Sometimes, we need to fight for what we want and need in life.. and you sound like you have already rolled over and given up.
Why? Life sucks, yea, I know, I get that. But I have been fighting for a long time for what I want and I am not ready to toss the towel in
and give up on myself - not yet and maybe not ever.

I have said plenty of times, I think it is awesome that some people have parents that will help them. That's great, but it can also end up working against them I think. Because they may just give in without really fighting for what they want.
But, hey, we are just all human when it comes down to it.. and each has their own battles to fight and different strengths.

I just know, I could not do it and wouldn't do it, because then, I might as well say they won.

BTW - what the hell is a normal functioning human being? I have wondered that all my life, you mentioned it, and sound like you have the answer.. care to share?

lol.. I HATE the american spelling.. blahhhh.. my thoughts are, once they actually have an Official Language, then , and only then, can they, maybe, be able to change the spelling of words. But, personally I think it is unfair to visual learners and a bunch of other things.. *cough*.
I went back to school to get my grade 12, and they were trying to teach me canerica.. I can't do it. All it did was totally confuse me, frustrate me and scramble me up. It also made me feel as old as dirt, temporarily. It had been almost 25 years and a lot had changed that I could not agree with.

You have rebuilt all of those? wow.. The European and Japanese vehicle owners I knew.. would not let anyone touch their 'babies'
So I would get to drool.. and that is about it lol

I am moving to Wales for uni, I have tools, that nobody I 'know' wants, because they do not know how to use them..
My flatmate.. took 6 or 7 hours the other day trying to put together a basic bed frame... this is not out of the ordinary. A flatbox desk, took 3 days..
I have been to 'busy' to help him, and damn it, he needs to learn and well he has been a jerk - so why would I help..

He is great with the 'book' knwledge, that he has to learn in uni, but that is where it ends..
no drive.. no passion..
But I get called rude, because I don't say hi every day - etc..
So guess who the 'bad guy' is..

The school I went to, was very open concept floor plan.. and the tech guy had a desk in one of the main areas.. and he was great
for explain things when I would catch him up to something..

Its like my addiction I guess..

muahh.. better an active 'why' brain feeding addiction, than many other women, who want and feel they need and deserve $2000 bags, that other females have no clue about.. it was you correct? I cant scroll up enough in the post section to see.. think it was your nick, that confused me about fashion names.. I seriously thought you were on about designer drugs... how I was born with a vagina I have no clue, because generally I just do not understand women, particularly girly girls.. they kinda freak me out - if I actually have anything in common with a female.. she usually has been labelled not 'normal' oh well..

Surya...I just meant an NT that has a steady job, typical brain (regardless of intelligence level) and so on.

It got me thinking though, maybe my current situation is the problem, not me. When I was at Orlando and Virginia Beach on vacation, I was a hell of a lot more active and outgoing than I am now. You can't be expected to live in the same place your whole life and not get sick of it. I absolutely hate everything about the area and the surrounding towns where I live.

Yep. Too bad you're not in California.

Personally, I HATE flatboxed(Ikea, Wal-Mart[or Asda on your side of the Atlantic], Target) furniture because it's cheap and flimsy. But then again, my room is furnished in Ikea items - me and my parents picked the more sensible items. I would KILL for a Herman Miller Aeron chair - but the Equa model Costco stocks will be plenty for me.

Most girly girls I know can't even cook or do anything necessary for living which is sad. This girl who I used to be "friends" with had some serious confidence and mental issues. She has some sort of language disability(but I wouldn't be surprised if she was on the spectrum), her dad was the country club type. She told me some military guy almost deflowered her but she was too tense. Yeah, way to blow my ego people.

One day, I would love to dissect my parent's Prius - if I don't get fried by the 250V DC cables leading from the hybrid transaxle inverter to the traction battery pack or the 500V AC cables leading from the inverter to the 2 motors in the transaxle. But then again, the powertrain(hybrid components, traction battery, transaxle, inverter) is warrantied for 10 years/150,000 miles.

Yes, but you made a comparison, I made mine
Many people would say, it is not fare to the people that have to 'care' for you. I don't agree with that. Because
it wasn't that long ago that families everywhere did that. They would live in 'packs' travel in packs and care for each other.
Some still do.

I do not think it is natural for humans to be tied down in one place. At all. I have been staying where I live right now, for years,
and I hate it, but I started something and I had to finish it. But as soon as I started to work on my new plan, I started to feel 'my old self' again.

I have lived across CND, I have lived in the US.. but I have always stayed short times at any given place. I stayed here, because I started to listen to others - your getting older, you should settle down, its not normal for a female to be out travelling around on her own..etc

Most guys, do not feel like they are truly ready to 'settle down' until they are 40ish... yet so many also have a 'mid-life crises' around that time.
One last hoopla before settling down with the 'right woman'?


I do not believe in marriage, I agree with the saying 'it is a death sentence'.

Most of us, if we trace it back, just by looking at history even, come from a line or more of Nomadic people. And they have been that way for millions of years.
Yet we are so arrogant as a society to think that we can change what is ingrained in our 'psyche' our physical make-up in less then a 1,000 years.
Many people eat the same thing, over and over again - even worse now with 'instant gratification' 'foods'.
Our bodies, are not used to that either. We would eat what was available to use fresh. Now we eat just because.. it is a 'social thing'..

We were survival/seasonal eaters, we would prepare and save what we could to last use during the seasons - dried berries, fruits, nuts, some red meats, more fish and birds.
I say some meat, because most red meat, comes from pretty big animals, that meat had to be prepared to last seasons. Not eaten in a night or saved by freezing - there was no freezers. They had to be 'organised', be able to 'budget' and 'calculate' and 'plan' and know the seasons, the stars, the dirt, the grasses.. the trees.. the weather/clouds
As time went by some would just be the 'security' 'grunts' .. they were the ones that could not plan and do the more useful stuff..

I wish they taught history that was useful in school... and biology. Because this all makes complete sense to me, but others think I am crazy, because of how I eat.. I eat, what my body needs.. and what is available generally, during the seasons.. that doesnt really mean in the stores, because that would be trying to force my body to believe it is summer or fall all year round.. so, winter it is more 'stew' type things, summer more veggies.. etc.. understand?

When I deviate from that.. from my natural body needs.. I get messed up and it is not nice.. I have ended up in the hospital because of it, and I am not doing that again.

I used to have a siggy that said something like 'A CND Gypsy, lost and wondering alone.. in search of her pack '

So it makes complete sense to me, if you felt 'better' when you were away..
As for the comfort with the females while you were away...
that is an easy one.. You were the 'stranger'.. the fresh supply.. a new mix to the gene pool
Make sense? People are generally 'attracted to' or 'curious' about the 'new' addition to a group..
Males have a tendency to freak-out, because they may loose their place in line..

Who all were you with on your holidays?

LMFAO!! Nooooo... I would never go back to that cursed land. I 'lived' in the US for awhile, almost a year, that was enough, Cal was a huge part of that 'living'. I learnt from that experience, that if we are to judge a group of peoples, we need to see what they are like, in their 'domain'. Just like how some study other primates in their natural habitat. They are generally... well sorry, way more materialistic than I can deal with, EI.. 2,000$ handbags.. willing to kill for a chair, a thing that only holds an ass

What makes you think that I am on the other side of the Atlantic? In a week I will be.. but not yet. And I cannot wait, I am soo excited, I feel like I am going 'home' or at least closer to what 'home' would feel like to me.

I am no longer surprised by the amount of people that do not know how to do one of our most needed things to survive. Cooking, is NOT difficult, 'putting away' for the seasons, is a bit more techie and time consuming then many would want to do.
I knew there was no hope for many, after I had to teach someone how to make a BOILED EGG.. on MSN a couple years back :palmface:
A turkey, that I can understand, but a boiled egg... I nearly lost all hopes for society that day. lol
But, then again, I am the freak, because I make my own yoghurt and some cheeses..
And the looks I get and questions if I have roasted my own coffee beans.. too funny.

I have not played around with vehicles in years really, and have no 'real working knowledge' about the newer ones - nobody would just let me rip one apart.
The smaller electric ones, that people sometimes convert the engines for motorbikes, I once thought of trying to obtain on via a auction, but never got around to it.

Yes, but that warranty, will be worth as much as toilet paper if you touch a component on it, would it not?

This is not a safe plan. You need a backup plan that doesn't depend on your parents or brother. You have no way of knowing how long your parents will be able to take care of you. You have no way of knowing that your brother will be willing or even able to take care of you for the balance of your life not covered by your parents. He simply may not be able to care for both elderly parents and you and will choose to care for elderly parents. He may marry somebody in another part of the world and move there. He may become disabled himself and be unable to care for you.

The poster anbuend is unable to care for herself yet lives in her own apartment by herself. Paid caretakers visit her to do the things she can't and everything is financed through governmental disability. I strongly advise you investigate what you are eligable for because simply assuming there will always be a family member who will take care of you is not a safe assumption. If that plan falls through, you will be truly screwed.

Yes, but these packs were made up of far more people than just two parents and a brother. Assuming that at least one of these people will always be able (and willing) to take care of him for the rest of his life is a very dangerous assumption. I think it would be far safer to have a backup plan that did not involve relatives, something like the way the poster anbuend lives.

I do not think foreveryoung or many others here, needs care like that, I could be wrong, but he seems to know what he wants and needs, he just does NOT have the tools to go about doing it.

And placing some individuals in situations were they are 'nursed' and looked after like invalids when they are not, is NOT a way to help them..
If anything, it would take more of their 'self worth' away from them..

Which is something I am completely against..
But yes, there are some that do need that type of 'care' BUT not everyone needs that..


It is odd.. I never look at profiles.. because I can pretty much figure out what a person is like, I think I can anyway, from what their words say..
So would I be assuming to much, to think you are an NT?

If so, than I offer you my deepest sympathy, for having that horrible syndrome, it really must be awful to have to go through life with that.
If you do not have it, I am sorry for the assumption I made.



Yes.. That is what I am saying. A small group of 3 or 4 people, does not make up a pack, and it is very LIMITING.
And that is why it is unfair to foreveryoung and others, because a small group like that, will not be able to help develop the tools they need.
So they need to look somewhere else for the tools.

If worst comes to worst, and I'm in my 40s/50s and my parents are too old to take care of me or passed away, and my brother for whatever reason was unable to take care of me (which wouldn't happen, we're best friends) I'd enter a group home. I wouldn't be able to live in an apartment by myself anyway. I'd kill myself out of loneliness. At least in a group home, if they're anything like the short-term depression clinics I've been to, there are other people (who have problems without being psychotic) to be around. The only thing I would miss is halfway decent food.