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01 Feb 2013, 9:34 pm

yellowtamarin wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ShelbyGt500 wrote:

yellowtamarin wrote:

Tokiodarling21 wrote:

But it would get lonely after a while. Doesn't it bug any one of you not having someone to make you feel "complete".

No, I don't need a partner to make me "complete". What bugs me most is that I feel I have a lot to offer and give, but am not able to do that. And the lack of emotional intimacy in my life.

What about just getting a nice cat?

A cat's penis would be a nightmare.

She might look like Catwoman in that pic but she's fully human, I swear!

Bahahaha. That's me morphed with an animated character, so Catwoman makes sense.

All cats have Asperger's. Emotional intimacy is probably not the easiest thing to get from one.

I suggest a gray tiger Maine Coon.

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02 Feb 2013, 7:36 pm

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I've started this thread for those of us who struggle to find a happy relationship, but who tend to have a somewhat opposite reason to many others.

The reason? Being picky.

Personally, I don't have trouble getting dates, as I have found an avenue that works for me (online dating) and there are plenty of people willing to meet me. But rarely does a first date turn into a second date, and much more rarely does a second turn to a third. The people I meet are usually nice, friendly, good people. We get along, we have a fun time, and they leave in a positive mood, hoping to see me again. While I also have a fun time and leave feeling positive, I hardly ever feel inclined to see them again. The "spark" that I require is missing. I don't see how this person could be "more than a friend". And since I'm not on the dating scene to make friends, I usually just end everything there so there's no confusion.

So even though I have one advantage in that I can get dates, I'm still just as alone as anyone else who is struggling to find a partner. I'm not willing to be in a relationship that is "okay" or "will do". I'm looking for someone who really is right for me, and due to my unusual brain, there aren't many people who are. And I think there must be others out there with this problem.

Are there any picky singles, or picky people who managed to find someone, who have any thoughts, tips, insight they feel like sharing? Success stories, or ways you have changed / things you have done to help fix the problem, would be most welcome. Also feel free to pile on the "just give them more of a chance" advice if you feel that's good advice. I'd like to see what others really think, rather than limit the advice to things I'd be happy to hear.

Yes, maybe not quite as successful as you, but otherwise very very similar. Have you tried some way to locate others on the spectrum?

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02 Feb 2013, 8:43 pm

all I can say is to keep trying

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03 Feb 2013, 12:54 am

Tyri0n wrote:

Yes, maybe not quite as successful as you, but otherwise very very similar. Have you tried some way to locate others on the spectrum?

Yes, I've been trying that quite a bit since I was diagnosed. My most successful relationship was with someone I'd call a "cuspie", not diagnosable but with many aspie traits. I'm trying not to limit myself to only dating those with aspie-like traits or those on the spectrum, but I certainly do look upon those traits favourably.

Stalk wrote:

all I can say is to keep trying

Yep, that's my theory. That's what I was going with before posting this topic, and I'll continue with it, along with some of the great advice I have received

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03 Feb 2013, 1:08 am

I adopted a cat a few years ago. I think it's been (relatively) good for me emotionally. I recommend the hardy long-haired breeds; maine coon, siberian, and norwegian forest.

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03 Feb 2013, 1:48 am

JBlitzen wrote:

I adopted a cat a few years ago. I think it's been (relatively) good for me emotionally. I recommend the hardy long-haired breeds; maine coon, siberian, and norwegian forest.

I would LOVE a Siberian... beautiful AND one of the lowest-allergen of all cats! If you have allergies, this one is best!

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03 Feb 2013, 1:54 am

I'm picky about everything. Food, clothes, entertainment, men. And the other week, I was SO close to getting a guy who fit all my conditions: Asian (I'm white, but don't find anything attractive about men of my own race), good-looking, nice, has interests in common with me... and best of all, he's known my best friend who's also on the spectrum since they were in preschool. But when I confessed my love, he said he was taken. So I can definitely relate... have learned my lesson on being all "oh, he'll do for now."

And don't feel like you have to marry by a certain age. Some couples don't get married at all (like my parents, who have never really had time thanks to having to deal with two teenagers, one with AS and another who's legally blind and has an undiagnosable disability) and 21 years later they're still going strong!

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03 Feb 2013, 2:02 am

nod, blue. I think mine is a Siberian. She's a real sweetheart. Very intelligent and with a funny personality.

I've heard a quote that, in the absence of children, a pet makes a house a home. And that's definitely true.

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03 Feb 2013, 2:40 am

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Taken! That sucks!

I don't want get get married ever, so that's not an issue. I'd just like to be sharing my life with someone for a while, however long that while may be.

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03 Feb 2013, 3:04 am

sounds like you need to meet someone while doing skydiving.

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03 Feb 2013, 3:10 am

Good idea, but it's hard to have a conversation over all that wind.

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03 Feb 2013, 3:24 am

Stalk, are you stalking me? I went skydiving just a couple of weeks ago

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03 Feb 2013, 3:29 am

uhm :roll:

I gathered that from your previous post. Coincidently I suppose... It just made sense to me.

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03 Feb 2013, 3:31 am

I saw him hiding behind a cloud.

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03 Feb 2013, 3:34 am

People who don't want to marry like to go skydiving? lol

(Actually there's probably something in that.)

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03 Feb 2013, 4:21 am

I want go in one those rally cars drifting on snow/ice while going down a mountain pass. I don't think my date would appreciate while impending doom awaits us at each corner.

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