Still haven't found a girlfriend

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No because i've tried messaging over 100 girls already and they only viewed me. No replys what so ever.

I Just want to be told by one girl i look handsome and they would date me so i figure if i say something like please tell me the truth, am i nice looking or not and i'm on the verge of killing myself they just might reply and say somthing

Your messages to women need to be grammatically correct. "I" is always capitalized. And you need to focus on them. Compliment them. Do you get profile information or just a picture? If you have a profile, look at it and pick something to write them about. For example, you could say, "I noticed that you enjoy reading biographies. I really like history, especially about Washington and the revolutionary era. Have you read any biographies from that time?"

Obviously, you would have to change the subject for every woman. But I hope you get my point. You have to bring up a topic that you have in common. And you have to use your best language/grammar skills when you do so.

Plenty of fish is mostly pictures, right? Maybe you would do better on a site that emphasizes common interests over pictures.

That's not away to go about it you might scare them off because like you they don't want to be a carer

Spoonie has a point. Girls like intelligent, articulate guys.

Alliekit makes a good point, too. They usual don't want dependent men.

Also I found POF to be a rubbish site personally. It doesn't give you that sense of compatibility like OKCUPID. Seeing that someone has a high percentage with me used to make me excited because it meant we had similar views

And if those are the kinds of messages you are sending even before having a conversation with someone, well it sends out very negative vibes and people will not reply because they don't want to get involved in something complicated and really unenjoyable; or validate such negative behaviour. It's hugely unappealing.

Try to think how you would like to be spoken to and speak to others in that same way. You might still be rejected but you have more chance of connecting with someone more like minded.

Pleading = desperation = bad like an animal smelling fear.. You're not going to get anywhere by doing that. At all.

No one is going to reply to depressive questions asking for you to tell them if you're worthless. They don't even know you, how can they assess your worth by any metric? All they know is that you're asking them horribly depressive questions and they don't want any part in dealing with your mental state at the moment. Expressing these things to these people on a dating site just guaranteed that not one of them will likely ever send you a reply. How could you possibly expect someone to perceive you as attractive if, to you, putting your best foot forward is to tell them that you are suicidally depressed? No one wants to deal with that in a potential date. Most people have difficulty dealing with it with a long term partner. No one is going to read that and think "Wow, what a catch! I wonder why this guy is even available for a date on a Saturday night!??" Absolutely no one wants anything to do with such a conversation as they don't want to be the one who's said something to someone so hair-trigger sensitive that it sends them over the edge into making the drastic decision to choose a permanent solution to a temporary problem: suicide. The absolute most and best you could possibly expect as a reply from someone to such a cry for help might be a suggestion for you to call your local suicide prevention hotline for some counselling and advice. Seriously. In fact, if that's the way you are thinking and feeling right now, that IS my advice to you. Stop pouring your feelings out to strangers on the internet (except here on wrong planet, which is a support forum) & make a phone call to your local suicide prevention hotline. Here, I googled a number for you from supportline.org.uk: HopeLine UK – 0800 068 4141

Nothing worth doing is easy. It takes time to get into shape and look good. It took me a good 2-3 years-ish to really change my appearance, and mentality, significantly.. so, around 1000 days of continuous, disciplined, effort. Every. Single. Day. And while I'm looking and feeling pretty good, I'm healthy and happy, and I have some money saved.. I'm still not stopping. I'm lightyears ahead of where I used to be, FAR beyond my wildest dreams just a few short years ago, yet at the present moment I don't feel like I've reached anywhere NEAR my potential - and so, like countless hard working people before me, I will continue on doing as much as I can every single day.. forever. I might just achieve some amazing things for it! Or maybe not and I'll just have fun and slowly but surely build financial wealth so that I can enjoy a life of relative ease in my later years. Time will tell.

Anyways, this quote comes to mind again:

“Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”


― Earl Nightingale


As for eating and eating.. just like anyone on a diet & exercise plan, just because you sabotaged yourself one single day doesn't mean you should just give up and eat yourself into oblivion. Tomorrow is another day for a fresh start to get back on track and make healthier choices. Everyone who's gotten themselves into better health via diet and exercise has had their setbacks.. eaten a whole pie, eaten way too much pizza and ice cream etc, but rather than give up on themselves and their long term goals, we forgive ourselves and move forward with better choices and actions, and in the long run we're much better off for it. I'm living proof.

They might say something but I really doubt they'd date you, because you're essentially threatening to kill yourself unless they tell you you're nice looking. And what if they don't think you're nice looking? then I doubt they'd be honest.

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He doesn't have a better haircut his could also use improvement. Anyways the problem of your hair is its not even a style, just cut short...perhaps you should go to a professional hair cutting place and have them give you something that will look good, maybe get on google and browse different hairstyles and see what you might like.

Also in your pictures your face is covered in acne, which certainly doesn't look good so I'd recommend treating that, go to walmart or something and get some stuff to treat it and perhaps some face wash or face washing wipes to wash your face in the mornings.

And what is that bag you're wearing in the one picture? to be honest its pretty cringy a back pack or a messenger bag would be better if you need to bring a bag along to keep stuff. The shirt in that picture is fine(I don't really like those style of shirts but they don't look bad), but not with the basketball shorts either some jeans or other pants would be better.

I think there is potential for you to improve on looks.

Can't necessarily trust autistics not to be weird. My experiences on this forum have just made me want to connect with NT's a lot more than those with AS.

^ I like weird, to a certain degree.

I Have tried everything and i mean everything to try and get my face to look better, nothing seems to work at the moment. When i go to the hair place i ask to have a nice smart haircut because i want to look smart. Why would i want to look like a idiot like my stepbrother.

I had terrible acne for a while. They had to give me accutane as a last resort because nothing else worked. It definitely improved my complexion, although it's not gone completely. Have you been to a dermatologist?

So what do people advice, i am in college until June, the majority of girls there are 16-20 so i would stand no chance in meeting anyone at college now and i wouldn't want to because i don't really like there.

So what do i do because i'm in college monday-thursday

Go back a page. I posted tons of advice that should give you plenty to do. Others have posted good advice, too.

Basically, stop doing the things you're doing because they're not working for you & try something else. Stop looking for a girlfriend and start focusing on yourself; making yourself a happier, healthier, more attractive person. Once you're happy with yourself, others will be happier to be around you, and like magnets girls will be drawn to chatting with you and want to go out to the movies.

Um, what do you mean, today i have watched what i am eating, i feel a bit better then how i felt last night.

How do you mean be happy with myself, i'm never going to be really really happy until i find a girlfriend, heck i would love it if i could take a girl out to the movies, bowling.

So yeah until i find a girl to take out how the hell am i going to feel happy, thats so funny.