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13 Mar 2012, 9:40 pm

I cannot relate to the notion of dating.

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14 Mar 2012, 1:06 am

Addendum:

I prefer my own company to others, due to:

I have more fun doing things by myself
others = pain for me (ASD)
I don't feel the desire to be with someone, like how normal people do

I'm still a monster though.

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14 Mar 2012, 2:28 am

HisDivineMajesty wrote:

I'm unattractive, or so I've been told.

In my entire life, the only noteworthy comments I've had about my appearance from women were:

- "You look like you just crawled out of a dumpster." - classmate, 2011.
- "It'd be hard to find a blind, ret*d girl capable of feeling attracted to you." - female teacher, 2005-2006.
- "You look like a pauper with that haircut." - my mother, 2006-present day.
- "Well, get Quentin to sing a song for you then - though that wouldn't help you sleep, considering his voice." - another female teacher addressing a classmate who couldn't sleep properly, last week.

From men, who are not what I feel attracted to:

- "You look like you're dying of cancer." - very flattering American on Skype, last week.
- "Get a haircut - you look hideous." - my father.
- "Are you [my actual age minus five to seven years]?" - comment I've heard for years, from several people, independently.

Well I think you look cute.

My reason is, well there's no way to say this politically correctly, but I am just difficult to the point of being impossible and it is rare to find someone who wants me, and even if I did, it would be even rarer for me to want them back. I think you see the problem.

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14 Mar 2012, 3:27 am

Addition:

Also a soul destroying, social and emotional neglecting, Cassandra Affective carrying, homo-sapien sapien failing, unbound social construct who doesn't understand...anything social and emotional (all I do is bounce from chance to copying to sharing the rare bits of me, without knowing and comprehending what is given back).

Luckily, I'm fine with solitary.

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14 Mar 2012, 3:32 am

I isolate myself too much. Logically, I know when I do it it's interaction with other people I need most but I just don't do it. It's almost like a month to 3 month long shut-down.

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14 Mar 2012, 4:47 am

Guess I must be too weird. Usually I'm able to make friends with my quirky sense of humor and deliberately being eccentric, and most times those who aren't driven away by that tend to be a lot more open and understanding, but for whatever reason I'm never thought of as "dating material". I'm good enough to be the friend everyone enjoys being around or laughing at and that's just about it. :roll:

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14 Mar 2012, 5:17 am

Still the same reason: people are overcome by my awesomeness. They swoon in my presence, and constant swooning doesn't make for a very fulfilling relationship.

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14 Mar 2012, 7:06 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I isolate myself too much. Logically, I know when I do it it's interaction with other people I need most but I just don't do it. It's almost like a month to 3 month long shut-down.

I do this, too, Tea (with the same intellectual conclusions). Mostly, I feel I'm protecting myself, though, since I'm overwhelmed by my usual daily life.

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14 Mar 2012, 8:55 pm

unlovable and lazy

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15 Mar 2012, 4:16 am

I'm single because the pursuit of love is a foolish endeavour.

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15 Mar 2012, 11:10 am

Insufficient hard-nosed discrimination when selecting partners, leading to a lifetime of unsustainable relationships.

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15 Mar 2012, 4:06 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

Just one reason? Well, okay then...

I'm a mess nobody wants to clean up.

aww, your not that bad. I'd go out with you

:wink:

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15 Mar 2012, 4:21 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I isolate myself too much. Logically, I know when I do it it's interaction with other people I need most but I just don't do it. It's almost like a month to 3 month long shut-down.

I have this problem as well. I can only take so much social interaction and that's it. Also I can't really get out, no car, no places to go to, no money to spend....seems like when you go out anywhere besides a park, places want you to spend.

Another one, people say I come off cold or rude. I've tried hard to improve but I can only "fake it" to the point where I shut down or can't pretend anymore. And then not being attractive or having the attractive qualities guys like in women.

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15 Mar 2012, 4:27 pm

i fall for those for some reason completely out of my reach... and then i don't know how to proceed.

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15 Mar 2012, 5:06 pm

I don't feel confident in myself and don't feel like anyone could ever fall in love with me. Same problem as 99% of the rest of the human population in other words. Move along folks, nothing to see here.

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15 Mar 2012, 6:42 pm

I don't have the ability to converse freely with people. I can't start talking to a guy I am interested in. I genuinely have nothing to say. I can say hello, how are you. But then I don't know what else to say. Unless I have some sort of reason like asking a question about my car or something similar. I need to know what the subject of the conversation is going to be.

I get jealous when I see my crush talking to somene and I wonder what they could be talking about so animatedly and why can't I start conversations. People tell me it's easy to make conversation, but I really can't do it. There's some sort of comeation missing in my brain. I even find writing what I mean very difficult.

Have you ever seen the crysalis episode of deep space 9? I'm like the girl dr bashier cures, before the cure. Just always trapped inside myself unable to express myself.

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