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16 Jun 2012, 10:24 am

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What if they are anonymous stalkers, I am sure i didn't visit that much profiles.
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16 Jun 2012, 6:21 pm

I'm still being visited and I don't have a picture anymore, lul. I'm also getting messages.



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17 Jun 2012, 12:24 am

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I'm still being visited and I don't have a picture anymore, lul. I'm also getting messages.


It seems all one needs is female reproductive organs in order to attract attention... I'm almost jealous in that regard. ;)



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17 Jun 2012, 12:31 am

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I'm still being visited and I don't have a picture anymore, lul. I'm also getting messages.


It seems all one needs is female reproductive organs in order to attract attention... I'm almost jealous in that regard. ;)


Kinda ridiculous, if you ask me. -.-



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17 Jun 2012, 1:12 am

Well... Great news I think! . So I had mentioned a while ago this girl had messaged me on Okcupid who lived about 45 minutes away from me. And we've been talking a lot actually . We shockingly are similar in very many way, we have the same taste in movies, music, and video games. We both have somewhat similar pasts, and we get a long really well. We also are both working on getting our licenses and we both keep saying that when we get them we are going to hang out and sh** and go to movies and such. And she's also started saying things I do are cute. I don't know if I'm overrthinking things but I'm really hoping for once that I'm not as this girl is really awesome.



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17 Jun 2012, 2:26 am

Been a week and no replys yet maybe I shouldnt have mentioned my Aspergers on my profile or perhaps I wasnt thorough enough on my explanations of myself or I should message someone first, I am not good at making the first moves though I can be pretty shy about that. :oops: Maybe its a combination of the 3.


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17 Jun 2012, 2:41 am

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Been a week and no replys yet maybe I shouldnt have mentioned my Aspergers on my profile or perhaps I wasnt thorough enough on my explanations of myself or I should message someone first, I am not good at making the first moves though I can be pretty shy about that. :oops: Maybe its a combination of the 3.


Probably shouldn't, in my opinion. People seem to have no idea what it is, anyway.



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17 Jun 2012, 12:18 pm

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Been a week and no replys yet maybe I shouldnt have mentioned my Aspergers on my profile or perhaps I wasnt thorough enough on my explanations of myself or I should message someone first, I am not good at making the first moves though I can be pretty shy about that. :oops: Maybe its a combination of the 3.


Yeah, never mention the aspergers. Because people usually don't know what it is so they either,google it and see the word "autism" which normal people who don't really understand it think of severe autism and group it in with ret*d. Or you know they just don't google it at all and ignore you because you have something wrong with you.



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17 Jun 2012, 12:27 pm

As a woman, I would date someone with AS, but I definitely wouldn't seek it out so I'd leave it out. Even if they know what it is, they don't know how it affects you. I think somethings are better to reveal after you've built a connection.

Also unfortenately, the male-to-female ration on dating sites is waaaay in favor of women. Sometimes women will message you, but if you want to really see some movement you've got to message people. A woman can do nothing and have tons of messages.

Also profiles should be fun. You don't want to date a person you feel sorry for, or someone who seems like they don't enjoy anything. You also need to give a sense of who you are. If I read a profile and it tells me nothing about what the person is like, it doesn't inspire me to contact them. I think you need to be honest about who you are, but that doesn't mean revealing everything about you.



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17 Jun 2012, 2:23 pm

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As a woman, I would date someone with AS, but I definitely wouldn't seek it out so I'd leave it out. Even if they know what it is, they don't know how it affects you. I think somethings are better to reveal after you've built a connection.

Also unfortenately, the male-to-female ration on dating sites is waaaay in favor of women. Sometimes women will message you, but if you want to really see some movement you've got to message people. A woman can do nothing and have tons of messages.

Also profiles should be fun. You don't want to date a person you feel sorry for, or someone who seems like they don't enjoy anything. You also need to give a sense of who you are. If I read a profile and it tells me nothing about what the person is like, it doesn't inspire me to contact them. I think you need to be honest about who you are, but that doesn't mean revealing everything about you.



and males says to be way more active on them too, some dating sites such as Okcupid claim it has an equal gender ratio but every time I compare the nb of online (or online today) males users vs females, the males are always like 3 times more, so go figure.

The thing is.... why it's always the case? why the males are always more than females on dating sites? No one really knows.



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17 Jun 2012, 2:46 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The thing is.... why it's always the case? why the males are always more than females on dating sites? No one really knows.


Because there are more men than women in relevant age categories in most countries with access to dating sites? Because men are expected to make a move, and look for various new ways to do that? Because it's harder for men than it is for women to get laid? If you're a man, you need to go through much more effort unless you're a body builder on a feminist convention full of wrinkly- and that's where I'll stop before this thread gets moved.



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17 Jun 2012, 7:54 pm

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Because there are more men than women in relevant age categories in most countries with access to dating sites? Because men are expected to make a move, and look for various new ways to do that? Because it's harder for men than it is for women to get laid? If you're a man, you need to go through much more effort unless you're a body builder on a feminist convention full of wrinkly- and that's where I'll stop before this thread gets moved.


I've thought about this a lot and I think it's this.

Women are exposed to dating 24/7. When a woman leaves the house, she is hit on. It might be in the grocery store, at work, at the gym, everywhere. Women go to bars, and get hit on all night. The more attractive, the more profound it is.

In reality; for a lot of women, online dating is nothing more than a supplemental.



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17 Jun 2012, 8:25 pm

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Because there are more men than women in relevant age categories in most countries with access to dating sites? Because men are expected to make a move, and look for various new ways to do that? Because it's harder for men than it is for women to get laid? If you're a man, you need to go through much more effort unless you're a body builder on a feminist convention full of wrinkly- and that's where I'll stop before this thread gets moved.


I've thought about this a lot and I think it's this.

Women are exposed to dating 24/7. When a woman leaves the house, she is hit on. It might be in the grocery store, at work, at the gym, everywhere. Women go to bars, and get hit on all night. The more attractive, the more profound it is.

In reality; for a lot of women, online dating is nothing more than a supplemental.


I agree a bit, but not completely. From my own experience, I'm never really hit on except for online or on online dating sites. I think it might be because I'm unapproachable or something like that, but it RARELY happens. I don't remember it happening even once in high school or college. My first relationship was with someone online from a game that I ended up meeting in real life. I've had great difficulty maintaining friendships; I couldn't imagine finding relationships if it weren't for being online. I'd be completely alone and isolated if it weren't for that. Maybe I'm one of the few women who've actually had a challenge, but I definitely have.



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17 Jun 2012, 8:51 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:
HisDivineMajesty wrote:

Because there are more men than women in relevant age categories in most countries with access to dating sites? Because men are expected to make a move, and look for various new ways to do that? Because it's harder for men than it is for women to get laid? If you're a man, you need to go through much more effort unless you're a body builder on a feminist convention full of wrinkly- and that's where I'll stop before this thread gets moved.


I've thought about this a lot and I think it's this.

Women are exposed to dating 24/7. When a woman leaves the house, she is hit on. It might be in the grocery store, at work, at the gym, everywhere. Women go to bars, and get hit on all night. The more attractive, the more profound it is.

In reality; for a lot of women, online dating is nothing more than a supplemental.


I very much doubt the being hit on 24/7 thing. But they are the ones that get hit on, which means they can go places like bars and clubs if they want to get hit on. Online dating is more a way to find someone that isnt exactly from that crowd



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17 Jun 2012, 9:57 pm

Kinme wrote:
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I'm still being visited and I don't have a picture anymore, lul. I'm also getting messages.


It seems all one needs is female reproductive organs in order to attract attention... I'm almost jealous in that regard. ;)


Kinda ridiculous, if you ask me. -.-


SImple biology. Men are wired to chase after sex.



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17 Jun 2012, 10:27 pm

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Kinme wrote:
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Kinme wrote:
I'm still being visited and I don't have a picture anymore, lul. I'm also getting messages.


It seems all one needs is female reproductive organs in order to attract attention... I'm almost jealous in that regard. ;)


Kinda ridiculous, if you ask me. -.-


SImple biology. Men are wired to chase after sex.


So, you're telling me they're solely visiting my profile for the purpose of having sex with me, yet they have no idea what I look like?