Boo's "Afraid Of Being Alone Forever?"
Can Germans and Brits understand each other?
No, Germans and Brits can't understand each other at all. They haven't been able to understand each other for about a 1000 years. You know English, just listen to some German and find out. I recommend Rammstein.
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There are some simple words, which are used at high frequency, that are similar. Things like apple (German Apfel, Dutch appel, father (G: Vater, D: vader. But without instruction these people can't understand each other at all. Try to read Old English, that is closer to German but even English speakers can't read that anymore, and this is only some 900 years ago. Beowulf is a good example, no one today can read that without instruction, here is the first verse:
Hwæt! We Gardena in geardagum,
þeodcyninga, þrym gefrunon,
hu ða æþelingas ellen fremedon.
Oft Scyld Scefing sceaþena þreatum,
But even within the languages there are major differences, Dutch is only spoken in a fairly small area but there are many people that I can't understand AT ALL. The more educated people learn Standard Dutch but many of the rural folk sound to me as if they speak a different language. These people are often subtitled on tv because anyone not from their region can't understand them.
Here's a nice test to see if you can understand German. It's the trailer of Goodbye Lenin, despite the title it is a German movie about someone living in commie Eastern Germany when the Berlin wall fell. Seems the entire movie is on youtube with English subs. I saw it a few years ago, despite the subject matter it is a light-hearted comedy. Anyway, I think no English person could understand any of it unless they learned German.
I learned something today! Allah al'ab, Allah el ibn, Allah arrooh alqudus.
That arabic teacher Maha speaks a whole bunch of languages and seems like an educated person, but the reactions on youtube are all like this:
1) you are hawt
2) I am fundie, you should dress modestly
3) combination of the above
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no I'm a woman, but usually get on better with men, in fact I don't have a single female friend - women don't like me either
![Razz :P](./images/smilies/icon_razz.gif)
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I'm sorry it's been so difficult for you, my friend works in a factory and earns about 2000 euros per month, so money is not an issue. I think he has some issues with socialising (very bad OCD) which make it difficult for him to find a woman who wouldn't blow him off soon. I don't get what's the problem exactly, he is in fact good looking, isn't stupid, can speak better Latin than English, but I guess he just doesn't understand how women operate. Personally he was one of the nicest people I met, he has very good sense of humour, so I don't know what those women want?
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I'm not sure whether with you just being too nice is the problem? They see you as a doormat perhaps (it happened to me actually as well when i tried to befriend a few women before). Couldn't be just the weight issues...I've seen plenty of chubby men getting a woman.
I told you that about hobbies, since some time ago I asked one older person from here how to help my friend get a woman, since he is married now. And he told me something along these lines....that he had similar issues, he was too weird for them (bad case of AS), and it just wasn't working. Then he gave up, focused on the things he liked, hobbies etc, and suddenly women found him more interesting. Neediness is apparently repellent for the females, so if you can somehow muster the strength to be content even without them, acting nonchalant, (since they can smell neediness from miles away) being just happy with who you are, and what makes you happy, maybe it would work for you too, maybe suddenly by the odd laws of this universe, you would attract some. Detachment is the key, I think.
I've been trying to help my friend with the same issue for months, it didn't work. He won't listen...he is acting similarly needy, despondent, and it doesn't work. YOu sound just like him, he wants someone who'd need him.
I don't know you well enough to offer any better advice, sorry.
I just wish I could talk to those people who say you're worthless - like they're what, mana from the sky?
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well I know it wouldn't mean guaranteed success. but at least if I made 3k a month I'd finally be allowed to message the women. maybe even they'd be interested then I could tell them to go f themselves. I don't want anyone who only loves me for my money.
clingy and needy in the sense I don't want to go weeks without talking to my gf. I fear being clingy but also as much as I fear I'll seem to distant or not interested. funny how its normal for a woman to require daily communication of some kind but clingy if a guy wants the same.
if I could be happy alone then when a woman did come I'd just tell her to F**k off. women and relationships seem farr to horrible to both with if you don't' desire the companionship. relationships are a getting enjoyment and emotional closeness to a woman/man. if one doesn't need that then there's no point. shaving , video games and shooting guns isn't going make me more interested to women. also how do hobbies make anyone more interested unless you go around bragging about them all the time no one would know you do them. I have a bunch of hobbies and I do them but It still leaves 90% of my life wide open. and even if i worked I'd still be alone ever freaking night in my big bed to cry myself to sleep.
yep if i ever do get a gf I know I have to keep distant from her and ignore her a lot and never say I love her.
well one is on here though her name changes every time she gets banned. though its just the truth I am worthless trash just about everyone is better then me even murders or hitler.
![Razz :P](./images/smilies/icon_razz.gif)
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no I'm a woman, but usually get on better with men, in fact I don't have a single female friend - women don't like me either
![Razz :P](./images/smilies/icon_razz.gif)
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I'm sorry it's been so difficult for you, my friend works in a factory and earns about 2000 euros per month, so money is not an issue. I think he has some issues with socialising (very bad OCD) which make it difficult for him to find a woman who wouldn't blow him off soon. I don't get what's the problem exactly, he is in fact good looking, isn't stupid, can speak better Latin than English, but I guess he just doesn't understand how women operate. Personally he was one of the nicest people I met, he has very good sense of humour, so I don't know what those women want?
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I'm not sure whether with you just being too nice is the problem? They see you as a doormat perhaps (it happened to me actually as well when i tried to befriend a few women before). Couldn't be just the weight issues...I've seen plenty of chubby men getting a woman.
I told you that about hobbies, since some time ago I asked one older person from here how to help my friend get a woman, since he is married now. And he told me something along these lines....that he had similar issues, he was too weird for them (bad case of AS), and it just wasn't working. Then he gave up, focused on the things he liked, hobbies etc, and suddenly women found him more interesting. Neediness is apparently repellent for the females, so if you can somehow muster the strength to be content even without them, acting nonchalant, (since they can smell neediness from miles away) being just happy with who you are, and what makes you happy, maybe it would work for you too, maybe suddenly by the odd laws of this universe, you would attract some. Detachment is the key, I think.
I've been trying to help my friend with the same issue for months, it didn't work. He won't listen...he is acting similarly needy, despondent, and it doesn't work. YOu sound just like him, he wants someone who'd need him.
I don't know you well enough to offer any better advice, sorry.
I just wish I could talk to those people who say you're worthless - like they're what, mana from the sky?
![Rolling Eyes :roll:](./images/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif)
well I know it wouldn't mean guaranteed success. but at least if I made 3k a month I'd finally be allowed to message the women. maybe even they'd be interested then I could tell them to go f themselves. I don't want anyone who only loves me for my money.
clingy and needy in the sense I don't want to go weeks without talking to my gf. I fear being clingy but also as much as I fear I'll seem to distant or not interested. funny how its normal for a woman to require daily communication of some kind but clingy if a guy wants the same.
if I could be happy alone then when a woman did come I'd just tell her to F**k off. women and relationships seem farr to horrible to both with if you don't' desire the companionship. relationships are a getting enjoyment and emotional closeness to a woman/man. if one doesn't need that then there's no point. shaving , video games and shooting guns isn't going make me more interested to women. also how do hobbies make anyone more interested unless you go around bragging about them all the time no one would know you do them. I have a bunch of hobbies and I do them but It still leaves 90% of my life wide open. and even if i worked I'd still be alone ever freaking night in my big bed to cry myself to sleep.
yep if i ever do get a gf I know I have to keep distant from her and ignore her a lot and never say I love her.
well one is on here though her name changes every time she gets banned. though its just the truth I am worthless trash just about everyone is better then me even murders or hitler.
nooo, she's the worthless trash! anyone who makes you feel like that is! we'll ban her every day if necessary.
i'm sorry, i don't know how to get a woman either, I've never tried, and thank god I'm not a man searching for a relationship, since I'd be most likely equally clueless. I just told you what he told me, what worked for him. I'm not sure what kind of hobbies exactly did he have in mind, but I don't think it was shaving, video games and shooting guns as he's a scientific type.
I wish you the best, and I'm sorry I can't help more. Please do report the harpy every time you see her though.
i'm sorry, i don't know how to get a woman either, I've never tried, and thank god I'm not a man searching for a relationship, since I'd be most likely equally clueless. I just told you what he told me, what worked for him. I'm not sure what kind of hobbies exactly did he have in mind, but I don't think it was shaving, video games and shooting guns as he's a scientific type.
I wish you the best, and I'm sorry I can't help more. Please do report the harpy every time you see her though.
I do wonder if its my and other guys fault. i mean she was on here before I joined. though she said she was nt and she seemed to have it out for aspie men due to her ex. but was she always like that. suppose boo would know , he seems to have been here a long time. I kinda feel bad I just want her to leave me alone. I wish people could just get along without having to hurt each other.
yeah its part of what sucks. I don't seem to have much in common with other aspies except I guess dox somewhat. I don't know that most aspie women would like my hobbies though one seemed ok with them. I do enjoy my hobbies though. shouldnt' hobbies be something one does for enjoyment not to meet women? I think so. just means the whole meet someone though hobbies won't' work for me. though there are tons of women who play video games. only way you know is if they list it on their dating profile. youd never know meeting in person. women into my hobbies minus shaving in relationships early and fast. cause just about every guy into my stuff wants a nerdy woman into male hobbies. to some just liking guns would be enough for them to date her.
nerdy girls also tend to be very shy and anti social also though
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I think I'm at least of average smarts. I do like science and learning how stuff is made. but I'm not into the super science or chemistry or psychology etc.
if we had some tighter registration protocol, I guess she would would be stopped from registering here, but the way things are now, I'm afraid we can just ban her repeatedly. I don't think her ex gives her any right to treat you and the others like she does. That's just psychopatic what she does.
Anyway I dug out that old PM from that person, so here it is:
Your friend may be trying too hard, with the thought in mind that if he only tries a little harder, he will succeed where he has failed before. Can you distract him with some activities that don't necessarily involve trying to impress others? Something like asking him for help in organizing an event or contributing to a group project ... maybe singing in a choir or playing an instrument? How about civic theatre? Volunteering at a library?
I guess what worked for him might not necessarily work you for you...but still I think you owe yourself to treat yourself better and not allow others to convince you're worthless since you don't match their high imposed standards, or earn as much money as they think it's needed to be person of worth. I mean, is there some limit? Some quota a person must earn to deserve their respect? That's just so denigrating and cruel.
But I get it's tough, for an Aspie, with limited social skills and plenty of bad experience to get a woman, especially in today's society, I hope you find a way to make yourself happy and not depend so much on others.
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Anyway I dug out that old PM from that person, so here it is:
Your friend may be trying too hard, with the thought in mind that if he only tries a little harder, he will succeed where he has failed before. Can you distract him with some activities that don't necessarily involve trying to impress others? Something like asking him for help in organizing an event or contributing to a group project ... maybe singing in a choir or playing an instrument? How about civic theatre? Volunteering at a library?
I guess what worked for him might not necessarily work you for you...but still I think you owe yourself to treat yourself better and not allow others to convince you're worthless since you don't match their high imposed standards, or earn as much money as they think it's needed to be person of worth. I mean, is there some limit? Some quota a person must earn to deserve their respect? That's just so denigrating and cruel.
But I get it's tough, for an Aspie, with limited social skills and plenty of bad experience to get a woman, especially in today's society, I hope you find a way to make yourself happy and not depend so much on others.
yep i suppose its all that can be done.
its hard being a social aspie.
problem is I can't give up. I have determination. or persistence whichever it is. however if I had not have it I'd likely be dead already. that said the never give up drive I have is also super depressing. it would be simpler to just give up trying to find work or a gf, give up on life. accept what reality is. but I can't . the same thing that prevents me from dying also prevents me from accepting being alone forever.
think their standards wouldn't hurt me as much if it was almost every woman saying it. if 90% of the world said the color blue was evil tomorrow it'd be hard not to feel bad wearing your blue shirt no? especially if everywhere you went people commenting about you wearing the evil color.
what is wrong with depending on others? its why we have civilizations. cause humans can't exist in single units. i doubt I'll ever be truly happy. that piece is always missing I'll never be held or hugged or cuddled. never have someone to share my day with or go camping with. or any other activity. if i wasn't a social aspie this would be fine so many aspies are fine and happy alone and prefer no social interaction I fall on the other end though same with sex
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though i don't think i was meant to be alive I'm only here cause of doctors and machines. if I was born in the 1900s i'd be dead. so if everyone has a fate and I wasn't suppose to be I'd be fateless. which would explain wy I can't find work or get a gf. cause I should be here so there's no true love for me.
know whats was fun being rejected by a autistic care working cause I didn't have past gf experience. like you'd think someone like that would be more understanding.
anyone want ehugs from a fox?
Hugs!
Still even if 90% of females or any population say blue is evil, it doesn't necessarily mean they're right....people used to massively think some things are true, which later have been proved as wrong. Earth in the centre of the universe, thunders are bad omens and punishments, things like that.
I guess i just don't like to condone to popular opinion, especially since it's more often wrong than not, and people hide behind numbers in order to avoid their personal responsibility.
I don't see anything wrong either in needing some company, but unfortunately sometimes it leads us nowhere except to heartache. :/
Autistic care working rejected you since you didn't have past gf experience??
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But I don't agree with her that Levantine Arabic is the closest to Fusha, Yemni is much closer.
I don't agree with her that a new learner can go effortlessly from Classic to Levantine Arabic.
Examples:
"What did you eat today?"
Classic Arabic: Maza akalta ~al yawm?
Lebanese: Chou aklt el yom? (Syrian and Palestinian are similar to Lebanese with slight differences).
"I am going out"
Classic Arabic: Ana zaheb eela el kharej
Lebanese: Ana rayeh la barra
"What are you doing inside?"
Classic Arabic: Maza taf'aal fi el dakhel?
Lebanese: Chou am bta'amel jouwaa?
These differences are due to the Aramaic heritage of Levantines, words such as "Barra" (outside) and "Jouwaa" (inside) are Aramaic in origin.
They don't even follow the same grammatical rules as well, for example in Classic Arabic the past tense of verb at the beginning of the sentence takes a single form even if you're talking about several - while in Levantine it's not the case:
Example "Kids went to the school"
Classic: Zahaba (single form of verb "Zahaba" (Go) in Classic Arabic) el awlad (kids) ela el madrasa.
Lebanese: Raho (Plural form of verb "Rah" (Go) in Lebanese ) el wlad al madraseh.
Again, it's Aramaic linguistic heritage, same grammatical rule.
Some sentences my sound similar like this:
"Come to here"
Classic Arabic: Ta'ala ila hona
Lebanese: Ta' la hon
The girl is Palestinian so it's natural she'll find Levantine Arabic easier than others.
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That arabic teacher Maha speaks a whole bunch of languages and seems like an educated person, but the reactions on youtube are all like this:
It's
Allah el Rab, Allah el ibn, Allah arrooh alqudus.
literally translated : God the lord, God the son, God the Holy Spirit
- it's the trinity slogan of arab Christians.
2) I am fundie, you should dress modestly
3) combination of the above
Yeah what's new, youtube comment sections are full of trolls and idiots
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She is wearing modestly.
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One would expect to be blocked instantly for that or to be called out for trolling; but that's not what happened - at all, I did this prank like with 20 ones in a row - and none - no one got offended or reacted aggressively: some found it interesting, others tried to pervert me lol, many wilingly sent me their skype/bbm/Line (without asking them) and wanted to video chat me Lol, it was me who had ended up to blocking/ignoring them.
And they are from various places; Canada, Europe and Asian countries; Chinese are noticeably the horniest
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Katten is right, women work in mysterious ways, they are totally pervert behind the door.
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It will make women interested in you, but most would just be curious/horny and looking for fun, I don't think they would like a serious date to be pornstar.
And horniness/perversion is probably inversely related to how restricted all things sexual are. I heard from someone who visited China that they have gender segregated student housing, seperate building for men and women. Of course these women are going to be horny.
And people from Europe (I'm including Canada in this one because they are still loyal to the Queen) are obviously crazy. Yurop stronk!
You're probably right....
Let me ask the ones I haven't blocked yet
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Trollcatman, they said they wouldn't mind
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Only one said she's not sure.
One would expect to be blocked instantly for that or to be called out for trolling; but that's not what happened - at all, I did this prank like with 20 ones in a row - and none - no one got offended or reacted aggressively: some found it interesting, others tried to pervert me lol, many wilingly sent me their skype/bbm/Line (without asking them) and wanted to video chat me Lol, it was me who had ended up to blocking/ignoring them.
And they are from various places; Canada, Europe and Asian countries; Chinese are noticeably the horniest
![Laughing :lol:](./images/smilies/icon_lol.gif)
Katten is right, women work in mysterious ways, they are totally pervert behind the door.
![Laughing :lol:](./images/smilies/icon_lol.gif)
It will make women interested in you, but most would just be curious/horny and looking for fun, I don't think they would like a serious date to be pornstar.
And horniness/perversion is probably inversely related to how restricted all things sexual are. I heard from someone who visited China that they have gender segregated student housing, seperate building for men and women. Of course these women are going to be horny.
And people from Europe (I'm including Canada in this one because they are still loyal to the Queen) are obviously crazy. Yurop stronk!
You're probably right....
Let me ask the ones I haven't blocked yet
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Trollcatman, they said they wouldn't mind
![Laughing :lol:](./images/smilies/icon_lol.gif)
Only one said she's not sure.
Of course they say that, they are horny.
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But the problem is they probably won't introduce you to their parents. "Hey mom and dad, this is my boyfriend Boo and he's a pornstar. We will marry soon and he is helping me to find a job in the industry".
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One would expect to be blocked instantly for that or to be called out for trolling; but that's not what happened - at all, I did this prank like with 20 ones in a row - and none - no one got offended or reacted aggressively: some found it interesting, others tried to pervert me lol, many wilingly sent me their skype/bbm/Line (without asking them) and wanted to video chat me Lol, it was me who had ended up to blocking/ignoring them.
And they are from various places; Canada, Europe and Asian countries; Chinese are noticeably the horniest
![Laughing :lol:](./images/smilies/icon_lol.gif)
Katten is right, women work in mysterious ways, they are totally pervert behind the door.
![Laughing :lol:](./images/smilies/icon_lol.gif)
It will make women interested in you, but most would just be curious/horny and looking for fun, I don't think they would like a serious date to be pornstar.
And horniness/perversion is probably inversely related to how restricted all things sexual are. I heard from someone who visited China that they have gender segregated student housing, seperate building for men and women. Of course these women are going to be horny.
And people from Europe (I'm including Canada in this one because they are still loyal to the Queen) are obviously crazy. Yurop stronk!
You're probably right....
Let me ask the ones I haven't blocked yet
![Laughing :lol:](./images/smilies/icon_lol.gif)
Trollcatman, they said they wouldn't mind
![Laughing :lol:](./images/smilies/icon_lol.gif)
Only one said she's not sure.
Of course they say that, they are horny.
![Very Happy :D](./images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif)
But the problem is they probably won't introduce you to their parents. "Hey mom and dad, this is my boyfriend Boo and he's a pornstar. We will marry soon and he is helping me to find a job in the industry".
She would be saying instead "Hey mom and dad, this is my boyfriend Boo, and he made one million of dollars. We will marry soon". Her Dad: "Bring on the champagne!!".
^^ Yeah, maybe if the parents were pornstars too
I'm watching some more videos of the Arabic teacher Maha, walla! Most Arabic speakers here are Moroccan and they use walla so much it has become a stereotype
She has videos with a whole lot of languages, she also has one explaining Italian (it's in Arabic, so I only understand some of the Italian). Arabic grammar seems pretty difficult though,it's as if someone looked at the Czech language with seven cases and thought "let's make this even harder".
At least Glorious Czech language has no definite or indefinite articles. Still the hardest language of Europe I think, or maybe Finnish has that honor.
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