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30 Oct 2017, 1:29 am

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I’m disabled. So see my situation the same as a low fucnting aspie would advice would you give them? You wouldn’t tell them to find s job cause you know they can’t, yiu wouldn’t tell them to get a job cause you know they can’t. Not everyone can hold down a 9-5 full time job. I can’t thats the sad reality I struggled but I’ve finally accepted that’s the reality. Full time burns me out really quickly causing a meltdown and losing said job. The only way I’m even able to keep this job is because I disabled and so they made accommodations for me otherwise by nt standards I’d been fired over a year ago for failing to meet company policy and requirements.

Perhaps you should look for women on welfare?



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30 Oct 2017, 1:59 am

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I’m disabled. So see my situation the same as a low fucnting aspie would advice would you give them? You wouldn’t tell them to find s job cause you know they can’t, yiu wouldn’t tell them to get a job cause you know they can’t. Not everyone can hold down a 9-5 full time job. I can’t thats the sad reality I struggled but I’ve finally accepted that’s the reality. Full time burns me out really quickly causing a meltdown and losing said job. The only way I’m even able to keep this job is because I disabled and so they made accommodations for me otherwise by nt standards I’d been fired over a year ago for failing to meet company policy and requirements.

Perhaps you should look for women on welfare?

They tend to date up so they can escape welfare. I’ve meet some but they similarly want a well off man. A woman’s status doesn’t seem to effect society standards for men. A poor woman wants the same type of man a well off woman wants. A lot of men won’t care if she’s poor as long as she’s pretty and they like her personality.

I’ve only met two though. But. It like they self identify on dating sites. Nor is there a welfare dating site. Nick007 was extremely lucky.
Women seem to universally see low income men as mooches, sure some are but not most I’d imagine, just like most women aren’t gold diggers or sluts.
How many mooching men does anyone here know of? Meanwhile most men are fine with a housewife aka a mooching woman. Why?
I wish a woman would be ok with me being low inco,emfor the rest of our lives and love me anyways.



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30 Oct 2017, 2:25 am

http://www.bbc.com/news/business-40894089



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30 Oct 2017, 2:27 am

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How many mooching men does anyone here know of?

They exist (at least in media), but they typically are physically attractive and have very good social skills.

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I’ve only met two though. But. It like they self identify on dating sites. Nor is there a welfare dating site. Nick007 was extremely lucky.

Sure it's not easy but it's possible. You just have to be creative.



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30 Oct 2017, 2:36 am

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It's because poor men have less confidence.



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30 Oct 2017, 2:41 am

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http://www.bbc.com/news/business-40894089

It's because poor men have less confidence.



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30 Oct 2017, 2:14 pm

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It’s The Whole package. Car, job, home, looks. Having just one or two won’t help.


Avoid dating sites. Women have a skewed advantage on those. University students at your job won’t want to date you, don’t worry about them. The thing is if you do go to meetups in the day there might be more people like you who don’t do the 9-5. Getting opinions from nurses and students, of course they’re going to say no. Can’t you help at an autism or anxiety groups? People in the same situation, on disability?

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My life is unchangeable ok. I just want to vent and be comforted. There no fixing it there’s no making it better this world is far far far too superficial.


Yeah it sucks. People with aspergers have drawn the short straw. If you don’t want help I’ll stop suggesting it, though I don’t agree with you in the there is no making it better part. If I lived there I would help. I’d even complain about how upset I was that you dumped me in front of a girl you like :p

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Humans will probably die out due to low population growth in few hundred years at this rate. Car, job, House ro your own are such meaningless stuff in the grand scheme of life and love. Many women have guys with such things, and the gu usually either abuses them, cheats on them, or looses interest. People really only need love and companionship. A guy who’ll be loyal to them and stick with them through and through, but media and companies have gotten generations to lose track of what really matters and think a guy who can’t take you to Europe every year or buy you a $5000 tv is worthless.


You’re right, stuff means jack all. The world has it so wrong. Ego takes over.

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I’m disabled. So see my situation the same as a low fucnting aspie would advice would you give them? You wouldn’t tell them to find s job cause you know they can’t, yiu wouldn’t tell them to get a job cause you know they can’t. Not everyone can hold down a 9-5 full time job. I can’t thats the sad reality I struggled but I’ve finally accepted that’s the reality. Full time burns me out really quickly causing a meltdown and losing said job. The only way I’m even able to keep this job is because I disabled and so they made accommodations for me otherwise by nt standards I’d been fired over a year ago for failing to meet company policy and requirements.

Probably the only job I could do is factory work where it’s not stressful, it’s repetitive and requires no human contact. But such jobs are done by machines and overseas workers. They don’t exist in the USA anymore.


I would suggest that a low functioning aspie join support groups. A lit of people have found dates on wp. I have been on this site 13 years, you’ll be surprised how many relationships started here.



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30 Oct 2017, 2:17 pm

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Single in their 40s doesn’t mean can’t get anyone. It means they probably had unstable relationships.

It means they didn’t get married and stick with it. If you haven’t seen poor people popping out kids like crazy, what planet are you from?



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30 Oct 2017, 2:19 pm

Actually Sly, Nick007 is always getting girlfriends. He has had heaps over the years. It’s proof that there are women out there who will accept your situation.



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30 Oct 2017, 2:21 pm

Sly is not a "low-functioning" Aspie by any means.

And he's not "ugly." And he's not particularly "fat."

His intelligence is at least normal.

I think some of his problems originate in his own head. And some, his immediate situation (i.e., no car, part-time job, etc).

He, like many, builds an ideology out of his situation, rather than becoming an individual, and seeking to get out of his situation. He might not succeed at first---but at least he's trying. It's the "trying" that's the most important thing.



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30 Oct 2017, 2:25 pm

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Sly is not a "low-functioning" Aspie by any means.

And he's not "ugly." And he's not particularly "fat."

His intelligence is at least normal.

I think some of his problems originate in his own head. And some, his immediate situation (i.e., no car, part-time job, etc).

He, like many, builds an ideology out of his situation, rather than becoming an individual, and seeking to get out of his situation. He might not succeed at first---but at least he's trying. It's the "trying" that's the most important thing.


It’s that ideology that is shooting him in the foot.



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30 Oct 2017, 2:45 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
http://www.bbc.com/news/business-40894089


Single in their 40s doesn’t mean can’t get anyone. It means they probably had unstable relationships.

It means they didn’t get married and stick with it. If you haven’t seen poor people popping out kids like crazy, what planet are you from?



I am from Uranus. What, you didn't know?



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30 Oct 2017, 4:19 pm

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Actually Sly, Nick007 is always getting girlfriends. He has had heaps over the years. It’s proof that there are women out there who will accept your situation.

Nicks had two that I’m aware his last one and the one he met on here and has been with for years.

Never said there weren’t women who would, just most of them are in relationships already. The others are such a slim part of the single female population it’s probably less the 1%, that the odds of meeting and then being compatible with them are super super low. Im probably more likely to win a billion dollars.
There’s a few such women on wp and they’re all in relationships. Women with lower standards have a lot more men to choose from which greatly increases the odds they find someone compatible and be in a relationship.
Leaving the rest of us lowly men with the remaining 99% of single women who see us as worthless.



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30 Oct 2017, 4:54 pm

I've been using online dating sites for a while now and I have yet to even get a response to an email I send out. It definitely seems pointless.



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30 Oct 2017, 4:57 pm

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It’s The Whole package. Car, job, home, looks. Having just one or two won’t help.


Avoid dating sites. Women have a skewed advantage on those. University students at your job won’t want to date you, don’t worry about them. The thing is if you do go to meetups in the day there might be more people like you who don’t do the 9-5. Getting opinions from nurses and students, of course they’re going to say no. Can’t you help at an autism or anxiety groups? People in the same situation, on disability?

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My life is unchangeable ok. I just want to vent and be comforted. There no fixing it there’s no making it better this world is far far far too superficial.


Yeah it sucks. People with aspergers have drawn the short straw. If you don’t want help I’ll stop suggesting it, though I don’t agree with you in the there is no making it better part. If I lived there I would help. I’d even complain about how upset I was that you dumped me in front of a girl you like :p

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Humans will probably die out due to low population growth in few hundred years at this rate. Car, job, House ro your own are such meaningless stuff in the grand scheme of life and love. Many women have guys with such things, and the gu usually either abuses them, cheats on them, or looses interest. People really only need love and companionship. A guy who’ll be loyal to them and stick with them through and through, but media and companies have gotten generations to lose track of what really matters and think a guy who can’t take you to Europe every year or buy you a $5000 tv is worthless.


You’re right, stuff means jack all. The world has it so wrong. Ego takes over.

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I’m disabled. So see my situation the same as a low fucnting aspie would advice would you give them? You wouldn’t tell them to find s job cause you know they can’t, yiu wouldn’t tell them to get a job cause you know they can’t. Not everyone can hold down a 9-5 full time job. I can’t thats the sad reality I struggled but I’ve finally accepted that’s the reality. Full time burns me out really quickly causing a meltdown and losing said job. The only way I’m even able to keep this job is because I disabled and so they made accommodations for me otherwise by nt standards I’d been fired over a year ago for failing to meet company policy and requirements.

Probably the only job I could do is factory work where it’s not stressful, it’s repetitive and requires no human contact. But such jobs are done by machines and overseas workers. They don’t exist in the USA anymore.


I would suggest that a low functioning aspie join support groups. A lit of people have found dates on wp. I have been on this site 13 years, you’ll be surprised how many relationships started here.


Such groups meet at night. I presume so people working 9-5 jobs can go to them. They also do them in out of way locations. I don’t get why they can’t meet up at the library or a park or something on the bus system during afternoon.

Some of the gatherings cost money to go to. A lot of the autism support stuff cost money. Unless you’re a kid then there’s grants.

If you could be bit more understanding that’d help. I’m not against help that works within my situation. Suggesting stuff I can’t do isn’t helpful. If there was a gathering near the bus route I could get to and happen at reasonably time of day I’d go. I dont know what good it’d do. I went to a aspie social once back before my car died(it actually died that day) I was ignored and left to sit alone. Most were guys and everyone had their groups. It was like high school cafeteria all over again.

Are you being sarcastic about the world having it wrong?

A few have. I had 3 women contact me but they were mostly in Europe and thus we both knew it wasn’t going be possible. I couldn’t even date a woman in Eugene probably non less a different city or nation.



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30 Oct 2017, 5:00 pm

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Sly is not a "low-functioning" Aspie by any means.

And he's not "ugly." And he's not particularly "fat."

His intelligence is at least normal.

I think some of his problems originate in his own head. And some, his immediate situation (i.e., no car, part-time job, etc).

He, like many, builds an ideology out of his situation, rather than becoming an individual, and seeking to get out of his situation. He might not succeed at first---but at least he's trying. It's the "trying" that's the most important thing.


Ian there a medium functioning ? Cause seems high functioning would be successful ones who became teachers, engineers or doctors. They had special skills. I’m a plain no skills aspie. Wish I could been blessed with painting or math or science skills.